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Dig licking plates before going into dishwasher - ick or not

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Happyspendingthedayinthegarden · 21/04/2025 15:11

Have have hosted a lovely Easter BH Monday for all 7 GC, 3 step children, partners & children. We had an Easter egg hunt in garden, had breakfast in local farm shop & walked my lovely little dog around, petted animals etc.

For context I need to say that DSS & DIL are both British, but live in USA.

After a roast dinner I put the plates & general pots & pans down for the dog to lick. My DIL lost the plot saying that was so unhygienic I assured her that they would be going into the dishwasher on a high temperature - about 90c so would be sterilised. I always let the dog pre-wash my plates as consider it's going into the dishwasher at high temp to be sterilised so no problem.

DIL saying she will never let her children eat at my house again & gone-taken her DH & DC off in an huff.

DH has had a text from his son apologising but saying what can he do as has to support his wife. I totally get that. But....

My question is - is it OK to let dog lick out the plates etc when they are going into dishwasher at a high temp? WWUD?

OP posts:
Caerulea · 21/04/2025 16:27

XenoBitch · 21/04/2025 16:21

They slowly and gradually turn into a dog.

I'm struggling to see the issue with this

SnoozingFox · 21/04/2025 16:26

Having thought about why I have a problem with this, given that I am not one of the normally "ewwwww GERMS" people who won't eat home baking and do 20 bazillion loads of laundry a week.

It's boundaries. It's the fact that the OP is letting an animal lick the plates which are then being used by the humans, Dogs lick their own arses and eat all sorts of awful things, in most homes the dog has a special bowl (usually with its name on or similar) for its food, and another for its water. It is not the norm to use the same plates as you serve up the family dinner on to feed the animals.

It is disgusting and "grim" and all the other things that people have said.

Iammatrix · 21/04/2025 16:26

Let’s put hygiene aside, because everyone understands that a hot wash at 90°C will kill any germs.

I question the ethics of doing such a thing. I personally do not think it is right and would never have thought that it was a thing people do.
Wow, you learn something everyday!

I love my dog and he loves his food and is well fed. My dog is also greedy and an open dishwasher in the process of being loaded is beyond temptation for him. But I tell him firmly ‘leave it’ and off he goes and sits watching me load the dishwasher, longingly. Poor boy! But it’s not going to happen in my house and my dog is none the worse for it.

ThisFluentBiscuit · 21/04/2025 16:25

I know that the dishwasher kills the germs, but the dog licking the plates still makes my stomach heave.

WWomble · 21/04/2025 16:25

I’ve had dogs all my life. My dogs get food scraps when appropriate but in their bowls or on the floor, not from crockery. My Lab also tried to be the dishwasher (taking advantage when the door is open and I’m loading it) and I actively discouraged her.

Gloriia · 21/04/2025 16:24

Livelovebehappy · 21/04/2025 16:21

Absolutely no problem imo. But you’ve made a mistake posting this on MN. MNetters love an excuse to froth at the mouth over dogs even existing, so I predict they will be pouring onto this thread in joyful anticipationto say it’s disgusting, and that you deserve to be excommunicated by all your friends and family, to live in purgatory forever, and that there’s a special place in hell for you….😄

We don't froth at the mouth and I adore our dog, she is well trained though and does not lick plates and cutlery

As I say, each to their own but please tell any guests that you allow this grim thing to happen and I bet they'll say no thanks fo anything offered from the grubby kitchen.

Reflectionsreflections · 21/04/2025 16:24

Not gross for me. My dogs do it a lot 🤣🤣 I wouldn’t let them do it in front of guest though (although interestingly, a lot of guest do offer scraps off their plate to my dogs! And no they aren’t begging) because I know people can be weird about it. But I host A LOT of dinner parties off those dog licked then dishwashered plates….no one has ever been poorly yet!!!

ThisFluentBiscuit · 21/04/2025 16:24

Keirawr · 21/04/2025 15:35

Same people who have their dogs get into their beds. Gross doesn’t even begin to cover it.

Oh yes, I can't stand the whole animals-in-bed thing. Animals are dirty. The thought of their germy paws and bumholes etc in human bedding is 🤢. I knew someone who was very good with their dog and he was trained that he could not go past the turn in their staircase. He would lie on the wide steps at the turn, but he simply was not allowed upstairs, and I think that was a very good standard.

OneNeatLimeCritic · 21/04/2025 16:24

Filthy. I wouldn't eat at your home.

Marieb19 · 21/04/2025 16:23

Why not scrape left overs into the dogs bowl. It is pretty gross.

