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Things you've noticed that are frowned upon on mums net

333 replies

ChitterChatter1987 · 21/04/2025 22:52

I'll go first 😆

-Kids sharing rooms
-Complaining about schools or teachers
-Feeling upset about a friend hurting you
-Having more than 1 kid on an income under circa 50-100k, or having more than two on an income under circa 100-150k
-Renting long term
Complaining about dogs being given human rights.
Complaining about grandparents care of DC's 'because it's free so like it or lump it!'

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RogueFemale · 22/04/2025 00:50

SusanSHelit · 21/04/2025 22:55

Trans people existing

Yawn

GoldBeautifulHeart · 22/04/2025 00:48

Having an age gap relationship. It can't possibly be healthy or not have a power play.

Can't possibly be that sometimes younger people like dating older people without having daddy issues.

So judgemental.

Happyasarainbow · 22/04/2025 00:42

People wanting their DH/DP to make an effort for them. So many women upset about DH doing nothing for them on theirbirthday/Christmas/all other events, when the OP makes all of the effort for the rest of the household.

So many responses are either 'did you give him a list' or 'you need to understand that not everyone cares about celebrations'.

No, all adult humans are capable of seeing the effort another person makes for them and reciprocating appropriately. These DHs are just lazy and rude.

yoghurttops · 22/04/2025 00:37

Taking your children to restaurants

…actually no, having the cheek to take your children out full stop

…no, let’s change that to being around children

I think MN would prefer that children are seen and not heard
…or maybe not having them at all because everyone that has children are hurting the planet and economy

Final answer - having children

User1786 · 22/04/2025 00:36

Liking your husband
Dieting or eating anything under 2000 cals a day otherwise your body goes into starvation mode - no consideration for body sizes
Cycling, we’ll sport in general but cyclists deserve a special place in hell according to MN

ItGhoul · 22/04/2025 00:33

Liking football

’Screens’

Enjoying anal sex

Actually, enjoying any kind of sex, beyond grimly enduring once a week missionary in complete silence with a long-term partner, and only after both partners have showered

Getting up late

Having non-sporty children

Being unable to drive

Not dressing like Kate Middleton at weddings

Letting kids drink tea and coffee

Wearing perfume

Porn

Sharing any life updates or photos on social media

Stating one’s own personal preference for a season

Trusting one’s partner

Being working class

PIPsqueakybum · 22/04/2025 00:29

Receiving disability benefits. Even though you’re disabled.

Lavender14 · 22/04/2025 00:24

Dogs existing.
Children existing in public spaces.
Single mothers having the audacity to date.

People wanting to have a big wedding
People wanting to have a baby shower or god forbid even worse... a gender reveal.
People wanting to celebrate their birthday.

People receiving benefits that they are actually making ends meet on.

RenoDakota · 22/04/2025 00:18

Surrogacy
Expecting to have your birthday acknowledged.
Being friends with your children.

Sunsweetsandandicecream · 22/04/2025 00:07

Franjipanl8r · 21/04/2025 23:57

I’ve seen a few threads on here about which of many en-suite bedrooms the children should have. I’ve never ever met a child who had their own en-suite. I would say having a single family bathroom is frowned upon on MN but for me and my friends it’s the norm.

I've also on the flip side, seen comments about ensuites bring pointless, because they're all tiny, and mean dhs' are pooing in the bedroom! 😂 Then comments move to downstairs toilets, and cue ideas on what these rooms should be used for. Quite a lot of property developers on good old MN there is.

Franjipanl8r · 21/04/2025 23:57

I’ve seen a few threads on here about which of many en-suite bedrooms the children should have. I’ve never ever met a child who had their own en-suite. I would say having a single family bathroom is frowned upon on MN but for me and my friends it’s the norm.

Theunamedcat · 21/04/2025 23:52

XenoBitch · 21/04/2025 23:36

Loo brushes

In the dishwasher

Almostwelsh · 21/04/2025 23:50

Going on package holidays to popular resorts. Even worse if it's All Inclusive and not 5 star

britinnyc · 21/04/2025 23:49

The U.S., visiting or even worse, living there (and liking it)

OoooopsUpsideYourHead · 21/04/2025 23:47

Not allowing your 3 or 4 year old son to go to school dressed as a sparkly pink princess on World Book Day.

Allowing your 3 or 4 year old daughter to go to school dressed as a sparkly pink princess on World Book Day.

Ohthatsabitshit · 21/04/2025 23:47

Having more than two children.

Screamingabdabz · 21/04/2025 23:45

SusanSHelit · 21/04/2025 22:55

Trans people existing

🥱

Crazybaby123 · 21/04/2025 23:44

Behaving like you and your children aren't the centre of the universe
Behaving like you and your children are the centre of the universe
Dogs
Neighbours
Parking

Neverenoughbiscuits · 21/04/2025 23:43

RoseAndGeranium · 21/04/2025 23:41

This one mystifies me and I see it a lot outside Mumsnet too. Why are women being shamed for caring about their kids’ diets??

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Because people don't like to be told or want to think they're making shit choices when it comes to parenting. More fool them.

JandamiHash · 21/04/2025 23:42

Parking in parent and baby spaces when you are a parent and have a baby. Apparently it’s super entitled and just a marketing gimmick that you’d be a fool to fall for. even if you have 2 sets of twins under 2, you should leave that space for the childless man in the Audi TT who legs it into the supermarket like Linford Christie because he might have an invisible disability and he CLEARLY needs that space more.

RoseAndGeranium · 21/04/2025 23:41

Neverenoughbiscuits · 21/04/2025 23:39

Conversely, caring about you put in your DC diet also seems to inspire derision.

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This one mystifies me and I see it a lot outside Mumsnet too. Why are women being shamed for caring about their kids’ diets??

Neverenoughbiscuits · 21/04/2025 23:39

ChitterChatter1987 · 21/04/2025 22:57

Ooh that reminds me! Feeding your kids processed food not home cooked meals from scratch every day.....ESPECIALLY baby food in jars or pouches

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Conversely, caring about you put in your DC diet also seems to inspire derision.

XenoBitch · 21/04/2025 23:36

Loo brushes

crouchendtigerr · 21/04/2025 23:34

To add: I love big dogs, have two GSDs and also have two cats

sofasoda · 21/04/2025 23:33

Oh and you will be judged for not saving money for your dc particularly if you want a few dc but any dc that expect to be helped will also be judged 🤔

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