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Dig licking plates before going into dishwasher - ick or not

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Happyspendingthedayinthegarden · 21/04/2025 15:11

Have have hosted a lovely Easter BH Monday for all 7 GC, 3 step children, partners & children. We had an Easter egg hunt in garden, had breakfast in local farm shop & walked my lovely little dog around, petted animals etc.

For context I need to say that DSS & DIL are both British, but live in USA.

After a roast dinner I put the plates & general pots & pans down for the dog to lick. My DIL lost the plot saying that was so unhygienic I assured her that they would be going into the dishwasher on a high temperature - about 90c so would be sterilised. I always let the dog pre-wash my plates as consider it's going into the dishwasher at high temp to be sterilised so no problem.

DIL saying she will never let her children eat at my house again & gone-taken her DH & DC off in an huff.

DH has had a text from his son apologising but saying what can he do as has to support his wife. I totally get that. But....

My question is - is it OK to let dog lick out the plates etc when they are going into dishwasher at a high temp? WWUD?

OP posts:
XenoBitch · 21/04/2025 16:13

ttcat37 · 21/04/2025 16:08

That’s fucking disgusting. A 90 degree spray from a dishwasher isn’t enough to sterilise all the disgusting dog spit off your plates. Dogs lick their arseholes and you’re letting it lick your plates and pans. Grim.

So why do you trust it to clean the human spit from cutlery?
Do dishwashers work less effective on pet spittle?

JackieLavertysFreezer · 21/04/2025 16:13

Gross

VintedVirginal · 21/04/2025 16:12

JoyousEagle · 21/04/2025 16:10

Regardless of your view on the dog, this is silly. If you used a knife to dice some raw chicken, would you boil it to clean it? Or would hot soapy water, or the dishwasher, be absolutely fine despite not reaching 100 (if washed by hand in soapy water it would be nowhere near 100, and would still be clean if washed properly).

Running water is not the same as a dishwasher. A dishwasher is only as clean as it's maintained. This means using a dishwasher cleaner, cleaning the filter, etc. Otherwise the crap gets swished round and around.

Endofyear · 21/04/2025 16:12

Sorry but I would find that absolutely revolting. I'm with your DIL on this - it's gross 🤮 doesn't matter if they're going in the dishwasher or not!

DoYouReally · 21/04/2025 16:12

Mudkipper · 21/04/2025 16:07

For me it’s on a par with putting your loo brush in the dishwasher.

I think this sums it up for me.

I have the same visceral reaction when I think about both.

So to any of those dog licking disgusting defenders, would you (or heaven forbid, do you), clean your toilet brush in your dishwasher?

Why it is different?

Notellinganyone · 21/04/2025 16:12

MatildaTheCat · 21/04/2025 15:20

Clearly a binary subject!

I’m in the licking camp and FWIW none of us are ever ill.

Same here!

Martymcfly24 · 21/04/2025 16:11

XenoBitch · 21/04/2025 16:05

Their fingers get everywhere. My friend had a little boy, and she would be asking him why his fingers smelt "like bums"... because he was having a fiddle.
Or they stick their fingers up their nose and touch everything.
Kids are gross. Parents get ill from their own kids. You don't get ill from dogs.

You can get campylobacteriosis, salmonellosis, and E. coli infection from dog poop.

chickenwings2 · 21/04/2025 16:11

Urgh disgusting

SamPoodle123 · 21/04/2025 16:11

We do the same. I think most people would not care (esp if they have dogs). But of course some might. I just would not do it front of her and if she is so bothered by it, she can bring her own plates to eat off of when she visits you.

What I find completely disgusting are the people that use sick bowls for eating out of cooking. I have read about people using those big popcorn or salad bowls for vomitting....now that is VILE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

VintedVirginal · 21/04/2025 16:10

Stravaig · 21/04/2025 16:08

In ye olden days, dogs used to lick plates clean because it made for easier washing up by hand, with liquid soap in tap-hot water, and no-one ever died from it. Dishwashers provide a lengthy scalding-hot chemical-laden scouring process by comparison, so I can't see there being any genuine hygiene problem. People just don't switch their brains on any more.

No one is saying you'd die- just end up with some rotten tummy bug, potentially.

It's basic hygiene to keep bowls and utensils for humans and animals separate.

littlebilliie · 21/04/2025 16:10

Dogs can carry ecoli in their mouths. We have a dog. All dishes are washed separately and I sterilise her bowl on its own. I would never mix her dishes in the bowl

AInightingale · 21/04/2025 16:10

Happyspendingthedayinthegarden · 21/04/2025 16:01

OH CR@P HAVE I SET MN off!!!- am so sorry. Am going to partake in Mass for the soul of Pope Francis now so logging off for now. RIP Holy Father.

That's got to be one of the most bizarre sign-offs I've ever seen.
Although he did name himself after St Francis of Assisi so strangely appropriate to your thread OP.

