To ask what the most BRILLIANT advice/suggestion you've seen on here is?

It's the crap men come out with when they're deliberately sabotaging their relationship. Invariably they turn out to be cheats. It involves much lying, gaslighting, emotional manipulation, etc

LTB

Great thread. I love the Grey Rock idea, but am wondering what The Script is. Is it a Mumsnet thing or is it from a self help book?

Haven't read whole thread so someone else might have answered, but just in case: D Mannose available from lots of places, including Boots, just google it. I get mine here: https://tinyurl.com/yju2m92c
It's a type of naturally occurring sugar whose molecular structure locks on to the cystitis-related bacteria in the bladder, making it easier for you to wee it away the next time you empty your bladder. There'll be dosage guidance on the packaging but you can't overdose as it's not a pharmaceutical, it's just sugar. I take as frequently as I feel I need it.
For the first one or two doses, try not to drink too much water (counter intuitive when you have cystitis, I realise), so you give it enough time in the bladder to lock on to the bacteria (ie so you're not wee-ing out too quickly before it can work, or diluting it too much in the bladder).

Ok probably stupid question but why does horizontal bloc of ice make a difference. Thanks

I’d love to say “yes of course I do” but sadly I don’t.

my only defence is that I’m neurodivergent and take things very literally. So label on the duvet tells me that’s the bottom because why would is go anywhere else?

turns out, as of 2 minutes ago, that is absolutely not the case!!!

I haven't had time to read all posts but I will. It is a brilliant thread. Maybe my choice has been mentioned.

Mine is and always will be 'eat Maltesers from a tall mug whilst standing in the kitchen'.
Everyone will assume its a drink.

Other sweets available 😁

Mumsnet has also taught me many life skills and also about emotional boundaries.
Not just about sneaky sweet eating.

I don't understand all these people with duvet confusion. Don't you just lay it over your bed then place the cover on top to check you have both lined up correctly before making your bed up. Would you not realise straight away when one side is bunched and the other too spaced that you didn't have the longer and shorter sides aligned?!

Ok this is the naffest sentence in the world but I was literally today years old when I realised about the duvet in a duvet cover.

and it’s a super king. I was even getting cross this morning about why I constantly has no duvet in my duvet cover over me - and accused DH of pinching it all.

it was the wrong way round inside the cover. FML - the bloody label I always thought was on the bottom of the duvet.

it apoears not. Took it out the cover and laid is across the bed the other way.

mind blown. At 48 years old

@IOYOYO if you go over to the Mounjaro threads there is a lot of info there, do have a read there.

What a great thread!

I don't have waterproof sheets but when my kids were young if they were looking peaky I would lay them on one towel on top of the sheet and put another over the pillow. Then in the night you would just strip the towels off and replace them and not have to change the bed (and you could fit a couple of sets in the wash!)

Reading a lot of the threads on here circa 6-7yrs back made me realise that it was actually ok to put in clear boundaries, stick to them, and look to LTB (at least "get ducks in a row"!)...even in a marriage (my upbringing was traditional: divorce was frowned on and you stayed married until death...unless your DH was beating you up). Reading PointyThings (I'm sure it was her - my brain is fried after a busy day at work!) thread about her alcoholic XH really resonated with me, and all the help/advice she got, helped me unpick my own feelings about how shit everything was...and gave me my confidence back. Before I was ground down, I wouldn't have put up with shit from anyone. The numerous threads I read, when I couldn't talk to anyone IRL really helped. Reading about Grey Rock, The Script, gas lighting, trauma bonding etc etc was literally life changing.

Robovacs!! I read about them here and then got one (and then another!). Game changers for me. They mop and vacuum my floors daily.

Storing bedlinen in a pillowcase.

I can't remember where I got this tip from but...similar to the tip about using gift bags for wrapping pressies. I started saving the drawstring gift bags that gifts from Amazon came wrapped in. I'm so lazy that I even saved the gift tags on them. I keep and re-use these for wrapping presents in. If I need to alter what is written on a gift tag, I just stick over a plain sticky label and write on it. Cannot tell you how much time/faff this saves!! I still keep wrapping paper at home, but only do this for when we give presents for other people.

FWIW, I didn't realise the sizing of my KS quilt wasn't quite square until I read it on this thread. Whoops! I've got a wool duvet (kingsize), which I've kept as it was bloody expensive (even though I've downsized my bed to a double). I thought I was going nuts when it didn't quite fit into the cover (kingsize). So thank you to whoever pointed that out! I'm tempted to get coverless duvets for the DCs, but I'll think about it

I’ve been reading this thread over the last 2 evenings, so far I’ve screenshot the homemade UTI advice, turned my kingsize duvet the right way round in its cover (!!!) added frozen mash to my weekly shop and am seriously contemplating mounjaro.

On the subject of the latter - I assume everyone raving about it has used an online private pharmacy? It’s not offered in my area on the NHS, though I do fufill the criteria with my bmi. I gained a lot of weight after starting SSRI’s for v bad PND. They have saved me, but I can’t shift the weight despite increasing exercise and moderating my diet. I’ve been feeling very down about it and worry about my health long term and as I enter peri-menopause.

Idahoan is the range. Brilliant mash. Always have several packets handy.

I love Bunny Lake is Missing. I have it on DVD somewhere. I hope it is a good as I remember.

Nope, me too! Since menopause I just can’t drink, the tiniest bit gives me a raging hangover. Did I lose weight? No. Do I feel better for it? No. I haven’t started guzzling pop or anything instead. So when I read about the health benefits of being teetotal, I laugh, my spare tires laugh, then we cry 😂😂😂

I'm bemused by the duvet sizing, how have I not noticed for 20 years that king size wasn't square!! I just thought it bunched because I wriggle a lot!

This place has seen me through most major life events. I'm sure there's tons of useful advice, but just to add to the frozen mash - frozen chopped onions and even better frozen chopped onions, celery and carrot mix.

It’s after the film 😁 I watched it many year’s ago as a child and it always stuck with me.

Funnily enough - re your username, I love sushi!! (Although I actually prefer sashimi but that might make me sound a bit posh, which I’m not) 😁

You can get from Amazon, or this website
www.sweetcures.co.uk

The dosage will vary with the brand

I put my car keys or glasses in with my lunch sometimes so I don't forget my lunch

The shoe in the safe thing is an old tip, not nonsense. I've not used it but you're unlikely to leave without a pair!

And I expect they didn't get through passport control and had to turn back.

but then how much overall do they have invested ? plus the stock market is no different than a casino

been watching the show billions

Since Trump got in I think everyone should be hugely wary of investing.

An acquaintance recently lost £200,000 after Trump announced his tariffs…

"Feels odd talking about this in April!"

yet soon be ho ho ho