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Pinkbleach · 2025-04-22T09:49:20+00:00

To get straight into it - I get my children 10 Easter eggs each every Easter . When I started it years ago , it was very cheap. I don’t get the huge ones . Years ago I could get one or 2 big ( the ones that are now medium ) and then the little ones ( they had more packaging and more in them ) and I would spend £20. It all stems from my son’s autism , he is a young adult now. I’ve always said that birthday and Christmas is at least 10 presents and 10 eggs at Easter . It’s usually more at Christmas but it has became a security thing - he knows he’s getting at least 10 presents ( he does not care about the price , he’s not spoiled . I could get his main present and then 9 things from the pound shop ) . I have had comments about it being too much . I don’t get gifts and balloon arches or anything like that. My youngest never eats them all , he barely touches them and we eat a lot of them 🤣 but I can’t get him less. Usually at the end of half term we melt the uneaten eggs and make cakes - so that’s an activity for a day of the holidays - , the uneaten chocolates all end up in a box for anyone to have. For info - this is what I spent. I got 2 of the “ 2 for £9” eggs , the bigger ones. So they have one each of those. Usually I get some medium and some small but as the small were £1.50 ( and I left it late so couldn’t find any anyway) but the medium were £2.30 in Asda I didn’t bother with the small. So I then got 4 for £12 ( 2 each ) then they had 7 each of the £2.30 ones . I spent £53 in total , so £26.50 each . Usually it’s less as I grab the smaller ones when they’re on offer in Morrisons , it just happened that I left it late this year. Yes, it’s a lot on chocolate . But I see people getting hampers and balloons etc . Is this really over the top ?

ShortColdandGrey · 22/04/2025 12:14

I have to admit I went a bit OTT this year but it was due to me being a bit too organised. I kept picking up eggs while they were reduced and forgot I had already bought some. I kept finding wee bags of eggs on Sunday morning. So the egg hunt was fun. My daughter asked if the Easter Bunny thought it was Christmas. My husband restocked his treat box and my chocoholic brother went home with a great stash of eggs 😂I found a box of 5 cream eggs last night and I hope that is the last of them haha

DidYouEverGoBack · 22/04/2025 12:13

OP, I think you need to look at the reasons why you feel the need to justify yourself, because you really don’t have to.

Whatever you do in life, someone will judge, you will never please everyone so just please yourself and your loved ones.

Iloveanicegarden · 22/04/2025 12:13

LoveIndubitably · 22/04/2025 10:53

Obviously it's a lot but you're not buying them for the same reason as most others - to give to eat - you're doing it to fulfil a (rather arbitrary! ) promise you made when he was small, and presumably that still matters to him.

If you can afford it then it's not really an issue.

As he gets older I wonder if you could include "and we give to 10 charities/food bank items" as well? (If you can afford £1 to 10 places etc! ) Not scolding or judging or anything, just might be a nice thing to introduce. Or 10 things to charity shop.

Saying that you are donating to charities etc is kind of virtue signalling in my view. If the child is empathetic ( not usually a characteristic of small children) then fine. We've spent ridiculous amounts of small items I thought the children would like at Christmas, and veritable mountains of eggs for a gimormous hunt at Easter. As the children have grown up our pressies now are more financial, but less in total as we give to chariities more. My DH decided to give this as a reason when I was not looking to give an explanation. What good did it serve? What could they say?

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Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 12:13

mummyh2016 · 22/04/2025 12:04

OP I voted YABU but honestly thinking about it I would definitely buy this many eggs if it would prevent a meltdown for an autistic child.

Thank you . That’s what it is . It’s more than just having an obscene amount of chocolate

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Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 12:12

caringcarer · 22/04/2025 12:10

I think it all sounds ridiculous but if the kid needs 10 eggs he'd be getting 9 Cadburys creme eggs and one large egg. Are both DC autistic?

No just my eldest .

crème eggs aren’t Easter eggs .

There isn’t a massive difference in price for a crime egg or a small Easter egg . In fact if you get them in the sale , they’re the same price .

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DidYouEverGoBack · 22/04/2025 12:11

caringcarer · 22/04/2025 12:10

I think it all sounds ridiculous but if the kid needs 10 eggs he'd be getting 9 Cadburys creme eggs and one large egg. Are both DC autistic?

Try reading OPs posts as she explains why this wouldn’t work.

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Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 12:11

CeaselesslyIntoThePast · 22/04/2025 11:46

My word, no wonder child obesity is so high.