Megifer · 21/04/2025 16:10

StopStartStop · 21/04/2025 16:02

Utterly disgusting. My mother in law (ex now) used to do it. Vile. Also when the dog got the Christmas joint of meat, she cut the chewed bits off it and served the rest to us, her guests, without mentioning it.

Oh I've done that. Dog managed to nibble at a chicken thigh I'd left on the side. Just took that thigh off and didn't think about it again until now.

JoyousEagle · 21/04/2025 16:10

VintedVirginal · 21/04/2025 16:06

90 isn't boiling point so it isn't sterilising.

Regardless of your view on the dog, this is silly. If you used a knife to dice some raw chicken, would you boil it to clean it? Or would hot soapy water, or the dishwasher, be absolutely fine despite not reaching 100 (if washed by hand in soapy water it would be nowhere near 100, and would still be clean if washed properly).

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 21/04/2025 16:10

It’s beyond disgusting.

I don’t care if technically it’s completely fine as the dishwasher sterilises, psychologically it’s revolting.

Why not just scrape it into the dog’s bowl?

And to do it in front of guests, even if you must do it, is horrible.

Christmasmorale · 21/04/2025 16:09

WiddlinDiddlin · 21/04/2025 16:05

Doggy pre-wash here too - we never have to soak stuff or send it round again, the dogs remove the traces of food, the dishwasher removes any traces of dog. Perfect solution.

Don't like it, don't eat at my house.

As long as you prewarn the guests - because if you told me in advance you did this, I’d gladly take you up on your offer to eat elsewhere. However, it seems people do this and assume it’s normal/ fine when it isn’t.

dogsandcatsandhorses · 21/04/2025 16:09

Owned dogs all my life along with the other animals as per name. No they don’t lick the human’s plates and I don’t lick theirs. 🤢 Really grim.
Please tell me you don’t out the dogs bowls in the dishwasher along with your own.

MrsMappFlint · 21/04/2025 16:09

WiddlinDiddlin · 21/04/2025 16:05

Doggy pre-wash here too - we never have to soak stuff or send it round again, the dogs remove the traces of food, the dishwasher removes any traces of dog. Perfect solution.

Don't like it, don't eat at my house.

No, I certainly wouldn't eat at your home.

BUT how would I know you have these filthy habits? Would you tell me when you invited me or when I arrived? When do you tell people that you invite in to have a cup of tea or a meal?

How would I know? When would you tell me? When would I be given the chance to reject your offerings?

VintedVirginal · 21/04/2025 16:09

SnakesAndArrows · 21/04/2025 16:07

The bacteria living in dishwasher drains are the same kinds of bacteria that live in your sink, bath and shower drains. E. coli, for example, is quickly killed in the dishwasher.

If you must say things like this at least link to some science showing it's true.

BigDahliaFan · 21/04/2025 16:09

Well the poshest family I ever knew used to do this. I ve also let the dog lick a plate sometimes but wouldn't as a rule in front of guests...especially DIL if I hadn't checked out their views first..grin

ttcat37 · 21/04/2025 16:08

That’s fucking disgusting. A 90 degree spray from a dishwasher isn’t enough to sterilise all the disgusting dog spit off your plates. Dogs lick their arseholes and you’re letting it lick your plates and pans. Grim.

Stravaig · 21/04/2025 16:08

In ye olden days, dogs used to lick plates clean because it made for easier washing up by hand, with liquid soap in tap-hot water, and no-one ever died from it. Dishwashers provide a lengthy scalding-hot chemical-laden scouring process by comparison, so I can't see there being any genuine hygiene problem. People just don't switch their brains on any more.

Mothership4two · 21/04/2025 16:08

It's not being precious, it's personal values and boundaries. We don't let the dog lick 'human' cutlery or crockery or lick faces (nor did my parents). DH occasionally puts the dog food fork in the dishwasher and I remove it (as does DS). Technically the dishwasher may killl any germs, but I want those items kept separate. Wouldn't put in the loo brush for the same reason (damn @Mudkipper got there before me).

I remember talking to someone who spent a gap* year with Romany gysies and they told me that if a dog sneakily licked a plate or bowl, then they would smash it (the plate not the dog!).

*they didn't call it that

Highlighta · 21/04/2025 16:08

My dog has been known to help clear out a pot of something or to clean off a plate every now and then.

But not when we have visitors ffs 🤣

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 21/04/2025 16:08

This thread has made me laugh.

We have a cat, and he will always try and get in amongst whatever we're eating - there are certain things I am happy for him to lick the plates after (he's thrilled we're into Greek yoghurt/granola season for breakfast, and he loves scrambled eggs) but even I draw the line at doing this with company around. My mother hates cats in general and would be beyond horrified to see him licking a plate.

He has his own dishes which get rinsed and go in the dishwasher along with everything else, perhaps our standards are particularly low.