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Dig licking plates before going into dishwasher - ick or not

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Happyspendingthedayinthegarden · 21/04/2025 15:11

Have have hosted a lovely Easter BH Monday for all 7 GC, 3 step children, partners & children. We had an Easter egg hunt in garden, had breakfast in local farm shop & walked my lovely little dog around, petted animals etc.

For context I need to say that DSS & DIL are both British, but live in USA.

After a roast dinner I put the plates & general pots & pans down for the dog to lick. My DIL lost the plot saying that was so unhygienic I assured her that they would be going into the dishwasher on a high temperature - about 90c so would be sterilised. I always let the dog pre-wash my plates as consider it's going into the dishwasher at high temp to be sterilised so no problem.

DIL saying she will never let her children eat at my house again & gone-taken her DH & DC off in an huff.

DH has had a text from his son apologising but saying what can he do as has to support his wife. I totally get that. But....

My question is - is it OK to let dog lick out the plates etc when they are going into dishwasher at a high temp? WWUD?

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XenoBitch · 21/04/2025 19:44

Balhama · 21/04/2025 19:36

DIL has overreacted and flouncing off after being hosted all day is incredibly rude. Her husband sounds like a drip tbh.

However, I have a bigger issue with people licking plates and bowls. Some really do people have appalling table manners.

I made an awesome lamb roast yesterday and damn right I licked the plate.

pigsDOfly · 21/04/2025 19:43

A dishwasher doesn't sterilise. 90 degrees isn't hot enough to sterilise the plates.

I love my dog but there's no way I'd share my tableware with her. She has her own bowls and she eats out of those. I wouldn't want to eat off anything she's eaten from even if it's been thorough scrubbed. It's just unpleasant.

I also don't give my dog human food: the salt, the onions and the grease in the average roast dinner makes it unsuitable for dogs.

Balhama · 21/04/2025 19:36

DIL has overreacted and flouncing off after being hosted all day is incredibly rude. Her husband sounds like a drip tbh.

However, I have a bigger issue with people licking plates and bowls. Some really do people have appalling table manners.

Iammatrix · 21/04/2025 19:36

SnakesAndArrows · 21/04/2025 19:04

Do you use a separate disposable cloth?

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No! I don’t use a cloth. A squirt of Ecover,
rubber gloves, hot water, rub,rub,rinse!

I do use kitchen towel to dry though.

Oneapenny2 · 21/04/2025 19:32

bugalugs45 · 21/04/2025 17:49

I let my dog lick my face so I really can’t talk 🤣

Sadly if a dog licked my face,hands,arms etc I'd be covered in welt like hives so it's a huge no from me & they'd be getting nowhere near my plates & cutlery 😐

Tryingtokeepgoing · 21/04/2025 19:31

Has anyone pointed out that most standard dishwashers don’t have a 90 degree (C) wash cycle…? Though they might reach near that in the rinse / dry cycle So these dishes could only have been washed at 60 degrees 🤮

TyrannasaurusJex · 21/04/2025 19:25

My husband's grandparents let the dog do this and it almost makes me puke everytime. Absolutely rank.

NeverKnowinglyUnderstated · 21/04/2025 19:24

If I was at someone's house and they did this, I'd think that was incredibly grim and wouldn't want to eat there ever again either.
However, I am extremely hypocritical because my little cat loves custard so I always let her lick the bowl out.....🤦
Your mistake was doing it in front of guests!

Bonniethetiler · 21/04/2025 19:24

GoldenRosebee · 21/04/2025 19:21

Americans often drop F (fahrenheit) and just say X degrees.

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Well that makes some sense now.

Bonniethetiler · 21/04/2025 19:23

Clafoutie · 21/04/2025 19:19

So the dog-licked dishes don’t even get washed immediately but sit in the dishwasher for a bit?! 😕
I do find it all a bit grim, but I also think your DIL overreacted in storming off

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It has to be remembered / understood that bacteria etc. don't move far of their own accord, they need help. So arguably a plate left standing in a dishwasher which is eventually cleaned when the sealed door is closed, by washing violently at high temperatures in a sealed space is preferable to doing it by hand right away and moving the pathogens around the kitchen surfaces.

But ultimately, if there's one thing we can all be sure of, it's that not one person posting on this thread has actually died, no matter what their domestic choices are.

GoldenRosebee · 21/04/2025 19:21

Bonniethetiler · 21/04/2025 19:17

90c and not 90 degrees?

How do the two differ?

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Americans often drop F (fahrenheit) and just say X degrees.

Fabulousagain · 21/04/2025 19:20

Grim as fuck.

Clafoutie · 21/04/2025 19:19

Happyspendingthedayinthegarden · 21/04/2025 15:45

Licking the spoon that your dog had licked - now that is gross.😖

I put it on at a high temp because dog has pre-washed the items, As is usually just the 2 of us & we only do dishwashing about twice maybe 3 times a week.

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So the dog-licked dishes don’t even get washed immediately but sit in the dishwasher for a bit?! 😕
I do find it all a bit grim, but I also think your DIL overreacted in storming off

XenoBitch · 21/04/2025 19:18

LadyNairne · 21/04/2025 19:17

Some dogs eat shit.

