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This amount of Easter eggs

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Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 10:49

To get straight into it - I get my children 10 Easter eggs each every Easter .

When I started it years ago , it was very cheap. I don’t get the huge ones . Years ago I could get one or 2 big ( the ones that are now medium ) and then the little ones ( they had more packaging and more in them ) and I would spend £20.

It all stems from my son’s autism , he is a young adult now. I’ve always said that birthday and Christmas is at least 10 presents and 10 eggs at Easter . It’s usually more at Christmas but it has became a security thing - he knows he’s getting at least 10 presents ( he does not care about the price , he’s not spoiled . I could get his main present and then 9 things from the pound shop ) .

I have had comments about it being too much . I don’t get gifts and balloon arches or anything like that. My youngest never eats them all , he barely touches them and we eat a lot of them 🤣 but I can’t get him less. Usually at the end of half term we melt the uneaten eggs and make cakes - so that’s an activity for a day of the holidays - , the uneaten chocolates all end up in a box for anyone to have.

For info - this is what I spent.

I got 2 of the “ 2 for £9” eggs , the bigger ones. So they have one each of those. Usually I get some medium and some small but as the small were £1.50 ( and I left it late so couldn’t find any anyway) but the medium were £2.30 in Asda I didn’t bother with the small. So I then got 4 for £12 ( 2 each ) then they had 7 each of the £2.30 ones . I spent £53 in total , so £26.50 each . Usually it’s less as I grab the smaller ones when they’re on offer in Morrisons , it just happened that I left it late this year.

Yes, it’s a lot on chocolate . But I see people getting hampers and balloons etc .

Is this really over the top ?

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pinkingshears · 22/04/2025 22:14

Simplynotsimple · 22/04/2025 11:38

Ah so your autistic child isn’t like the OP’s, so obviously that’s the standard set for every autistic individual.

I had a thread about a month ago, about my Autistic 17 y/o being bullied at school. I got some helpful responses but quite a few saying I was 'over protective' as 'they knew an Autistic kid who wasn't like that' etc. I was going to do an update (as it spiralled into a genuinely disablist nightmare & no help from school but decided there was no point). My response is always: 'if you've met one person with Autism, you've net one person with autism'. OP - my Ds is 20 & ASD & likes a pile of inexpensive gifts (in the same place & time) as when he was little. I could force a change but he'd be really upset. Your 10 eggs is just fine & I hope you had a lovely Easter x

Bearbookagainandagain · 22/04/2025 20:37

@Pinkbleach You just need to look for bigger packs as opposed to buying different sizes here and there.
I got mine from hotel Chocolat and M&S, it ended up half the price you paid! And they definitely had at least 10 each.
I did get the HC ones on sales in advance, but otherwise I just went the week before Easter.

littleHen84 · 22/04/2025 20:35

Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 20:31

I totally get that ! Our holidays have to be pre planned - to an extent - so he knows what we’re doing each day.

I also find going away on holidays really hard too - the day of a holiday will almost always result in some kind of sensory overload or meltdown . He’s always happy to be going and excited but he tends to then begin focusing on any negative in his life and I truly believe that’s because he’s unsure if he’s feeling excitement or anxiety , because the physical feelings are the same. He enjoys the holiday but always seems a bit on edge . Coming home is never an issue as he’s going back to structure. It must be horrible to feel like that - to want to enjoy something then end up feeling that way . Breaks my heart .

Yeah I totally get that, and think your right re feelings and not being sure how to decipher, we haven’t tried a holiday in the last few years. The last one we went on lasted 18 hours before we came home, it was too much and we had prepped loads but sometimes I think admitting defeat and retreating to safety is the only option 😂. Life can be a series of micro managing can’t it but they become so ingrained you forget.

Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 20:31

littleHen84 · 22/04/2025 20:14

some times people don’t understand the stress that holidays and occasions can bring to our children, the predictability of knowing what to expect in whatever shape or form wins every time. My child struggles with all the high days and holidays and every half term we do the same activities on the same days because it helps and it works 😊

I totally get that ! Our holidays have to be pre planned - to an extent - so he knows what we’re doing each day.

