Dig licking plates before going into dishwasher - ick or not

From a bacteria being obliterated point of view there is nothing wrong with it.

But I’m on team ick!

Wouldn’t bother me. Dishwasher gets insanely hot

Small children lick plates as well. And stick fingers over them. They have questionable hygiene also.

Do those plates also need to be washed separately or thrown after each use?

I think it's okay to feel a bit squeamish about it (though logically it's not a problem, and I let my dogs lick plates, sometimes), but trying to boss people around in their own homes or threatening to never visit them for that reason is going too far.

I'd be annoyed and think her irrational (and demanding... and not the brightest bulb), but I'd probably play along with it for DH's sake. Do as you like when she's not there to see.

Absolutely not ! I wouldn't eat anything again either 😕

Crockery and pans used for humans should not be used for animals as well.

It's simple.

Although the odds are that your dishwasher will clean them thoroughly, you can't be sure.

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I let my dog sleep in the bed with me, but licking plates (even knowing they are going in dishwasher) is a hard no. Even it I did allow it, I certainly wouldn’t in front of guests who ate at my house.

nope, neither did any dog of mine ever try to steal food or beg at the table even though I did feed them (appropriate) human scraps from the table.

It's fine. Dishwasher is so hot, it will kill everything.
Even my super-clean, houseproud friend lets her dogs lick the plates 😂

Well, i don't think it's unreasonable as long as they're going on a hot wash, but having said that, if I saw you doing it and I didn't know how hot you were washing them, I would feel a bit grim and not want to eat off your plates next time. I think the DIL was over the top to make such a song & dance over it and flounce off, though. I'd have just said something like "eew, Maureen, I hope those are going on 90 degrees?!" in a lighthearted way.

It's fine, I do it all the time because as many say the very high dishwasher temperatures will easily zap any germs. I don't do it in front of any visitor who might object though. People on here are hilariously precious

I would find this really unpleasant. I wouldn't want to eat off plates that a dog has licked. I might rationally know that a hot dishwasher will kill the germs, but it's one of those visceral reactions that defy logic!

To me, it's on par with people who put their loo brushes in the dishwasher, just No!

She'll be wondering what else you do hygiene wise, do you stroke the dogs when prepping food & not wash your hands because "they are clean".

She doesn't trust your hygiene standards.

There are things you don't do in company.

When you have a colonoscopy, that camera has been up someone else's bum.

I can't get worked up about dogs licking plates.

Yes, definitely agree with this. It's not really about the hygiene because washed at 90 it will be fine. It's the thought of it.

Oh op it's just basic social and hygiene etiquette. It doesn't matter how super sterile your washer is it's the aesthetic of how it looks, a snap shot of what you let your animals get away with.

Maybe they lick the odd plate that doesn't get washed at 90c and just gets a quick rinse under the tap?

I wouldn't eat at your house again.

Pets should not come into contact with anything people eat from, ever.

I admit that we let our dogs pre wash selected items.

However - and here's a warning to people who do do this….
I was cooking for friends and the pan I wanted wasn't in the cupboard. So I looked in the dishwasher, saw the pan was "clean" and got it out. Luckily, and thank goodness, I then realised that the dishwasher was actually full of dirty stuff ready to be put on. Eek! Now that really would have been gross!

Our dog always licked plates, and anything else tasty. Her favourite was a roasting tin - she’d hold it down with one paw and keep at it till there was barely a molecule left.
A fish pie dish was another favourite.
Everything in the dishwasher afterwards, and nobody’s ever got ill. I’ve no patience with people who are so ridiculous about ‘hygiene’ when the danger is all in their obsessed heads.

Disgusting.
I'd never eat in your hone again.
Standard of hygiene is low, even with a dishwasher.
I love my dog, but no. 🤮

Yeah but you would use a fork your mum has used, knowing she has probably has your dads willy in her mouth? Seems a double standard.

Also before somebody comes at me saying this is impossible because they are an orphan or something, use your imagination for similar hypotheticals and where other people in your households or restaurants have had their mouths.

Skanky and grim, I’d not eat in your house ever again. No one with even a modicum of decorum would do this.

Totally tedious and irrelevant backstory too.

Yes to that.

And people have presumably licked the spoons and forks that have also gone into the dishwasher, along with glasses and cups that have touched their lips, with goodness knows what saliva and germs still attached.

Plus fillet knives, kitchen scissors, cutting boards, etc that have been used on raw meats...

Grim and unhygienic.

Er, what makes you think that?