To be mad at my MIL for interrupting breastfeeding session

AutumnLeaves24 · 27/12/2025 16:07

LowkeyLoco · 27/12/2025 15:38

Apologise for what? It’s a public forum and people can respond to any post whenever they like. Get a grip.

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Stop being so rude.

yes you 'can' respond to any post, but just because you 'can' doesn't mean you should or that it's not annoying.

if you reply quoting a post that's months old, completely irrelevant to the poster & the OP, don't be surprised that they will find it annoying.🙇🏻‍♀️

godmum56 · 27/12/2025 15:50

uh oh

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Sleepasaurus · 27/12/2025 15:44

What would she do if you politely asked for some privacy while you settled the baby?

The violent, violated part makes me think that maybe there’s a culture clash?

ReturnToRiding · 27/12/2025 15:41

It’s annoying. You should have asked her politely but firmly for some space.
Violent? Get a grip, she didn’t punch you in the faces

LowkeyLoco · 27/12/2025 15:38

AutumnLeaves24 · 27/12/2025 15:36

Don't be rude.

I don't need to calm down, you could try apologising instead.

despite the thread being revived 🙄, it's all irrelevant to the OP months & months later.

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Apologise for what? It’s a public forum and people can respond to any post whenever they like. Get a grip.

AutumnLeaves24 · 27/12/2025 15:36

LowkeyLoco · 27/12/2025 09:12

Because somehow the thread has ended up back in active and I didn’t check the dates of the previous posts. Calm down a bit maybe?

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Don't be rude.

I don't need to calm down, you could try apologising instead.

despite the thread being revived 🙄, it's all irrelevant to the OP months & months later.

LowkeyLoco · 27/12/2025 09:12

AutumnLeaves24 · 27/12/2025 01:44

Why are you quoting my post from APRIL???

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Because somehow the thread has ended up back in active and I didn’t check the dates of the previous posts. Calm down a bit maybe?

AutumnLeaves24 · 27/12/2025 01:44

LowkeyLoco · 26/12/2025 19:54

I disagree because the OP was breastfeeding. So her MIL was clearly getting close enough to the OP’s body and her breasts to disturb the baby and pull the baby’s hand away. I would absolutely see it as a violation if my MIL got that close to my body in that situation. It’s not as if she was bottle feeding.

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Why are you quoting my post from APRIL???

Justcheeseatthispoint · 26/12/2025 20:23

Don’t be daft. Stop exaggerating and being precious.

stichguru · 26/12/2025 20:22

"AIBU to find this almost violent and a violation of a precious mum-baby moment?"

You can be annoyed that your mother in law touched baby at that time, but you can't use the phrase "almost violent and a violation" to describe a non-violent act that didn't violate anything, no.

Crochetandtea · 26/12/2025 20:07

Your baby is her grandchild. She obviously adores them. Honestly grow up and let her be a granny. You will appreciate her help in the future.

Hobnobswantshernameback · 26/12/2025 20:00

ZOMBIE THREAD

Pepperedpickles · 26/12/2025 19:59

RawBloomers · 21/04/2025 15:26

If this sort of thing is happening once a week I really think you should suck it up and be glad your MiL is enamoured with her DGC.

If your weekly visit isn’t the only time it’s happening, find a way to kindly assert some boundaries while giving your MiL plenty of time with her DGC.

The violent/violation language is, as pp said, hyperbolic and letting yourself label it as such is not going to be good for your relationship with your MiL or your mental health generally. Deep breaths, remind yourself it’s a DGM who loves your DC and you are going home in a few hours. Let it wash over you.

This.

Is it really worth getting this worked up over if it’s just once a week? You’ll look back on this in years to come and feel a bit daft if your MIL goes on to have a good relationship with your child.

LowkeyLoco · 26/12/2025 19:54

AutumnLeaves24 · 21/04/2025 14:57

Violent? Violation?

noooooooo no no no no

irritating, yes.

you don't need to 'tell her off'

Just ask her not to do it.

I disagree because the OP was breastfeeding. So her MIL was clearly getting close enough to the OP’s body and her breasts to disturb the baby and pull the baby’s hand away. I would absolutely see it as a violation if my MIL got that close to my body in that situation. It’s not as if she was bottle feeding.

Thuraya17 · 26/12/2025 19:49

DasMama · 21/04/2025 14:40

I’m married with a 6 month baby. My family lives abroad and we go visit my in laws once a week. My MIL is noisy and wants to be with baby all the time when we visit to the point that yesterday when I was breastfeeding baby and she was about to fall asleep she kept on talking to her, then even took her hand off my hand so that she would wrap her own finger (my MIL’s). I really wanted to tell her off but didn’t do it out of respect for my husband. AIBU to find this almost violent and a violation of a precious mum-baby moment?

I mean I would personally leave the room and close the door, lock it if possible and I definitely wouldn’t go once per week.

Owly11 · 23/11/2025 12:31

Stop exaggerating (it's not violence) and politely ask her to stop. If she doesn't stop after you have asked her a few times then take yourself off somewhere private to feed.

Needlesnah · 23/11/2025 12:03

PatThePenguin · 23/11/2025 11:32

The kid's over a year old now so hopefully the OP has learned to manage the situation.

Omg - bloody zombie thread!

itsgettingweird · 23/11/2025 11:36

I’d hate to think what you’d describe an actual violent violation.

Yes it’s annoying. Yes it would annoy me.

But you either just say “she’s trying to sleep I’m going to go somewhere quiet while doing this” or do what you’ve done and keep quiet and seethe dramatically over it.

Most people mature enough to have a baby would do the former.

Absolutely agree with the poster who said we’ve spent years normalising BF and the fact it’s down so naturally is great.

Straightomyhead · 23/11/2025 11:35

I had a similar thing last Christmas when we were at a relative and my little boy was 11 months old. His routine was all over the place as it was Christmas and I was bottle feeding him and my MIL just came over and got in his face and started talking to him and got him wide awake again the frustration I felt in that moment that someone else got involved and he didn’t drop off for a much needed nap.

However I know it wasn’t meant in malice (at least I bloody hope not) so next chance I took him out of the room to try and feed and nap to sleep.

Life’s frustrating but this can be in your control to not let it happen again.

PatThePenguin · 23/11/2025 11:32

The kid's over a year old now so hopefully the OP has learned to manage the situation.

Topseyt123 · 23/11/2025 11:26

It's not violent! She wasn't duffing you up.

It crosses a line though so just tell her firmly not to do it.

HAPPILYMARRIEDSINCE2012 · 23/11/2025 11:25

FortyElephants · 21/04/2025 15:47

You had me until the last sentence. Way too extreme.

This

SlightTickle · 23/11/2025 11:23

And was there some reason why didn’t just whisper ‘Shh, MIL, trying to get her to fall asleep now’?

Needlesnah · 23/11/2025 11:20

BethDuttonYeHaw · 21/04/2025 14:51

‘Violent and a violation ‘ is total hyperbole

midly irritating at most.

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You’re over reacting. Go sit in a quiet room with the door shut if you feed in front of your MIL again. Or simply tell her to step back while you’re feeding. If you don’t say anything she’s not going to realise.

Brefugee · 23/11/2025 11:17

use your words and tell her to stop.