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Dig licking plates before going into dishwasher - ick or not

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Happyspendingthedayinthegarden · 21/04/2025 15:11

Have have hosted a lovely Easter BH Monday for all 7 GC, 3 step children, partners & children. We had an Easter egg hunt in garden, had breakfast in local farm shop & walked my lovely little dog around, petted animals etc.

For context I need to say that DSS & DIL are both British, but live in USA.

After a roast dinner I put the plates & general pots & pans down for the dog to lick. My DIL lost the plot saying that was so unhygienic I assured her that they would be going into the dishwasher on a high temperature - about 90c so would be sterilised. I always let the dog pre-wash my plates as consider it's going into the dishwasher at high temp to be sterilised so no problem.

DIL saying she will never let her children eat at my house again & gone-taken her DH & DC off in an huff.

DH has had a text from his son apologising but saying what can he do as has to support his wife. I totally get that. But....

My question is - is it OK to let dog lick out the plates etc when they are going into dishwasher at a high temp? WWUD?

OP posts:
Vinovidivici · 26/04/2025 18:59

The doggy prewash is a source of great joy for our much loved hound. The soap cleans it, no bother. Your house, your rules. Sounds like a perfect reason not to have to spend much time with DIL!

CatA27 · 26/04/2025 18:28

Wow, not read all 35 pages but our dog always prewashes our dishes Before they go in the dishwasher, I even have a chopping board with a picture of a dog doing this on it so it's clearly a thing! I really don't see the issue, I don't check where my guests have had their hands or mouth before they eat at my house either as I dont just stick my dishes straight back in the cupboard they get washed in the dishwasher! 🤔

SP2024 · 26/04/2025 18:20

We’ve always had dogs and they have always licked the dishes in the dishwasher as we’re loading it. I would never put it down for them separately but I guess the licking is the same. I also used to wash my cats bowls in the dishwasher at the same time as our plates 🤷‍♀️

Lauraanddogs · 26/04/2025 17:47

I mean… people’s saliva gets all over their cutlery in a restaurant and that’s acceptable as it all gets washed (who knows where their mouths have been) so what’s the problem
with the dogs, not like it’s not going to be washed at a high temp!

Mirren22 · 26/04/2025 02:26

@Inthetyreshopi don’t know who you’re hanging around with but I’d be finding some new pals if they are licking each others arseholes then kissing their children. Good grief. Quite a jump from a dog licking a plate

Moii · 25/04/2025 06:09

Wouldn't bother me, won't be a germ on them by the time they've gone through the dishwasher. Kids aren't exposed to enough dirt now ie all these auto immune issues.

Inthetyreshop · 25/04/2025 03:17

I wouldn’t do what op does but people saying it’s disgusting etc you all eat from forks/spoons other people have eaten from in restaurants, drink in cups others have drank from and a lot of those pubs don’t wash things properly. Geeze some people lick each others assholes then kiss their kids, isn’t anything more disgusting than that lol

Inthetyreshop · 25/04/2025 03:13

I get your point about them being serialised but i wouldn’t do it. I would scrap off any food and put in dogs bowl

EntropyCentral · 25/04/2025 03:08

Do you not lick your partner's bollocks? (Or vagina if you're a lesbian).
At least the dog licks his own

Well if you do lick your partner's bollocks etc, at least it's by choice.
Not so for your unsuspecting guests who have no choice in the matter.

dontcryformeargentina · 24/04/2025 11:10

tirednessreigns · 21/04/2025 15:19

That’s absolutely disgusting. Wouldn’t let my children eat at a house like this either!

Same…

GasPanic · 24/04/2025 10:34

Paganpentacle · 23/04/2025 15:58

I thought you were going to say you popped them back in the cupboard after the dog had licked them clean.... not that you'd put them through the dishwasher...
FFS. Its fine... it not grim, or a health hazard.
90 degree wash with whatever you use in there will kill anything...

If you google you'll see most dishwashers don't get anywhere near 90C or high enough temps to sterilise.

Nothing7 · 24/04/2025 08:26

Gloriia · 22/04/2025 19:22

Well again, please inform any guests of your poor hygiene standards and give them the choice if they want to eat from plates that animals have licked.

Or, just train your pets? A clear 'sit' or 'wait' works well ime.

Edited

We are training it and it’s good ar sitting and waiting - but it’s a below 1 year old big energetic dog so that takes time to get to 100% perfect .

I wouldn’t call it poor hygiene standards - I’ve got kids, none of us are sick and rarely get sick. We clean and antibac the surfaces and very regularly mop the floors. The dishes are washed in anti bac washing up liquid and very hot water (dog doesn’t get near them) or the dishwasher - which I’ve just looked and our tablets have bleaching agent in them (probably started another debate now about bleaching my children’s insides) so I’m confident that any bacteria is removed.

Serpentstooth · 24/04/2025 08:24

? Microwave bacteria? Are you sure about that Smallmercies? Asking because I've been microwaving dishcloths and flannels for years and we're all still alive.

Serpentstooth · 24/04/2025 08:21

Logically, you'll be fine if your dogs lick the plates and they are then washed at high temperature. But YUK OP. It's hard to overcome the yuk.

Smallmercies · 24/04/2025 08:16

Helen483 · 23/04/2025 17:00

When I had a dog I never let her lick our plates - I wouldn't want her to get comfortable with taking food off our plates tbh in case she started taking advantage! But if the plates are going in the dishwasher I wouldn't have a problem with it.

However I can see that other people might be disgusted by it. I once put the cat's bowl in my SIL's dishwasher; unfortunately she didn't see me do it so only found out when we were unloading it. She was very very upset with me and insisted on running the dishwasher again (without the offending bowl obviously).