XenoBitch · 21/04/2025 16:23

Umbilicat · 21/04/2025 16:22

No one surely puts their toilet brush in the dishwasher? That's got to be urban myth. I do remember the thread on here about washing muddy potatoes in the dishwasher

Apparently, there is a recipe for salmon that involves "cooking" it in the dishwasher.

2107emc · 21/04/2025 16:23

YANBU: I let the dog lick the plates here too. And drink the dregs of my tea 😂But yeah, I probably would pretend to be more civilized in front of guests.

viques · 21/04/2025 16:23

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 21/04/2025 16:08

This thread has made me laugh.

We have a cat, and he will always try and get in amongst whatever we're eating - there are certain things I am happy for him to lick the plates after (he's thrilled we're into Greek yoghurt/granola season for breakfast, and he loves scrambled eggs) but even I draw the line at doing this with company around. My mother hates cats in general and would be beyond horrified to see him licking a plate.

He has his own dishes which get rinsed and go in the dishwasher along with everything else, perhaps our standards are particularly low.

My dd used to always take a glass of water up to bed with her. She switched to a water bottle after the time she woke up to find her cat helping himself to a drink. She couldn’t help wondering how many other times they had shared.

Puttinginthemiles · 21/04/2025 16:23

Arniesaxe · 21/04/2025 16:17

Wouldn't bother me either. Dog saliva isn't harmful to humans.

I suppose if you don't mind the - albeit small - risk of worms or capnocytophaga canimorsus..

UndermyShoeJoe · 21/04/2025 16:22

Gloriia · 21/04/2025 16:21

Maybe thr surgeon just has his pet dog on standby..

That’s just leads me back to the whole how does a blind person know they are finished wiping and someone went that’s what the dogs for… 😬

tezzz · 21/04/2025 16:22

Sorry OP but that’s disgusting, I would not eat/ or let my kids eat using your plates & cutlery. You are probably correct that the dishwasher would kill germs but that’s still gross 🤮

XenoBitch · 21/04/2025 16:22

UndermyShoeJoe · 21/04/2025 16:20

I thought it was a spit and polish 😅

Yes, especially if they can't get a clear picture. Pull it out, spit n polish, and try again.

Umbilicat · 21/04/2025 16:22

No one surely puts their toilet brush in the dishwasher? That's got to be urban myth. I do remember the thread on here about washing muddy potatoes in the dishwasher

UndermyShoeJoe · 21/04/2025 16:21

Jackrussellsaremad · 21/04/2025 16:20

It's the same sort of thing as if the dog licks a perfectly good block of butter. Just scrape it off with a knife (if you've noticed the lick marks) and crack on.

That sort of thing doesn't bother me in the slightest. But a flushing loo within 2 metres of a toothbrush absolutely revolts me. There's just no accounting for some people's contrary views!

Oh no no no. That butter would be in the bin so fast. I’ve caught the cats trying to steal a chicken wing before. Bin. No reward of getting it either.

Livelovebehappy · 21/04/2025 16:21

Absolutely no problem imo. But you’ve made a mistake posting this on MN. MNetters love an excuse to froth at the mouth over dogs even existing, so I predict they will be pouring onto this thread in joyful anticipationto say it’s disgusting, and that you deserve to be excommunicated by all your friends and family, to live in purgatory forever, and that there’s a special place in hell for you….😄

XenoBitch · 21/04/2025 16:21

Caerulea · 21/04/2025 16:18

Nothing wrong with this & ppl are being a bit silly about it imo. If you're happy to let a dishwasher clean raw chicken/seafood off of things then dog lick is really no problem at all. What exactly do you think is going to happen?

They slowly and gradually turn into a dog.

Gloriia · 21/04/2025 16:21

viques · 21/04/2025 16:18

I think they give it a quick wipe with a wet wipe between patients though !

Maybe thr surgeon just has his pet dog on standby..

Heronwatcher · 21/04/2025 16:21

I think it’s one of those things where everyone probably knows it happens but you don’t do it in front of guests. Like having sex, or picking your nose.

It probably would turn my stomach even though I also know a dishwasher would kill germs.

UndermyShoeJoe · 21/04/2025 16:20

XenoBitch · 21/04/2025 16:19

Nah, a quick run under the tap 😂

I thought it was a spit and polish 😅

Gloriia · 21/04/2025 16:20

Those that let dogs lick plates please do inform any guests you may have prior to any gatherings involving food and drink.

I guarantee you'll see a massive drop off from those accepting invitations 🤮..

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