Things in-laws do to annoy you.

Oh my god 😭 how on earth are they still alive??

It reminds me of that boy who died after eating pasta that had been sitting in the counter for like 6 days.

Trust me when you’re speaking a second language all day every day, it’s an enormous relief to finally just relax and speak your own.

I feel like you posted about this before though, or maybe someone in similar circumstances! Are they Italian?

Both passed away but loads…
when we stayed with them, never did anythjng, just sat in the dark watching tv, didn’t even speak. Then would constantly tell me how brilliant it must be for me to come and visit their city (and watch their tv?).
MIL had ridiculous ideas about rearing children and believed they should sleep 20 hours a day from birth and clean every plate ever given to them. Also I should give a 2 month old chocolate and it wouldn’t do any harm.
Processed food was much better and healthier than home made food.
MIL used to try and manipulate everyone by making up lies, it didn’t work and frequently backfired on her though.
They never went anywhere, ever. When DH was growing up they went on holiday (in U.K.) but didn’t go on day trips and actually hadn’t even seen most of their own city, some places a few minutes walk away. They hated visiting us as I would drag them out to places.
MIL hated the fact that we basically didn’t make exactly the same choices as her - different food, holidays, bed times, tv choices, sandwich fillings - all were deeply offensive to her for not being her basically.
MIL would fake cry about things, like a sob, over absolutely nothing and make out it was the end of the world. I can’t stand fake drama.
FIL was just hard work. All he ever wanted to do was go for a drink. When he’d had a drink he was the most irritating person alive.
too many for on bere.

MIL claiming she's not fussy with food, then refusing everything we've bought in for her visit and asking for random things like beef burgers for breakfast...you didn't request anything specific when asked so no you can't have burgers for breakfast!

Claiming to help us out before baby comes (due in two weeks) but then is waited on hand and foot by DH and treating our house like a holiday home.

Can never be on time or early for anything. Ever. Or claiming any activity that starts before 11am as "too early" even when it involves a two year old...

Knew she had to be ready for an 11.30 departure so has a bath (!!) at 11.15...

Sits reading (OUT LOUD to two year old DD) and laughing her head off at "This Is Going To Hurt" next to her heavily pregnant DIL...

She wants to come and "help" when the new baby arrives but if she a) sits on her arse reading her books or having baths, b) requests random food at all hours, and c) refuses to actually do any activities with DD because the groups are "too early", then I actually despair.

This is insane.

It’s probably the strangest thing I’ve read on MN in some time.

This is utterly 🤢🤢🤢

Are your DC not learning their GP language?
We do “one parent one language” with our DC.

According to Mumsnet, all an in-law has to do to annoy is exist. They should stay locked in a cupboard until they are required to baby sit.

If they’re old, it’s probably just easier for them to speak to each other in their native language, it’s not a slight against you.

My previous in-laws were evil and I can’t say I was sad when they died.

My current MIL is evil but we have no connection to her so it doesn’t actually impact me.

MIL always messages me (rather than husband) to remind me of upcoming birthdays for my husbands large family. Also keeps telling me she prefers my hair blonde when I’ve been brunette since 2019!

My in laws ring and then proceed to have a conversation between themselves while you’re on the phone.

If they ring and we don’t immediately answer they go into a huge panic/meltdown but if we try and call them we can not hear back for days.

They insist on saying they’ll help by doing things like driving us to the airport but will then be late so it’s stressful (we just say no to this now & just order a taxi).

Thus my entire generation is monolingual, because the wives objected to the husbands speaking their own language, given that their wives were present in the home most of the time.

Them being able to speak a second language isn’t the issue, knowingly speaking in a language you know others don’t understand, in their presence and especially in their own home is very rude.

They make no effort, so they do fuck all. I guess that's annoying.

Dirty dishes on the draining board is a new one to me…

Haven't seen mil for 10 years!!
Absolutely nothing to complain about!!

MIL indulges in extreme magic thinking, she thinks that if she believes in something enough it will come true.
For example she tries to force peoples relationships while claiming "they are so close"
She also thinks she can pretend things did/didn't happen by wishing it

My in-laws are genuinely lovely lovely people but they also say things that get on every tit I have got

Mataland
Duggnells (dunelm)
a-lately
pacifically
Bockle (bottle)
Lickle (little)
’we’ll borrow it you’ instead of lend
’i learned him how’ instead of ‘taught him how’
’he won him at Monopoly instead of he beat him.

and millions more.

when DS was little they straight away started saying ‘Gan-Gan’ instead of Granddad or ‘Choccy-choc’ instead of chocolate. It winds me off the clock!

Also, every Christmas, despite DH & I both DETESTING the stuff, they buy us every single variant of the shit Aldi baileys. I don’t like normal baileys so I definitely don’t want Mint Choc Chip baileys or Christmas Pudding Baileys.

Yup.

I was brought up monolingual, thanks to my father's friends' wives who objected to a foreign language being spoken in their house. (My mother wanted my father to teach me his language, but he was the last of his friendship group to marry and overly influenced by those who objected to a foreign language being spoken.)

Of my generation, I'm the only one who speaks a bit of the language: I had to learn the hard way, out of books. Such a missed opportunity: I'll never be fully bilingual.

What a silly comment. It’s rude to speak a language other people in your company don’t understand because you are excluding them from the conversation.
My ILs do it when they are visiting us. I speak their first language having lived in their country but my younger dcs don’t. As my DCs have got older they have got sick of it and leave table as soon as possible. I understand what my ILs say but they have a talent of making conversation about people I don’t know so I am still excluded. Dcs and I have learned to strike up alternative conversations of our own at the table.

They’re so gossipy, they gossip about anything and everything even if they’ve been told not to share things. His mum and step mum are the worst for it but even the men are like it, every time we see his dad he’s got new gossip and his little bro is more gossipy than my girl friends 😂 I don’t mind BILs gossip so much because it’s always interesting and I’ve learnt more about the family from his gossip than I have from them actually sharing things but sometimes he tells me things and I have to tell him I don’t think he should be sharing that. What pisses me off the most about it all is MIL will constantly slag off his step mum and vice versa, they despise each other, but if there’s gossip to share they suddenly become best friends!

It's rude to converse in a language not everyone understands.

Do you understand why it's rude?