PS, thank you for the tip about putting dish cloths in the microwave to sterilise them, I'm going to try that. I normally put mine in the washing machine ... are you all going to tell me that's disgusting too?

Putting a dirty dishcloth in the microwave doesn't sterilise it ffs, it just fills the microwave with bacteria. Boil wash your cloths, separate from your other laundry. I wouldn't take hygiene advice from OP.

DinoLil · 24/04/2025 08:10

I put Ddog's bowls and lickimat in the dishwasher but would never let her lick clean a 'human' plate. Although, the moment I open the dishwasher door, she's got her face in there trying to lick dirty stuff!

Missohnoyoubetterdont · 24/04/2025 07:58

For the record many dog owners are a bit grim. I sat in a cafe yesterday and one couple let their dog sit actually on the table and took ‘cutesie’ photos of it while eating. Meanwhile its arse was on the table.

Helen483 · 23/04/2025 17:00

When I had a dog I never let her lick our plates - I wouldn't want her to get comfortable with taking food off our plates tbh in case she started taking advantage! But if the plates are going in the dishwasher I wouldn't have a problem with it.

However I can see that other people might be disgusted by it. I once put the cat's bowl in my SIL's dishwasher; unfortunately she didn't see me do it so only found out when we were unloading it. She was very very upset with me and insisted on running the dishwasher again (without the offending bowl obviously).

PS, thank you for the tip about putting dish cloths in the microwave to sterilise them, I'm going to try that. I normally put mine in the washing machine ... are you all going to tell me that's disgusting too?

Paganpentacle · 23/04/2025 15:58

I thought you were going to say you popped them back in the cupboard after the dog had licked them clean.... not that you'd put them through the dishwasher...
FFS. Its fine... it not grim, or a health hazard.
90 degree wash with whatever you use in there will kill anything...

Mothership4two · 23/04/2025 15:27

Hmm, so how would posters feel if someone served them a meal in their dog's food bowl saying "it's OK, it's clean, it's been through the dishwasher"?

edited for a typo

Tessiebear2023 · 23/04/2025 10:27

Jackrussellsaremad · 23/04/2025 07:27

I agree, particularly with the glazed plate comment. I'm hoping my plates aren't absorbent (as it seems a lot of other people's are so absorbent they cannot be cleaned) and a high temperature wash in a dishwasher with detergent gets them clean.

Might I also add people who have long nails and who prepare food to the list of things that may contaminate food (as well as dog spit). There will be no end to the detritus that must be stuck up those finger nails. Unavoidable, really as you don't boil wash your hands in the dishwasher.

Edited

Regarding long nails.. I agree. I happen to like having moderately long nails, as a result I do tend to use surgical gloves when preparing raw meat (wasteful, I know), particularly whole chickens. I am very aware that little bits of nasty bacteria could reside under my nails, even if I thoroughly wash my hands. I just hate the thought of it, so I wear gloves. I know that you can use a nail brush (I do), bit I just prefer to remove the risk entirely.

For the record, i don't paint my nails either, so I can see they are clean. There's nothing more nasty than when you see the underneath of some women's long nails and they're absolutely grim.

Gloriia · 23/04/2025 08:07

'Not long ago there were no disposable nappies, and cloth nappies went in the washing machine'

You don't eat off your laundry though do you?

It looks revolting to allow dogs to lick leftovers from plates. That in itself should be a deterrent for those who have such poor hygiene standards when guests around.

It looks disgusting isn't that enough?

Jackrussellsaremad · 23/04/2025 07:27

DearDenimEagle · 23/04/2025 07:08

There are about the same number of bacteria in a dogs mouth as a humans mouth…and people kiss, use tongues, put their mouths all over each others bodies and don’t wash at 90degrees lol Not long ago there were no disposable nappies, and cloth nappies went in the washing machine. Ref licking bums…and peo0e do that too, I read it’s a thing 😖 People use their hands when they go to the toilet, they don’t always wash , they touch their hair, touch stuff all the time that has bugs, touch plates, cutlery, their clothes brush up against different surfaces, pick up germs when flushing a loo with the lid up and you’re worried about a dog licking a glazed plate that’s going in a dishwasher ?
A human bite is as, if not more dangerous than a dog bite, from infection pov

so yuk, maybe I should insist on new cutlery everywhere I go

I agree, particularly with the glazed plate comment. I'm hoping my plates aren't absorbent (as it seems a lot of other people's are so absorbent they cannot be cleaned) and a high temperature wash in a dishwasher with detergent gets them clean.

Might I also add people who have long nails and who prepare food to the list of things that may contaminate food (as well as dog spit). There will be no end to the detritus that must be stuck up those finger nails. Unavoidable, really as you don't boil wash your hands in the dishwasher.

DearDenimEagle · 23/04/2025 07:08

There are about the same number of bacteria in a dogs mouth as a humans mouth…and people kiss, use tongues, put their mouths all over each others bodies and don’t wash at 90degrees lol Not long ago there were no disposable nappies, and cloth nappies went in the washing machine. Ref licking bums…and peo0e do that too, I read it’s a thing 😖 People use their hands when they go to the toilet, they don’t always wash , they touch their hair, touch stuff all the time that has bugs, touch plates, cutlery, their clothes brush up against different surfaces, pick up germs when flushing a loo with the lid up and you’re worried about a dog licking a glazed plate that’s going in a dishwasher ?
A human bite is as, if not more dangerous than a dog bite, from infection pov

so yuk, maybe I should insist on new cutlery everywhere I go