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Dig licking plates before going into dishwasher - ick or not

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Happyspendingthedayinthegarden · 21/04/2025 15:11

Have have hosted a lovely Easter BH Monday for all 7 GC, 3 step children, partners & children. We had an Easter egg hunt in garden, had breakfast in local farm shop & walked my lovely little dog around, petted animals etc.

For context I need to say that DSS & DIL are both British, but live in USA.

After a roast dinner I put the plates & general pots & pans down for the dog to lick. My DIL lost the plot saying that was so unhygienic I assured her that they would be going into the dishwasher on a high temperature - about 90c so would be sterilised. I always let the dog pre-wash my plates as consider it's going into the dishwasher at high temp to be sterilised so no problem.

DIL saying she will never let her children eat at my house again & gone-taken her DH & DC off in an huff.

DH has had a text from his son apologising but saying what can he do as has to support his wife. I totally get that. But....

My question is - is it OK to let dog lick out the plates etc when they are going into dishwasher at a high temp? WWUD?

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Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 16:47

XenoBitch · 21/04/2025 16:47

Cutlery has been in other people's mouths. Do you not trust your dishwasher to clean properly?

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Other people's mouths have not been eating shit!

Zone2NorthLondon · 21/04/2025 16:47

Minging, I’d think you’re unhygienic skank and wouldn’t visit again
If that’s you on in front of guests, being nice and all, shudder to think of your filthy habits when relaxed

Mothership4two · 21/04/2025 16:47

Most people quite clearly understand what a dishwasher does. Do people not understand that we all have personal mores and dos and don'ts? It's the thought of it that is off-putting.

XenoBitch · 21/04/2025 16:47

shuggles · 21/04/2025 16:45

@Happyspendingthedayinthegarden That's absolutely disgusting OP.

My DIL lost the plot saying that was so unhygienic I assured her that they would be going into the dishwasher on a high temperature - about 90c so would be sterilised.

You cannot "sterilise" cutlery in a dishwasher.

Further reading for the poorly informed: https://www.healio.com/news/infectious-disease/20180816/qa-bacteria-in-dog-and-cat-saliva-can-makes-humans-sick

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Cutlery has been in other people's mouths. Do you not trust your dishwasher to clean properly?

Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 16:47

Do you bogans wipe your bums on your towels to save on toilet paper?

UndermyShoeJoe · 21/04/2025 16:46

Thing is the argument the dish washer cleans it doesn’t change the visual.

I wouldn’t want to actually watch my chef have a poo then cook for me even if he did wash his hands.

Dog lick plates are the same. Yes they might get cleaned but the visual is there.

Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 16:46

MyLimeZebra · 21/04/2025 16:45

No because I can’t wash my mattress? Ridiculous comparison 😂

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Ah, so that's the only reason?

Megifer · 21/04/2025 16:46

Gloriia · 21/04/2025 16:33

'I don’t know whether people are going to admit that though'

Well the plate licking dog owners on here don't seem to think there's anything wrong with it so surely they'd happily share with guests?

I wouldn't share it

Like I wouldn't say "oh BTW I use old pants and socks as cleaning cloths" or "guess what? I've just let out a silent non-smelly fart so you're breathing in literal shit clouds right now, just thought you should know" or "just to advise you, i once vomited on that cushion you're leaning on"

MyLimeZebra · 21/04/2025 16:45

Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 16:41

I bet you pee your bed too - it'll get washed, right?

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No because I can’t wash my mattress? Ridiculous comparison 😂

Fgdvevfvdvfbdv · 21/04/2025 16:45

Before I had a dog I found the whole idea disgusting, then we got a dog and I started letting him eat the leftovers from them because in all of our eyes he is another member of the family. He licks our faces anyway so it makes no difference to us!

I don’t think I would do it with guests plates though because I’m aware a lot of people wouldn’t like it.

shuggles · 21/04/2025 16:45

@Happyspendingthedayinthegarden That's absolutely disgusting OP.

