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Dig licking plates before going into dishwasher - ick or not

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Happyspendingthedayinthegarden · 21/04/2025 15:11

Have have hosted a lovely Easter BH Monday for all 7 GC, 3 step children, partners & children. We had an Easter egg hunt in garden, had breakfast in local farm shop & walked my lovely little dog around, petted animals etc.

For context I need to say that DSS & DIL are both British, but live in USA.

After a roast dinner I put the plates & general pots & pans down for the dog to lick. My DIL lost the plot saying that was so unhygienic I assured her that they would be going into the dishwasher on a high temperature - about 90c so would be sterilised. I always let the dog pre-wash my plates as consider it's going into the dishwasher at high temp to be sterilised so no problem.

DIL saying she will never let her children eat at my house again & gone-taken her DH & DC off in an huff.

DH has had a text from his son apologising but saying what can he do as has to support his wife. I totally get that. But....

My question is - is it OK to let dog lick out the plates etc when they are going into dishwasher at a high temp? WWUD?

OP posts:
Tortycatlover · 23/04/2025 07:04

The fact you even have to ask if this is ok would stop me eating anything in your house. What other grossly unhygienic habits do you have?

Tbrh · 23/04/2025 05:55

Wow this is disgusting! Who cares if it's washed in the dishwasher. Would you eat of a plate that someone shat on and then washed in the dishwasher? Well you probably would considering your dog eats shit, licks other dogs arses including its own, and is a dog! 🤮 I can't believe you're so oblivious you did this in front of guests 🤯 Ewwww!

KeepYaHeadUp · 23/04/2025 05:28

Also, don’t pre rinse plates as modern dishwashers wrongly assumes load is “clean” and don’t wash as thoroughly. Grim for human plates. Worse for plates licked clean by a dog 🤢

KeepYaHeadUp · 23/04/2025 05:24

MemorableTrenchcoat · 21/04/2025 15:29

Some of these responses! You’d think the dog was shitting on the plate, and OP put the whole lot in the machine.

Well according to logic here that’d be fine cos the dishwasher would clean it

3tumsnot1 · 23/04/2025 05:18

This is completely disgusting. I can’t believe the amount of people that are ok with it. Dishwashers are not 100 percent. They are often stacked wrong and don’t cover all areas.

dogs spend their life sniffing and licking other animals arse holes. My dog eats cat shit when she finds it.

there is no way they should be licking human plates.

i honestly cannot believe I am readying this.

scrape it in the dogs bowl by all means. I would not have my kids eat off those plates either.

autumnskyes · 23/04/2025 03:19

I mean - rationally - I'm sure it's fine, but the optics of the plates and cooking pans you've just eaten from being put down on the floor to be slurped all over by a dog is going to be pretty gross to a lot of (most?) people.

CrazyAboutFurBabies · 23/04/2025 00:39

@Happyspendingthedayinthegarden

If they are being cleaned in the dishwasher I don’t see a problem at all- dishwashers sanitise the things that are put in there …

If we are having a nice meal and one of us leaves some on the plate we put it down for our dog at the end of the meal

They only live a short time and deserve some bloody plate licks every now and again it really isn’t hurting anyone in my opinion

OP, you’re going to get uptight, judgey fuckers on here, I wouldn’t have bothered posting. They’ve clearly forgot where their mouths have been over the years themselves … lol

tillymintt · 23/04/2025 00:14

that's disgusting.

mrssprout · 22/04/2025 23:38

I wouldn't let a dog lick plates & would be a bit wary eating at someones home if I knew they did. I understand they are going in the dishwasher after but it still just seems not great to me

Jumpers4goalposts · 22/04/2025 23:00

I mean I don’t do it, but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it either. Dishwashers are made to clean the dishes.

PeepDeBeaul · 22/04/2025 22:41

Do folk not understand "dishwasher" here? Our cats eat of our plates regularly (rarely our choice, the little shites are fast!), I'm sure dogs are just as sneaky. If soap and water can wash dog slobber off your hands, it definitely can off your plate.

August1980 · 22/04/2025 21:57

Hmm. Dog lover here and whilst this wouldn’t bother me I can see how this would put people off.
We had a black lab when I was young who used to hang out near the dishwasher for prewash duties….so this post made me smile.

SeaSunandSand · 22/04/2025 21:02

That’s disgusting 🤮

KnickerFolder · 22/04/2025 20:58

Tessiebear2023 · 22/04/2025 17:57

At risk of sounding like I'm taking this all too seriously, I don't have a dog but I do have a rabbit, so it'll mainly be rabbit shit.

At risk of sounding like I'm taking this all too seriously too, there are very few zoonoses that humans can get from rabbits, and only a couple of those are via the faecal-oral route, so you’re probably all right 😂
I ❤️🐰

KnickerFolder · 22/04/2025 20:51

shuggles · 22/04/2025 19:09

@KnickerFolder I am fairly sure the primary mode of transmission from dogs to humans is bites or contact of dog saliva with broken skin…

"Primary," meaning other modes of transmission are possible, and certainly there are a number of cases of transmission where no broken skin was involved.

https://edition.cnn.com/2018/09/18/health/dog-saliva-infection-capnocytophaga/index.html

www.nbcnews.com/health/health-news/german-man-dies-after-being-licked-his-dog-n1091676

There has never been a case of a human becoming infected after eating from a plate that has been washed after a dog licked it

Not that you know of. Why take the chance?

