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House move - stupid school commute

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TidyOchreQuoter · 21/04/2025 19:38

We're moving about an hour away due to my husband's new job and because we want to move out of the city. Our current home is getting too tight and we can't afford a 4 bed in our area, even if we wanted to stay.

Our son will start Year 10 in September and he doesn't want to move schools. Ideally, we don't want to move him, he's settled and doing well but... in rush hour it's likely to be an hour and a half drive. Which is obviously ridiculous, but is it worse than moving him?? He's only got 2 years left as the school doesn't have a sixth form so we would then apply to college in our new area.

We can't really wait because we have another child who will start Year 7 in September and don't want her to have to do 2 years and then move schools. It would also affect applications to primary school for our youngest who starts Reception in September 2026.

It's a bit of an impossible situation, but any thoughts??

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UndermyShoeJoe · 21/04/2025 19:41

So we moved 30 minutes car hour bus our year 9 did not want to move schools so for the first year he bussed their and back but dh’s hours changed and now he drops him there but he has to bus home or wait at a relatives / out with friends till dh finished work. His also decided to stay on for 6th form there so doesn’t find the bus too bad.

Cant say I’d force a move unless I had too. It’s hard to make new friends mid way though secondary school.

AndAllOurYesterdays · 21/04/2025 19:41

That is a long commute. I'd tell him if he wants to stay he has to find a way of getting there by public transport. Three hours round trip is ridiculous especially if you are both working.

S0j0urn4r · 21/04/2025 19:40

I would suck up the drive.

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