I also find going away on holidays really hard too - the day of a holiday will almost always result in some kind of sensory overload or meltdown . He’s always happy to be going and excited but he tends to then begin focusing on any negative in his life and I truly believe that’s because he’s unsure if he’s feeling excitement or anxiety , because the physical feelings are the same. He enjoys the holiday but always seems a bit on edge . Coming home is never an issue as he’s going back to structure. It must be horrible to feel like that - to want to enjoy something then end up feeling that way . Breaks my heart .

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littleHen84 · 22/04/2025 20:14

Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 20:00

Thank you ❤️

some times people don’t understand the stress that holidays and occasions can bring to our children, the predictability of knowing what to expect in whatever shape or form wins every time. My child struggles with all the high days and holidays and every half term we do the same activities on the same days because it helps and it works 😊

Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 20:00

littleHen84 · 22/04/2025 18:25

I get it totally, I have an Autistic little boy and some of the routines and things we do are similar, honestly don’t give it a second thought you sound lovely for making it happen and in the world we live in if that brings joy so be it x

Thank you ❤️

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Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 19:59

daffodildreamers · 22/04/2025 18:17

Go for it! If it makes him happy and makes your life easier then definitely do it. I spend ridiculous amounts of money (and we are on a low income) making life easier for my autistic children. They’ve been dealt a tough hand so why not do something that helps them? It’s not as though they’re huge eggs and he’s eating them all and he’s morbidly obese. Personally I think you’re doing a great job. I’ve seen so many autistic children struggle because their parents don’t “get it”. Sounds to me like you’re a great mum doing a great job.

Thank you . It is refreshing to hear that some people do understand .

some of the things we do are insane. But they help him and he struggles so much it breaks my heart , I just want to do everything I can to make his life easier .

I wouldn’t do things that i couldn’t always keep to and there are times that i have to say no . But there are certain things i do to make it easier .

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Blondeshavemorefun · 22/04/2025 19:48

Lyannaa · 22/04/2025 17:58

They’ve eaten the chocolate that comes with the egg and half of the shell 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m impressed with their restraint 😂

MumToad · 22/04/2025 19:25

Sofiewoo · 22/04/2025 10:52

I just don’t see the point in buying kids more chocolate than they can physically eat.

I get my kids baskets with little eggs, chocolate bunnies, spring themed pjs, books, soft toys, stickers etc. I don’t really care whether someone thinks that’s over the top or not, I much prefer carefully selected things I know they will like and play with than a mountain of chocolate.

I am exactly the same. We love Easter and chocolate eggs are usually turned into Brownies in September. So little Toads get lovingly selected little things. Books, hair clips, mug, a game for the garden, plant seeds etc.
Most people think that I am over the top. But as I don’t ask anyone else to pay towards my so called over the top escapades I am very happy to do so. My daughter appreciates every gift amd is a generous giver herself.
So I would say OP you egg yourself out 10x over.

littleHen84 · 22/04/2025 18:25

Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 11:02

This is exactly it! There are things that become routine and breaking that routine could do more harm than good . He will be really excited / anxious the night before Easter , then he runs down in the morning and looks at his eggs , counts them and that’s it . He’s calm then , Easter was as expected . He will nibble on them , I’ve never known him to actually finish an egg - a nibble then on to the next .

In a world that is confusing and difficult for him I will do whatever it takes to keep him calm and feeling safe in situations I can control

I get it totally, I have an Autistic little boy and some of the routines and things we do are similar, honestly don’t give it a second thought you sound lovely for making it happen and in the world we live in if that brings joy so be it x

daffodildreamers · 22/04/2025 18:17

Go for it! If it makes him happy and makes your life easier then definitely do it. I spend ridiculous amounts of money (and we are on a low income) making life easier for my autistic children. They’ve been dealt a tough hand so why not do something that helps them? It’s not as though they’re huge eggs and he’s eating them all and he’s morbidly obese. Personally I think you’re doing a great job. I’ve seen so many autistic children struggle because their parents don’t “get it”. Sounds to me like you’re a great mum doing a great job.

Lyannaa · 22/04/2025 17:58

Oh they are 16 and 5 (the 21 year old didn’t want one).