Even if it doesn't result in infection, it's still disgusting.

Do you eat frozen fruit and vegetables, @shuggles? Because some studies suggest that up to a quarter of frozen fruit and veg are contaminated with Listeria or E. coli. I would assume not because, as you say, why take the risk?

Infection from Capnocytophaga caninorsus in humans.is very rare, especially in immunocompetent individuals. The most common mode of transmission of is from bites, the second is from animal scratches. The likely mode of transmission in the cases you have linked to is via mucous membranes from licks to the face, not plates that have been through the dishwasher. Have a search on PubMed if you don’t believe me.

Stroking dogs or letting them lick you is much more “disgusting” (well, higher risk)…

LexiiRH · 22/04/2025 20:32

Pennyplant19 · 22/04/2025 18:34

How sad 😢. You never accept invites to eat at friends/families homes?
Out of interest, what are the other reasons?

Yeah, maybe it is sad to some but I just can’t. I’ll preface this with saying that I will admit, I do have “obsessively” high levels of hygiene standards but I would be more comfortable if a lot of people just had some, even basic, hygiene standards. But to name a few, I’ve witnessed on many occasions (IRL & online) that people are far too comfortable with using the loo and not washing their hands afterwards, seeing dirty fingernails, cats feeding bowls on the kitchen counters with the cats having free reign of the entire kitchen sides, - with those things in mind & the thought of them then dealing with & handling food, is just too much. I physically can’t do it.

BooBooDoodle · 22/04/2025 20:11

We have a rescue greyhound who loves nothing more than to stick her snout in the dishwasher and prewash our pots. She could be in the deepest sleep ever upstairs and would still hear the dishwasher door go. We don’t allow our dogs to lick plates and cups off the floor but our grey will give things a good once over when in the dishwasher. If we have food going or the end of a brew we put in in their bowls which also go in the dishwasher on a high temp.

sloanypony66 · 22/04/2025 19:48

Euugghh…that’s revolting…. I wouldn’t want to eat there. 🤢

Gloriia · 22/04/2025 19:22

Nothing7 · 22/04/2025 19:14

Wow I can’t believe how many think this is grim. They’re cleaned through a dishwasher so bacteria will be gone.
I don’t personally put plates down and would scrape into a bowl and wait until a little after dinner if they did have scraps (more not to encourage expecting it all the time - young dog so still learning manners) however it is near impossible to stop the dog licking the plates as they get loaded unless I was to put them outside every time I opened the dishwasher… and im not overly fussed if they do lick them - because the dishwasher cleans them. The dog is regularly wormed, flea treated and is vaccinated.
OP has nothing to feel awkward about

Well again, please inform any guests of your poor hygiene standards and give them the choice if they want to eat from plates that animals have licked.

Or, just train your pets? A clear 'sit' or 'wait' works well ime.

Dogsbreath7 · 22/04/2025 19:17

Well I said YANBU because I also do it but wouldn’t in someone else’s home. A non dog lover is never going to get it. Dogs need to be up to date with worming.

Sure I read somewhere a human bite is worse than a dog bite (bacteria)?

Nothing7 · 22/04/2025 19:14

Wow I can’t believe how many think this is grim. They’re cleaned through a dishwasher so bacteria will be gone.
I don’t personally put plates down and would scrape into a bowl and wait until a little after dinner if they did have scraps (more not to encourage expecting it all the time - young dog so still learning manners) however it is near impossible to stop the dog licking the plates as they get loaded unless I was to put them outside every time I opened the dishwasher… and im not overly fussed if they do lick them - because the dishwasher cleans them. The dog is regularly wormed, flea treated and is vaccinated.
OP has nothing to feel awkward about

shuggles · 22/04/2025 19:09

@KnickerFolder I am fairly sure the primary mode of transmission from dogs to humans is bites or contact of dog saliva with broken skin…

"Primary," meaning other modes of transmission are possible, and certainly there are a number of cases of transmission where no broken skin was involved.

https://edition.cnn.com/2018/09/18/health/dog-saliva-infection-capnocytophaga/index.html

www.nbcnews.com/health/health-news/german-man-dies-after-being-licked-his-dog-n1091676

There has never been a case of a human becoming infected after eating from a plate that has been washed after a dog licked it

Not that you know of. Why take the chance?

Even if it doesn't result in infection, it's still disgusting.

Man loses hands and feet after dog-related infection | CNN

By the time Greg Manteufel, 48, reached the hospital in late June, “my face was all red and blue, and it started going down the rest of my body,” he said.

https://edition.cnn.com/2018/09/18/health/dog-saliva-infection-capnocytophaga/index.html

thevassal · 22/04/2025 19:08

grumpygrape · 22/04/2025 18:41

Did all the ick, gross, disgusting, etc., posters miss this ?

'Ironically enough she was encouraging my dog to 'kiss' her children on the face which I said she had been trained not to do as we all know how she cleans her 'Bits'.'

a second disgusting thing doesn't automatically stop the first thing from also being disgusting... 🙄

most people saying it was gross were commenting on the idea of any dog licking any dishes, not just OP's specific dog, her specific dishes and the potential germ-related hypocrisy of her specific dil

bosch · 22/04/2025 18:51

I thought this was awful until we got a dog. Now, he carries on licking plates after they're stacked in the dishwasher. I rationalise that a plate with blood from a joint of meat is also ick but that comes out of the dishwasher clean. You'll have to buy DIL a dog. Then she'll see sense.