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Brother texts greetings in Welsh

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MoHub · 22/04/2025 02:20

My brother lives in Wales but he is English. He doesn't want to be Welsh, but every time he texts me at Christmas, New Year, birthday, etc he will do it in Welsh. So this weekend it was
Me: Happy Easter DB
DB: Pasg Hapus to you too

Don't get me wrong I like Wales, it's a lovely country, I like the Welsh and if a Welsh person wished me Happy Easter in Welsh that'd be fine but my brother is English and so am I. Every bloody time he does it.
A greeting in Welsh means nothing to me and yes I can work it out, but it doesn't half irk me and I know it's annoying me far more than it should.
AIBU to just want greetings in the language we both speak?

OP posts:
SummerDaysOnTheWay · 22/04/2025 07:22

Chaseandstatus · 22/04/2025 06:50

There is someone more or less the same in my family and it is very try hard and makes my eyes roll, I get it OP. Send him things in random languages or nonsense emojis. This is sibling law!

“Try hard” to what exactly?

AngelinaFibres · 22/04/2025 07:19

My exhusband was English but fluent in Welsh. He always sent greetings in Welsh and they became part of family birthdays etc from our side of the family to wider family. Doubt anyone gave it a thought.

ExpatMum41 · 22/04/2025 07:17

A very "vesele velku noc" to you all 💐😉

Mumtobabyhavoc · 22/04/2025 07:11

I see OP's point... DB seems a bit pretentious. Just start replies in another language as if totally normal. If queried reply, I wanted to follow suit, except I'm using X language today. The Google translate app is brilliant.

Malvala · 22/04/2025 07:03

People will find anything to be offended about.

Kellybonita · 22/04/2025 07:01

He's not from Wales, but he lives there now. He will be seeing the Easter greeting in Welsh everywhere.

I think it's nice to use it.

101Nutella · 22/04/2025 07:00

YABU it’s not that deep. Why does it bother you? He’s literally acknowledging the new culture of where he lives. It’s cool to learn new things. It doesn’t matter if he and his wife are English - they live in Wales. You’ll pick up the culture and bits o language in wales especially as the Gov work hard in wales to encourage Welsh speaking.

Chaseandstatus · 22/04/2025 06:50

There is someone more or less the same in my family and it is very try hard and makes my eyes roll, I get it OP. Send him things in random languages or nonsense emojis. This is sibling law!

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 22/04/2025 06:45

Text your brother and tell him he's being a twll tin

nomas · 22/04/2025 06:44

YANBU, a pp is right, text him a reply in an obscure language. You are not Welsh so he’s being very rude.

SummerDaysOnTheWay · 22/04/2025 06:43

HouseofDreams · 22/04/2025 05:51

I agree with you OP I think this is weird and if one of my siblings did this I’d be cringing at them

Are you 15?

SummerDaysOnTheWay · 22/04/2025 06:42

You’re being horrible. Get over it. Are you very young?

golemmings · 22/04/2025 06:41

Incidental Welsh is really common In Wales. even non native speakers or people who learned Welsh at school but wouldn't dream of speaking Welsh normally will often exchange those greetings in welsh- in the middle of a conversation in English.

When DH has been working with a Welsh colleague, I get offered a paned when I get home - in England. Neither dh or I is Welsh speaking

KimberleyClark · 22/04/2025 06:40

OP would you be as upset if your DB was living in France and wishing you a joyeux anniversaire?

CornishTiger · 22/04/2025 06:29

I’d be eye rolling a little bit. I came on to suggest replying in other languages like @DrPrunesqualer also said.

Make it a little game for him.

JustMyView13 · 22/04/2025 06:19

He’s not Welsh. He’s found out what the special greetings are in Welsh, and he sends it to you at special moments. I think it’s sweet.

Just let him know that it’s meaningless to you, and he can send ‘HBDS x’ instead.

Leafy74 · 22/04/2025 06:12

HouseofDreams · 22/04/2025 05:51

I agree with you OP I think this is weird and if one of my siblings did this I’d be cringing at them

I'm cringing at that comment.

KimberleyClark · 22/04/2025 06:03

My DH is not Welsh but has lived in Wales for a very long time. He likes to send bilingual Christmas cards to his friends even those who aren’t Welsh. What’s wrong with that?

HouseofDreams · 22/04/2025 05:51

I agree with you OP I think this is weird and if one of my siblings did this I’d be cringing at them

SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 22/04/2025 05:48

Definitely go no conract, this is appalling behaviour by your brother or you could just accept that he enjoys using the language of a country he lives in

Original poster
MoHub · 22/04/2025 04:33

TheOriginalEmu · 22/04/2025 04:06

You’re being quite petty. It’s not like he’s sending you whole messages in Welsh so that you have to translate it into English, that would be weird. But a greeting in the language of the country he lives in is harmless. Would you feel the same if he lived in France and texted in French?

If it was every time, yes. And the foreign greeting is the whole message.

OP posts:
ArtemisiaTheArtist · 22/04/2025 04:23

I work with people who are from all over the place and I greet them on festival days with something in their language, which is appreciated.

Original poster
MoHub · 22/04/2025 04:23

Fair enough, I guess I am grateful I get something. He doesn't speak Welsh at home (SiL is English) or want to learn it.

I just thought it a bit odd and it would be quite nice to get a 'happy birthday' occasionally.

Thanks for replies

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Tbrh · 22/04/2025 04:21

YABU. He lives in Wales and is embracing the language. Not sure why you'd have a problem with learning new things, it's good to expand your brain. You sound a tad racist tbh, you don't have to be Welsh to learn Welsh or any other language for that matter.

TheOriginalEmu · 22/04/2025 04:16

DrPrunesqualer · 22/04/2025 04:09

Why wouldn’t she
I doubt it’s a Welsh hate thing

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You’d be surprised how many people seem to take offence at anyone speaking Welsh, ever, when ‘everyone in wales speaks English’.
I’m just asking to clarify why OP finds it so annoying.

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