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How to explain to DH how tired I am in early pregnancy

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Jeanshort · 22/04/2025 11:25

Currently 8 weeks pregnant with DC2, have DC1 who has just turned 1. I am so exhausted, I work full time and DC1 is so full on! In the evenings I just want to sleep but have to still do cleaning, cooking etc. DC1 gets up between 5.30 and 6 and I always seem to be the one to go to them even though if I go back upstairs a bit later to get a nappy or clothes or whatever DH is literally laying in bed on his phone.

How do I communicate to DH how tired I am? I don’t think I can go on like this. Any time I say how exhausted I am, he just says ‘yeah me too’ and carries on like normal. Has anyone successfully communicated to their partners how exhausting early pregnancy is?

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ClaudiusTheGod · 22/04/2025 11:28

Omg another lazy tosser. Show him this thread.

overtothere · 22/04/2025 11:28

'Husband, I'm pregnant, working full time and looking after our child. I'm not coping and won't be doing any cooking or cleaning for a couple of weeks, possibly longer but we'll see how it goes. I'm profoundly exhausted and will be going to bed after work, so you need to do it'.

ForZanyAquaViewer · 22/04/2025 11:28

I think most people who aren’t with selfish arseholes don’t actually need to communicate that. It’s common sense. Super basic.

Even if you weren’t pregnant, you shouldn’t be doing all cooking, cleaning and wake ups. Why are you?

Emma543 · 22/04/2025 11:28

Pregnancy is exhausting!
what’s he contributing? Just from your post it sounds like a big discrepancy in the share of household jobs and childcare.

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Jeanshort · 22/04/2025 11:27

2024onwardsandup · 22/04/2025 11:26

Why is it you doing the cooking and the cleaning?

Because like I said DH doesn’t seem to understand how tired I am. He doesn’t believe cleaning needs to be done and tells me to just leave it but obviously I don’t want DC to grow up in a dirty house.

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2024onwardsandup · 22/04/2025 11:26

Why is it you doing the cooking and the cleaning?