Hi,
DP and I have been together for 4 years, he has one biological child, she’s 25 now. When we met she was living abroad, we believe in Lebanon or Jordan. She met a man from wherever she moved to at 18 while at uni, dropped out and moved with him, converted to Islam etc. She cut all ties with DP and her mum.
We found out recently she has moved back, some things aren’t clear, we know she has multiple children, we know she is back in her home town and we know she is heavily involved with the church in the town (maybe working for them we aren’t sure). We only know this as my DP still has a friend in the town (he left the town when we met). We aren’t clear on many things such as where the man she married is, if they are still married etc. We don’t know how many children she has or their ages etc. All we know from this friend is she is working for the church (Catholic) so we assume no longer practicing Islam and has children with her.
I’ve begged DP to reach out, I’ve found a Facebook page of hers which seems to have been last used in 2024 so she may still be using it. Otherwise we know the church she seems to be involved with and can go up and try and find her.
I have adult children of my own and I can’t imagine ever being in a position where this is the predicament but if I were I’d be on the first train to them and holding them so tight.
My DP is reluctant saying she would have reached out if she wanted to, and we need to give her space.
AIBU to be upset he hasn’t reached out? Should he?