To think my friend overreacted? Air BNB situation

Yes, this. You’re saying to her that she can’t be trusted to leave the toilet in a clean state. She’s a grown adult. It’s not like she’s an unreliable child, or someone who has previous form in leaving toilets in a bad way (I presume, or you’d have mentioned it). It’s very insulting to say to her “I don’t trust you to leave the toilet in a clean state so please go downstairs”. Very patronising.

You were totally unreasonable here and quite frankly condescending. You owe your friend an apology

So having the bedroom was different to having the sofa bed in the lounge then.

Wow, I can't believe the cheek of you, quite frankly. Regardless of the reason, if I wanted the better bedroom (or in this case, the only bedroom), I'd have offered to pay more straight away.
And if I was your friend, I'd have felt I couldn't really say no or ask to pay less if you'd cited the reason you needed the more comfortable facilties as 'health reasons'.
You behaved like an entitled princess and treated her like a naughty child- she deserves an apology from you.

So what? This doesn’t matter. Why are you ignoring your very poor behaviour? You treated your friend like someone who can’t be trusted to use a toilet. What difference did it make? If she made a mess in the downstairs loo, it would affect your rating just the same as the upstairs loo. It made zero difference. You just wanted to control the situation and have a chance to tell someone what to do. It was so so rude. You were so rude.
But it’s not just the controlling aspect of this, it’s the way you treated your friend like she couldn’t use a toilet cleanly. Do you see how insulting that is? Apologise for your behaviour.

I'd argue that people are focusing on the fact that you are an outrageous, unpleasant freak, but all you're taking from this is that some posters have mentioned that your friend got the raw end of the deal financially?

This is a 100% YABU. But I get the feeling OP will not admit it.

So you literally dictated to your friend which toilet she can use in a rental property? Fucking hell.

I would never, ever go away with you ever again.

People are focusing on the cost because you seem to think it was your place to dictate to your friend what toilet she was allowed to use when, after paying exactly the same for her stay as you did, she was fully entitled to use whichever loo she fancied. She paid an equal amount and had equal right to use all the facilities - therefore it wasn’t your place to give orders about where she should go.

your priorities are wrong if your air b&b rating is more important than the comfort and dignity of your friend.

If the sofa bed in the lounge was no different to you having the bedroom, why did you need the bedroom?

You’re completely avoiding the point every single person is making about how incredibly insulting you were to her. Send her a bunch of flowers. A big one.

YABU poor girl having to explain herself to you

People are focussing on the cost because a) you got the better deal and b) she paid half, and therefore has equal say in what facilities she uses.
Do you think your friend is the sort of person to leave the toilet visibly dirty? Because that’s basically what you were saying to her.

Not the point, but some people seem to lose sight of the fact that renting an Airbnb is an actual transaction in which money is exchanged for a service provided, and not actually a popularity contest in which you vie to be the cleanest nicest houseguest. I respect the properties and do no damage or harm. Beyond that, screw my rating.

I was thinking this exact thing! 🤣

You owe your friend an apology! The fact you made her clean whilst she was on holiday too is also you been unreasonable.

It doesn’t matter if it’s a professional cleaner or whether the property owner cleans it. It will still be cleaned before each guest. That is one of the services you’re paying for when you stay in one.

But this is irrelevant anyway, because even if you insist on cleaning the loo before you depart, one person using it and flushing it after that will not make any discernible difference. Your friend is an adult woman and was clearly not going to leave a toilet dirty. You are controlling, obsessive and weird.

Everyone has told you that you were awful to your friend. How about just taking that on board?

Your poor friend, you seem so controlling.

Why are you policing which toilet the poor women should use? Can you not see that is weird.

A grown woman should be capable of using the toilet and leaving it in the same condition she found it. No? A toilet doesn't need to be deep cleaned after every use.

There’s leaving it clean and tidy and then there’s being weird and trying to make it as clean and tidy as when you arrived. If that was the expectation they’d literally just change bedding and towels between guests.

You asked if you were being unreasonable yet are arguing the toss. Why bother asking? Unless you were hoping for a swathe of answers telling you you were absolutely in the right?….

Well they should. Or at least clean it to a professional standard. Bloody hell it's not a charity.

Honestly you can't go around telling adults what toilet to use. She paid for half the stay, she needed the toilet, she probably had a bad stomach and wanted some privacy. You sound fucking controlling. If you were a boyfriend I'd bin you lol.

Also you pay a cleaning fee for air BnB, while you don't leave the place a fucking tip, you also don't need to clean it as if somebody else is about to show up any second. They factor in the cleaner and changeover time. The cleaner will have seen much worse than a bit of blood or shit stains in the toilet.

You need to get a fucking grip

Use regular holiday properties, where you leave it tidy, empty the bins and strip the beds if they require that. But cleaning, nope.