He doesn’t eat them all.

I know of an autistic person who has to have 3 crates of bottled pop ( not cans , and a specific sized bottle ) in her room at any time. She asks for new ones as birthday and Christmas presents ) . She does not drink any fizzy pop .

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caringcarer · 22/04/2025 12:10

I think it all sounds ridiculous but if the kid needs 10 eggs he'd be getting 9 Cadburys creme eggs and one large egg. Are both DC autistic?

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Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 12:06

LittleLabrador · 22/04/2025 12:04

I don’t think you should worry OP. It’s just chocolate and it keeps your son calm.

next time I’d go for those little Cadbury eggs that are about £2 - the Easter egg ones but the smallest boxes you can get like dairy milk caramel or mini egg.

mine got about 7 each and it is a lot but they’ll eat them over the next few months and we’ll all survive and my children won’t turn into enormous ungrateful brats with no teeth.

do what works for you and your family and don’t worry about it

Usually I do , but the bigger ones were £2.30 anyway and it saved me going around multiple shops

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Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 12:06

MrsSunshine2b · 22/04/2025 11:53

Gently, this is a ridiculous amount to spend, especially when you're paying for the chocolate to be in an egg shape and then melting it down anyway!

£53 on overpriced poor quality chocolate in a novelty shape is a waste whereas £53 on a hamper might well not be. My daughter got 1 egg, and her Easter basket had things like craft activities, a kite, and outdoor toys which will keep her occupied for months and encourage her to go outside, rather than just a vast mountain of chocolate she can't eat and I wouldn't want her to eat if she could.

If your oldest needs 10 eggs then you can get 10 eggs for a lot less. You can get Creme, Lindt or Kinder eggs that are the size of an actual egg, and they might have half a chance of getting eaten. Your youngest clearly doesn't need 10 eggs and it sounds like it's more about a compulsion that you have rather than the children.

The little eggs aren’t Easter eggs though and that’s how he sees it .

I could get a hamper - but it would be meaningless to him . He’s a young adult , he doesn’t do arts and crafts etc . So that would t get used either. So either way , I would be spending the same and not everything being used but getting the eggs keeps him calm and happy . It’s not even about money to me , it’s his well being.

My youngest absolutely doesn’t need 10 eggs . He also wouldn’t use a hamper . I get him 10, because as a sibling of an autistic person he does suffer in a way. We have to work around his needs , so I do not want him coming down to 3 eggs ( the amount he would probably eat max ) whilst there is a pile of 10 for his brother. I do think as he gets older I’ll probably just give him the choice - does he want all those eggs , or would he like a small amount of cash instead etc .

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LittleLabrador · 22/04/2025 12:04

I don’t think you should worry OP. It’s just chocolate and it keeps your son calm.

next time I’d go for those little Cadbury eggs that are about £2 - the Easter egg ones but the smallest boxes you can get like dairy milk caramel or mini egg.

mine got about 7 each and it is a lot but they’ll eat them over the next few months and we’ll all survive and my children won’t turn into enormous ungrateful brats with no teeth.

do what works for you and your family and don’t worry about it

mummyh2016 · 22/04/2025 12:04

OP I voted YABU but honestly thinking about it I would definitely buy this many eggs if it would prevent a meltdown for an autistic child.

RedSkyDelights · 22/04/2025 12:01

Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 11:53

I am interested - it seems it is extravagant. I’m not going to change what I do , that wasn’t the point of the post . But maybe it will stop me being defensive if people tell me it’s extravagant .

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You could buy your child 1 creme egg and some people would still think it was extravagant. Own your decision. You are sure this is the right thing for you / your child so say "yes, it's a lot of chocolate, but worth it for us".

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Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 12:01

Gundogday · 22/04/2025 11:57

Ten eggs does sound a lot, but actually if there’s only one large one, and the rest are small, that’s not so bad, although seven of the £2.30 is quite a lot.

I wouldn’t usually get 7 of those - they would usually be those £1.50 ones ( that go to 75p in Morrisons in the run up ) but I left it late , Asda had none of them . I thought paying an extra 80p each - so around £10 extra total - was worth it to allow me to just get them all at once and out of the way.

It was a good thing I did as over the week I went to a few supermarkets and noticed I didn’t see any of the little ones aside from a few random milky bar ones . The only place o saw these little ones that weren’t milky bar, were in my local newsagent and they were £2.50 each !

