I think I’ve been husband stitched

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Fannycrevasse · 22/04/2025 07:28

I had a baby in January and DH and I haven’t had PIV since we conceived in May last year. Quite a few reasons for this, mostly my incompetent cervix and our history of early miscarriage as a result. Plus it just not being a priority over other, normal affection.

We attempted it last night, but we quite quickly discovered there’s just no way of getting past the first few cm’s and it feels like the whole thing just gets seriously narrow all of a sudden a few cm’s back and the pain was worse than childbirth so we obviously stopped.

I had a 2nd degree tear this time, and In my first birth I had an episiotomy (I have 2 children) and sex afterwards was completely normal so I know this isn’t normal if that makes sense?

It genuinely feels like either something has been stitched too tight or something hasn’t healed correctly? I’m just wondering whether this is a common experience when you tear and we just need to keep trying or whether I need to go and speak to my GP?

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Clockface8 · 22/04/2025 07:36

You’ve only tried once

just give it a bit of time before making any conclusions

try again, take time for yourself beforehand, relax

if again and again, then progress

Cakeandcheeseforever · 22/04/2025 07:35

It took me about eight months after my episiotomy to be recovered enough for that, was too painful before.

Timeforabiscuit · 22/04/2025 07:33

I would phone the midwifery team at the hospital where you were stitched and get a gynae examination.

However, I would also very gently say that both your mind and body have been through a huge amount, and may you need alot more intimacy and connection with your partner? How are things between you more generally?

MagnificentMagnolia · 22/04/2025 07:32

You need to speak to your GP. Doesn't sound normal.

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