I don’t want particles of excrement going on my plate and circling around my dishwasher. I don’t want my plates and pans being washed in poo water even if it is very hot pooey water!

if you saw a restaurant allowing dogs to lick the plates and pans clean would you eat there again? No as they’d be shut down! Same thing at home. Gross gross gross.

My mum takes her dog to a place where they have a dog menu. He eats off the same plates people do.

The place still has a 5 star hygiene rating.

Bonniethetiler · 21/04/2025 19:17

GoldenRosebee · 21/04/2025 19:11

Dishwasher water isn't hot enough... are you sure that water is 90c and not 90 degrees?

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90c and not 90 degrees?

How do the two differ?

LadyNairne · 21/04/2025 19:17

Some dogs eat shit.

I don’t want particles of excrement going on my plate and circling around my dishwasher. I don’t want my plates and pans being washed in poo water even if it is very hot pooey water!

if you saw a restaurant allowing dogs to lick the plates and pans clean would you eat there again? No as they’d be shut down! Same thing at home. Gross gross gross.

Kellybonita · 21/04/2025 19:14

I do think that some dog owners can be a bit nuts.

I was watching an instagram page. It's called second date update. It's this radio show in the USA. If people had a first date, but then never hear from the person again, they can email the show and get them to call the person and ask why.

On this one call, the guy said he didn't want to see the woman again because she was so weird with her dog. The woman was weird.

The woman got on the phone and said "but that's my child!" And she said " you're over reacting , non dog owners don't understand "

XenoBitch · 21/04/2025 19:13

Kellybonita · 21/04/2025 19:07

And the dog licks the bum of any other dog that he encounters.

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I have a dog and she has never licked another dog's bum. They have a sniff. They don't lick.

Why are the more vocal dog haters on MN obsessed with their assholes?

Iammatrix · 21/04/2025 19:13

Gloriia · 21/04/2025 18:25

'We let our dogs lick plates, bowls, saucepans, meat trays casserole dishes the lot, then they go in dish washer, my dogs my house my rules snyone that doesn't like it don't come, I don't want you here. Its that simple'

Yes and that is fine but do tell any potential guests that you have such poor hygiene standards so that they are aware and won't eat or drink at your house.

I think most of us ask our guests if the have any food allergies/likes/dislikes.

I think it might be polite to let them know about the doggie ‘pre wash’ as well. They could then decide if they might want to make other plans!

GoldenRosebee · 21/04/2025 19:11

Happyspendingthedayinthegarden · 21/04/2025 15:11

Have have hosted a lovely Easter BH Monday for all 7 GC, 3 step children, partners & children. We had an Easter egg hunt in garden, had breakfast in local farm shop & walked my lovely little dog around, petted animals etc.

For context I need to say that DSS & DIL are both British, but live in USA.

After a roast dinner I put the plates & general pots & pans down for the dog to lick. My DIL lost the plot saying that was so unhygienic I assured her that they would be going into the dishwasher on a high temperature - about 90c so would be sterilised. I always let the dog pre-wash my plates as consider it's going into the dishwasher at high temp to be sterilised so no problem.

DIL saying she will never let her children eat at my house again & gone-taken her DH & DC off in an huff.

DH has had a text from his son apologising but saying what can he do as has to support his wife. I totally get that. But....

My question is - is it OK to let dog lick out the plates etc when they are going into dishwasher at a high temp? WWUD?

Dishwasher water isn't hot enough... are you sure that water is 90c and not 90 degrees?

Summertimeblahness · 21/04/2025 19:10

Bleurgh, my children wouldn’t be returning either.

lactofree · 21/04/2025 19:07

Revolting

Kellybonita · 21/04/2025 19:07

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 21/04/2025 19:04

Do you not lick your partner's bollocks? (Or vagina if you're a lesbian).
At least the dog licks his own.

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And the dog licks the bum of any other dog that he encounters.

SnakesAndArrows · 21/04/2025 19:07

Missohnoyoubetterdont · 21/04/2025 16:54

@XenoBitch The colonoscopes are washed by the endoscopy tech or other endoscopy staff using a special sponge that has cleansers made for cleaning the scope. There are special attachments that are then placed on it and it’s placed into a special washing machine. The attachments are connected to lines that run a Glutaraldehyde solution through the scope to clean and disinfect the inside of the scope when the machine is running. It also cleans the outside of the scope and rinses it. Sometime an alcohol solution is used as a final rinse. There are special test strips that can be used to test if the colonoscope has any biological matter or residue. If anything is detected it is re-cleaned the same as above and tested again. I don’t think a normal dishwasher does the same for dog licked plates. 🤣

If any endoscopy suite has been decontaminating endoscopes like this any time in the last 25 years the CQC will want to know about it.

Kellybonita · 21/04/2025 19:05

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 21/04/2025 19:04

Do you not lick your partner's bollocks? (Or vagina if you're a lesbian).
At least the dog licks his own.

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A lot of women on here are single for a start.