My DIL lost the plot saying that was so unhygienic I assured her that they would be going into the dishwasher on a high temperature - about 90c so would be sterilised.

You cannot "sterilise" cutlery in a dishwasher.

Further reading for the poorly informed: https://www.healio.com/news/infectious-disease/20180816/qa-bacteria-in-dog-and-cat-saliva-can-makes-humans-sick

Crazyworldmum · 21/04/2025 16:45

Your Dil is probably one of those very anal people who thinks dogs are disgusting and thinks the kids will die from slober or dog hair . Basically paranoid people ! Ignore her . Tell her you will order them pizza and paper plates next time 🙄

Robinsinthegarden · 21/04/2025 16:45

Urghhhhh (and we have a dog)

Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 16:44

constantcycle · 21/04/2025 16:44

No, but that's why you then put the dishes in the dishwasher!

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I prefer my dishes without shit, thank you - before OR after the dishwasher.

godmum56 · 21/04/2025 16:44

gamerchick · 21/04/2025 16:38

It's gross and installs bad manners in your dogs.

But then, we knew a couple who used to.let the dogs lick the plates and just put them back in the cupboard. Dogs tongues are hygienic apparently.

I never eat at other people's houses.

no it doesn't......you can say its gross but don't talk nonsense about the effect it has on dogs' manners

UndermyShoeJoe · 21/04/2025 16:44

SnakesAndArrows · 21/04/2025 16:41

For those with pets who don’t put the pet bowls in the dishwasher, how are you cleaning them?

I mean surely the pet lick cleans them.

BananaPalm · 21/04/2025 16:44

VicksJunkie · 21/04/2025 15:16

Grim as fuck.

This 100%! I can’t believe you have to ask 🤢

constantcycle · 21/04/2025 16:44

Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 16:38

Do your humans eat shit with their cutlery and lick their bums with their saliva?

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No, but that's why you then put the dishes in the dishwasher!

Livelovebehappy · 21/04/2025 16:44

XenoBitch · 21/04/2025 16:42

We lick them. Obviously.

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😅

historyismything82 · 21/04/2025 16:43

Good grief, I wish there was a 'disgust' react emoji for some MN comments 🤣🤢

I have a big hairy, slobbery GSD and there is no way I would let him lick the plates. Not only is it gross but I would be teaching him awful manners.

Boomer55 · 21/04/2025 16:42

I don’t use the silly word “ick” but it is very yuck. 🤮

GroupDiscountOnTheBusToHell · 21/04/2025 16:42

I’m a dog owner, and I have an dishwasher, and I think that’s grim. I don’t care that temperature wise they should be clean and hygienic enough to eat off, just the thought of it makes me feel ill.

Our dog bowls get washed in the sink with their own separate scrubber and are dried with paper towels.

I haven’t been to stay with my in-laws since we got up in the morning and they opened the dishwasher to get plates out for breakfast, and also took the dog bowls out, as they’d washed them with the human dishes. Other in-laws put a plate on the floor for the dog to lick after dinner and said ‘we wouldn’t normally do this’ which left me thinking ‘so why do it now then?’. Never ate there again.

XenoBitch · 21/04/2025 16:42

SnakesAndArrows · 21/04/2025 16:41

For those with pets who don’t put the pet bowls in the dishwasher, how are you cleaning them?

We lick them. Obviously.

godmum56 · 21/04/2025 16:42

Gloriia · 21/04/2025 16:20

Those that let dogs lick plates please do inform any guests you may have prior to any gatherings involving food and drink.

I guarantee you'll see a massive drop off from those accepting invitations 🤮..

ooo cool! wish i had known this YEARS ago!

Twiglets1 · 21/04/2025 16:42

My husband does that occasionally and I turn a blind eye to it.

However, I wouldn't do it or allow him to do it in front of other people - it does feel unhygienic even if it actually isn't due to temperature of the dishwasher.