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Dating an older man I just don’t understand him?

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Backtoworktmrw · 21/04/2025 20:33

I’m 30 dating someone 55 I have known him for a good 3 years and dated on and off. We are trying to make a proper go of it this time. He has begged and pleaded for me to be with him and give him a chance. He’s took me away on weekends away and really made me fall for him. I should probably say he has just been diagnosed with high blood pressure so may be I am expecting too much. I just spent the weekend with him he slept most of the weekend he wasn’t well. Now he has just gone cold with me barely texting or calling. I feel like I’m chasing after him!

AIBU? Do I just accept he isn’t well? I almost feel like he’s finally with me and now lost interest.

OP posts:
PinotDragon86 · 21/04/2025 20:36

That's quite a large age gap. Maybe he is worried about keeping up with a younger woman? Or he has some sort of erectile disfunction he may not feel comfortable talking about.
A frank and open discussion is needed between the two of you to see if the relationship is viable.