Things in-laws do to annoy you.

Don't offer them a drink at your home, either. If they complain, feign innocence and respond "but I thought that, as you never offer us any drinks when we visit you, you're not really into the whole host and guest thing".

My mil will always reply to my instagram story commenting only on whichever child happens to be in the photo. She completely disregards me. She'll say 'oh Gorgeous Henry, so beautiful' etc instead of 'what a lovely photo of you both' etc
I wouldn't mind, but it's every single time.

Adding more credence to my feeling that she views me as just a womb.

Why don't you start your own feed, positing that very question, then?

Plenty have awful parents. Plenty have awful ILs. Some of us are lucky enough to have awful parents AND ILs!

The person who started the thread said "IN LAWS". Plus she is NOT either a FIL or a MIL. HTH. You ok because you sound a bit unhinged?

Ex fil and mil got on my nerves.
Expected to be waited on hand and foot, even when told it wasn’t convenient for him to turn up at meal times.
Would present DCs with chocolate Easter eggs just as their lunch was being served.
Would insist on buying crap DCs did not want or need. Never, ever asked what we or our DCs would like, yet mil would present us with a specific list of what fil wanted every single birthday and Christmas.
Fil telling us he didn’t like the gifts dcs had bought him from holiday, and where is my birthday present?
Telling us the Christmas presents his son and wife had bought him were rubbish, despite his son and wife on the brink of divorce.
Telling us (in front of my DCs) he was writing his son’s children out of his will once his son was divorced.
Mil always offering food to fil first- always. FIL taking exactly what he wanted with zero regard for anyone else. Eg 5 of us and 5 sandwiches, fil would take 2.
So glad I have nothing to do with them now. Mind you, neither does my ex.

Serious question: why are you 'triggered' by other people's animosity towards their ILs? Is it because:

a) you're a MIL* and have problems with your child or children's significant other(s), and as you see it you're utterly blameless?
b) you're not a MIL but your sibling's partner, or your partner, has issues with your mum, unfairly in your opinion.
c) you are a MIL and get along great with your DIL/Son IL, and you get along well with your MIL, and your partner gets on well with your mum.
d) you're not a MIL but still, you and your MIL, and everyone else for that matter, gets on well together (as above).
e) you're too young to have yet had a MIL and think your own parents get along fantastically with each others' families and can't possibly imagine others might experience things differently.

*Substitute MIL for FIL, SIL, BIL, all ILs etc as appropriate.

I'm so glad you clearly don't have a difficult or horrible MIL or FIL (or, assumedly, a difficult or horrible parent) who makes your and/or your partner's lives miserable. Millions on this planet do, including hundreds (thousands?) of those of us who use MN, so a little more sympathy and understanding from you towards those of us who're clearly at our wits' end with these negative people really wouldn't go amiss.

They’re more than welcome to, I’m sure there’s difficult DILs somewhere.

OMG that is Olympic level disgusting. What on earth could have been going through his head that he thought it would be OK to put a toilet roll covered in shit in your sink?

@saltwater1985Why on earth are you allowing them to then?!

My SIL expected me to pay for her horse vet bills. (Inherited horse off the mother in law when she passed.) Yet got arsey with me and threatened to punch me when I said no & questioned why her husband wasn’t helping her pay the bills.

Madness, I don’t speak to any of them anymore.

Eat all food at room temperature. Whatever the season, whatever the weather, indoors or outdoors, soup or sandwhich, Chirstmas lunch or chopped watermelon in peak summer temps - everything is eaten at room temperature.

And I know I'm the one being utterly ridiculous here but MIL is diabetic and has high blood pressure, so none of her food has sugar or salt in it. Sugar is fine...except she bakes cakes with 25% of the sugar the recipe calls for and definitely expects oohing and aahing. Salt - like, NOTHING she cooks has any salt in it. They don't have salt and pepper shakers in their house.

They are far too profligate with single-use plastic and paper good. They'll use a ziploc bag once and throw it away even though it contained something already in a plastic wrapper and is basically untouched. They'll use paper plates and plastic cutlery to save on washing up. I think it's a generational thing. They understand and believe in climate change; they don't see that their habits are contributing to it (albeit infinitesimally). They'll drive somewhere they would enjoy the walk to; take planes like they're buses; consume STUFF like it's going out of fashion. They're just too stuck in their ways to make any changes.

Well, OP said in laws.

But I think most people forgive their own parents more as they love them and have a connection to them. While I am sure that many people do genuinely love their parents in law, it’s not the same as your own parents.

I certainly don’t feel the same way about my FIL as I do about my own dad, and that’s okay. I’d forgive my dad a hell of a lot more than FIL as I love my dad. I don’t love my FIL.

I would not expect my son’s fiancé to feel the same way about me as she does her own mother, ever.

Can it only be inlaws? What about our own families? Are inlaws a special breed?

Because most posters on here are female so it's much more likely for a MIL than FIL to post. HTH.

I have a list but i`ll keep it short ex mil years back.

1. lets cats eat and lick of plates and cups.
2. cats walking all over the kitchen sides.
3. Filth mess and clutter and the smell of cat shit.
4. Tried to control everything.
5. Never wrong even if proven wrong.
6. Cats again none stop talking about fucking cats.
7. Hate people if they had a penny more than them.
8. Her kids were never in the wrong never done wrong never the blame.
9. She loves to lie infact she believes her own lies. Oh and hated me. So pleased i walked away.

The thread isn't about female in laws, it's about IN LAWS. No idea why you had to make it about women,

Way to miss OP's point.

No the draining board thing! My DP and his whole family do this (that's if they ever try to put thier own cups in the kitchen).
The draining board is right above the dishwasher too, I just don't get it. Drives me nuts.

I love them both but neither of them will admit they need a hearing aid so I’m constantly shouting and they have the TV on super loud. Also MIL always buys me really cringy live laugh love style signs. I do put them up when she comes but I do not have the heart or balls to tell her I don’t live laugh love them :(.

If you can speak the same language as your host it would be polite to do so.

My MIL likes to tell me about my FIL’s latest bowel movements.

”Derek was terribly constipated this morning”

😖

My (thankfully now ex) MIL cannot tell a story without saying "wasn't it Keven", "Didn't I Keven", "Haven't you Keven" throughout the entire thing.

IT DROVE ME MAD

So they’re fine for free childcare, but nothing else?

Interested to hear all of the behaviour on this thread that you think is perfectly reasonable, it must be a lot of it for you to write off the entire thread?