Lyannaa · 22/04/2025 17:58

Blondeshavemorefun · 22/04/2025 16:12

How old are your kids ?

mini blondes 8 had chocolate for breakfast Easter sunday

isnt that the norm on Easter ?

and your 2 who got eggs haven’t touched them and now Tuesday

They’ve eaten the chocolate that comes with the egg and half of the shell 🤷🏻‍♀️

Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 17:58

ThisIsItNowOrNever · 22/04/2025 17:15

You are playing with fire.
It may be "only" 10 chocolate eggs now (which is already a colossal amount of disgusting junk food), but what if your son gets fixated that his new favourite number is 20, or 135 ?
You have to stop this ridiculous extravaganza and teach him healthy habits so he can manage when you are not around anymore.

Oh please .

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ThisIsItNowOrNever · 22/04/2025 17:15

You are playing with fire.
It may be "only" 10 chocolate eggs now (which is already a colossal amount of disgusting junk food), but what if your son gets fixated that his new favourite number is 20, or 135 ?
You have to stop this ridiculous extravaganza and teach him healthy habits so he can manage when you are not around anymore.

coldscottishmum · 22/04/2025 16:50

You’re doing what makes your autistic DS happy. Although can be seen as excessive, you have stated that none of it goes to waste and you make cakes from the melted chocolate and it’s for all of the family to enjoy. Keeping waste and costs minimal I don’t see any major issue (although admittedly it’s not something I would do, I appreciate it keeps your autistic child happy and content with predictability)

Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 16:45

Megifer · 22/04/2025 16:26

Defo the norm. Or is IME. Mine had an egg for breakfast, an egg for lunch, then 2 creme eggs after dinner 🤣

I have demolished an egg just whilst sitting and reading the thread today 🤣

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Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 16:44

Lassango · 22/04/2025 16:01

10 eggs each is crazy. Cost on their health more than the financial cost!

Really? You think if they are 10 eggs once in a year over a few weeks it would have a massive effect …

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Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 16:42

SunnyViper · 22/04/2025 15:55

It’s a ridiculous amount. It would be worth developing some behavioural flexibility with your son and reducing the number.

In your opinion it’s ridiculous - that’s fine , you’re entitled to your opinion .

Please explain though why it would be worth it to reduce the number - the reason why it’s good idea and a better idea than protecting his well being around this time ?

As for “ behaviour flexibility” - it’s not a behaviour for a start but if it is feel free to enlighten me how to do this

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AquaPeer · 22/04/2025 16:36

Lassango · 22/04/2025 16:01

10 eggs each is crazy. Cost on their health more than the financial cost!

Come on- You know 10 eggs isn’t going to directly cost their health.

Megifer · 22/04/2025 16:26

Blondeshavemorefun · 22/04/2025 16:12

How old are your kids ?

mini blondes 8 had chocolate for breakfast Easter sunday

isnt that the norm on Easter ?

and your 2 who got eggs haven’t touched them and now Tuesday

Defo the norm. Or is IME. Mine had an egg for breakfast, an egg for lunch, then 2 creme eggs after dinner 🤣

Blondeshavemorefun · 22/04/2025 16:12

Lyannaa · 22/04/2025 13:00

I’m not sure how 10 eggs get eaten? If they do then fair enough. But yeah that would be way over the top in my house. My kids had one each. One of the adult children didn’t want one at all. And the ones who were given one haven’t eaten them yet.

How old are your kids ?

mini blondes 8 had chocolate for breakfast Easter sunday

isnt that the norm on Easter ?

and your 2 who got eggs haven’t touched them and now Tuesday

Lassango · 22/04/2025 16:01

10 eggs each is crazy. Cost on their health more than the financial cost!

SunnyViper · 22/04/2025 15:55

It’s a ridiculous amount. It would be worth developing some behavioural flexibility with your son and reducing the number.

Pinkbleach · 22/04/2025 15:42

42isthemeaning · 22/04/2025 15:37

I have two diagnosed autistic dc - both young adults - I get it op. Ignore those who judge and do what works for you in your family. 😊

Thank you ☺️ we do some odd things don’t we but sometimes we have to x

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