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To be mad at my MIL for interrupting breastfeeding session

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DasMama · 21/04/2025 14:40

I’m married with a 6 month baby. My family lives abroad and we go visit my in laws once a week. My MIL is noisy and wants to be with baby all the time when we visit to the point that yesterday when I was breastfeeding baby and she was about to fall asleep she kept on talking to her, then even took her hand off my hand so that she would wrap her own finger (my MIL’s). I really wanted to tell her off but didn’t do it out of respect for my husband. AIBU to find this almost violent and a violation of a precious mum-baby moment?

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Everydayimhuffling · 21/04/2025 14:56

You are over thinking but underreacting. It isn't some massive violation, but it would be worth quietly saying, "the baby is going to sleep. Please don't disturb her."

Stickortwigs · 21/04/2025 14:54

Irritating maybe but that’s very dramatic language. And on balance I’d rather have a MIL who loved and wanted to be involved GC.

Laiste · 21/04/2025 14:53

I'd visit less - once every two weeks. Husband can take the baby round on the other weekends for a couple of hours if he wants to. Gives you a bit of space and takes away the 'competition' between you and MIL for baby's attention.

Didimum · 21/04/2025 14:52

Keeping her awake when you are trying to get her down for a nap is a separate issue.

BethDuttonYeHaw · 21/04/2025 14:51

‘Violent and a violation ‘ is total hyperbole

midly irritating at most.

ComtesseDeSpair · 21/04/2025 14:50

Your baby is six months old: I suspect most people assume you’re well past seeing feeding it as a precious moment. It might be annoying if you aren’t particularly fond of your in laws, but it’s not violent or a violation: women have pushed hard for breastfeeding to be seen as a perfectly normal activity suitable for doing in public, the idea that it’s somehow such a violation to interrupt it is the antithesis of that.

Easipeelerie · 21/04/2025 14:49

I’d visit her less. If you don’t feel you could discuss this with your husband, then that’s a concern.

TheCurious0range · 21/04/2025 14:46

It's annoying but it's not violent.
I used to go and sit somewhere quiet to bf when we had a house full so baby wasn't disturbed