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DidYouEverGoBack · 22/04/2025 11:59

You need to stop caring what other people think. Why do you care? I buy my children whatever I want and it’s no one else’s business.

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Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 11:58

MissDoubleU · 22/04/2025 11:52

I also still struggle greatly in adulthood to distinguish anxiety and excitement and I don’t like surprises either! So I absolutely understand this. My DP does still like to surprise me for my birthday but he will say something like, “I’ve gotten you a record from the list of albums you would like to own on vinyl” then the surprise is which one, rather than that it could be anything.

A present not being a surprise at all, in my opinion, is a very reasonable adjustment to make. Even as OP said, her sticking to ten presents I do not think is unreasonable when she says that those presents can be big or small. It gives the child an element of control and expectation that absolutely makes it easier.

If this extended in the same way to Easter (IE: 10 items for Easter. 3 large eggs, 2 small, a Lindt bunny, a bag of mini eggs, a cream egg ECT.) then this would also be reasonable. Where it becomes unreasonable is the child dictating that it must be 10 of the large full Easter eggs. That then translates to needing ten presents at Christmas, each just as big/exciting/expensive as the last.

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It’s not 10 big eggs - it’s 10 Easter eggs . So an egg in a box . I don’t just get 10 small and he is used to that , but realistically I could . Usually I’ll get some of the others because the little ones don’t have chocolate bars . But not small hollow eggs . They have to be in a box to be considered Easter eggs to him.

He did ask this year if he could have one of the really large ones ( £10-15 ones ) . I said no . Even if I could afford that I wouldn’t , as I get myself committed to that each year then. I said he could have one but then he wouldn’t have 10 eggs . He chose to buy himself one, before Easter , then shared it with everyone . He also told me it was a rip off 🤣

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Gundogday · 22/04/2025 11:57

Ten eggs does sound a lot, but actually if there’s only one large one, and the rest are small, that’s not so bad, although seven of the £2.30 is quite a lot.

MrsSunshine2b · 22/04/2025 11:53

Gently, this is a ridiculous amount to spend, especially when you're paying for the chocolate to be in an egg shape and then melting it down anyway!

£53 on overpriced poor quality chocolate in a novelty shape is a waste whereas £53 on a hamper might well not be. My daughter got 1 egg, and her Easter basket had things like craft activities, a kite, and outdoor toys which will keep her occupied for months and encourage her to go outside, rather than just a vast mountain of chocolate she can't eat and I wouldn't want her to eat if she could.

If your oldest needs 10 eggs then you can get 10 eggs for a lot less. You can get Creme, Lindt or Kinder eggs that are the size of an actual egg, and they might have half a chance of getting eaten. Your youngest clearly doesn't need 10 eggs and it sounds like it's more about a compulsion that you have rather than the children.

Caerulea · 22/04/2025 11:53

Simplynotsimple · 22/04/2025 11:38

Ah so your autistic child isn’t like the OP’s, so obviously that’s the standard set for every autistic individual.

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Exactly this. My 16yo autistic son is obsessed with the hunt part - the puzzle element. He probably wouldn't much care about there being chocolate at each step. In the week prior he's constantly on at me about if I've done the clues yet.

Quite honestly I imagine I'll still be doing this in decades time, just like my parents do for their grandkids - but just one egg at the end.

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Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 11:53

RedSkyDelights · 22/04/2025 11:50

I think 10 eggs is a lot.
But there are plenty of children from large extended families who probably get that many or more by the time that aunts, uncles, grandparents, family friends have chipped in.
So if your DC is also getting more eggs from other people that is definitely a large number.

But if you are convinced that your DS needs this to manage his routine, then go for it. I'm just not sure why you are posting for opinions if you are not actually interested in them. I would personally make it one small egg and 9 small "easter egg hunt" sized eggs, or simply reduce the number, and work on helping him manage the change (you have months to do this before next Easter), but I am not you and don't know your child.

I am interested - it seems it is extravagant. I’m not going to change what I do , that wasn’t the point of the post . But maybe it will stop me being defensive if people tell me it’s extravagant .

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MissDoubleU · 22/04/2025 11:52

Spanglemum02 · 22/04/2025 11:42

This is really interesting MissDoubleU. My children (now nearly adult) are autistic and they still have trouble distinguishing between anxiety and excitement. So Christmas and Birthday presents are not surprises. I cam see what you're saying though, these things don't have to be unchangeable.

Thank you.

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I also still struggle greatly in adulthood to distinguish anxiety and excitement and I don’t like surprises either! So I absolutely understand this. My DP does still like to surprise me for my birthday but he will say something like, “I’ve gotten you a record from the list of albums you would like to own on vinyl” then the surprise is which one, rather than that it could be anything.

A present not being a surprise at all, in my opinion, is a very reasonable adjustment to make. Even as OP said, her sticking to ten presents I do not think is unreasonable when she says that those presents can be big or small. It gives the child an element of control and expectation that absolutely makes it easier.

If this extended in the same way to Easter (IE: 10 items for Easter. 3 large eggs, 2 small, a Lindt bunny, a bag of mini eggs, a cream egg ECT.) then this would also be reasonable. Where it becomes unreasonable is the child dictating that it must be 10 of the large full Easter eggs. That then translates to needing ten presents at Christmas, each just as big/exciting/expensive as the last.

SideshowBobster · 22/04/2025 11:51

If it is just about the number, I got a bag of small, hollow chocolate eggs, so just like Easter eggs but the size of Creme Eggs from Lidl for a couple of quid. There was definitely way more than 10 in there as I split them between 3 kids, and they had 8 or so each. And if your child barely eats them anyway, you've saved a fortune there if you buy them.

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Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 11:51

GasPanic · 22/04/2025 11:11

Most parents aren't in your position and find it difficult to identify with it. Most parents think 10 easter eggs is far too much.

OTOH I am willing to bet that if most parents were given the offer of having a perfectly well behaved child for a year and the price was buying 10 easter eggs then they would do it in an instant.

So you are generally going to get 2 types of people. Those who can't imagine that this is a worthwhile exercise based on their own experiences of kids without special needs. And those that can based on their own experiences of kids with special needs.

You aren't going to be any the wiser asking the opinions and hoping for the approval of the masses on this sort of question. The only person you need to justify your behaviour to is yourself.

Thank you .

Yes , this is it. It saves a lot of stress and upset.

Im not a “ woe is me “ person but it’s bloody hard . Some things aren’t about money but about keeping the peace.

He recently had a full meltdown - a bad one - around his birthday . I paid £75 for a cake ( milestone birthday ) I only do non shop bought cakes on milestone birthdays. The previous one was very good - it was fully decorated to a theme , think items made out of icing etc . I used a different baker , cried at the price , when I got it it was a plain cake ( beautiful don’t get me wrong ) but not decorated at all just some cardboard print outs on sticks stuck on the top. When he saw it I could see him trying to regulate , it was different to the ones he was used to … he could “ eat “ the pictures usually . He got really upset, then he was upset that he was being ‘ungrateful’ which led to a total meltdown. The week after he had a party and I got a different cake - a photo cake from Asda , he could ‘eat’ the picture . It cost me £10 . He loved it. So this shows me it’s not about cost or being spoilt - the cake was not what he expected and then when it happened with no warning he didn’t know how to deal with it or express it.

So , getting 10 eggs to save that is worth it to me

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Simplynotsimple · 22/04/2025 11:51

Cucy · 22/04/2025 11:43

I think 10 Easter eggs is absolutely madness.

It’s way too much chocolate (I say that as an chocoholic) and you’re paying through the nose for something that is so commercial.

I can’t imagine having 10 eggs lined up, it must look like Christmas or something.

I would definitely find ways to reduce this number.
I’m not sure why you set this rule anyway as of course it’s going to be hard to break for anyone, let alone for an autistic person.

If you’re happy to continue this then carry on but I do think it’s one of the maddest things I’ve read on here lol.

It’s 10 chocolate eggs, not 10kg of cocaine. The overreaction on this thread is borderline hilarious. ‘Maddest thing I’ve read on here’, you must only open the tamest of threads.

RedSkyDelights · 22/04/2025 11:50

I think 10 eggs is a lot.
But there are plenty of children from large extended families who probably get that many or more by the time that aunts, uncles, grandparents, family friends have chipped in.
So if your DC is also getting more eggs from other people that is definitely a large number.

But if you are convinced that your DS needs this to manage his routine, then go for it. I'm just not sure why you are posting for opinions if you are not actually interested in them. I would personally make it one small egg and 9 small "easter egg hunt" sized eggs, or simply reduce the number, and work on helping him manage the change (you have months to do this before next Easter), but I am not you and don't know your child.