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That saying "Happy Easter" is out of place?

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Ethicaldebacle · 21/04/2025 09:47

We're a Jewish family, and only celebrate Xmas in a secular / Santa way. We celebrate all other main Jewish holidays at home and our friends know this, yet they sent a message of happy Easter. Isn't this out of place? (They even knew we just had a Passover Seder!)

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VickyEadieofThigh · 21/04/2025 11:59

Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 11:53

Some antisemites are sailing awfully close to the wind on this thread.

Examples?

LucyMonth · 21/04/2025 11:58

I can promise you OP that most people who are full to the gills today with Easter chocolate are not practising Christians!

Easter is as non secular as Christmas IMO. For most people it’s a way of celebrating Spring and eating chocolate. Just like Christmas marks winter for many people.

KIlliePieMyOhMy · 21/04/2025 11:57

Wow, tough crowd.

JasmineAllen · 21/04/2025 11:57

Is Easter a really bad thing, insulting thing for the Jewish faith? I don't know if it is or not as I'm not Jewish, but I would assume they are just being nice/polite/friendly and you are massively over thinking it.

If a Jewish person wished me happy Hannukah I'd say thank you and just think they were being nice/spreading a bit of joy and I'd take in the manner it was intended.

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 11:56

Ethicaldebacle · 21/04/2025 11:54

I didn't mean it as an insult, just like it was as meaningful to my dog as it was to me! I mean we both get to spend some extra time off cuddling!

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Glad to hear it and now also really want dog pic please.

thirdfiddle · 21/04/2025 11:56

We're a multicultural society. People tend to wish each other happy-whatever if anyone involved in the conversation is celebrating whatever it is. And sometimes when they're not.

YABU unless you're super devout and all your friends are aware you are unhappy about mention of other people's religious festivals.

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 11:56

Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 11:54

I love how you are telling Jews not to be so oversensitive!

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Why thank you! Weaponised fear is a big problem nowadays.

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 11:55

I actually find bank holiday weekend far more offensive as it's not bank holiday globally and nor am I usually on holiday. It's null. It's joyless. It's tied to Mammon worship and capitalism.

Wish me all the things. Please. Divine and sweet.

Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 11:54

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 11:52

I would take it to mean that they are happy on and with their festival and they are extending happiness to you and would wish you blessed. I work part time overseas in a very mixed place and everyone wishes everyone happy everything. Please don't be so fearful about feeling erased or redefined. Wish them all your festivals back maybe?

Christian God probably likes dogs so the attempted insult misfired.

I love how you are telling Jews not to be so oversensitive!

Hobnobswantshernameback · 21/04/2025 11:54

What did you want from this thread OP?

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Ethicaldebacle · 21/04/2025 11:54

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 11:52

I would take it to mean that they are happy on and with their festival and they are extending happiness to you and would wish you blessed. I work part time overseas in a very mixed place and everyone wishes everyone happy everything. Please don't be so fearful about feeling erased or redefined. Wish them all your festivals back maybe?

Christian God probably likes dogs so the attempted insult misfired.

I didn't mean it as an insult, just like it was as meaningful to my dog as it was to me! I mean we both get to spend some extra time off cuddling!

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Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 11:53

Some antisemites are sailing awfully close to the wind on this thread.

MzHz · 21/04/2025 11:53

I’ve heard it all now.

with all the violence and hatred in the world, someone is sending you good wishes and you get the hump?

take this in the spirit in which it’s meant.

PurpleChrayn · 21/04/2025 11:52

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This made me laugh out loud!

Thanks, I guess 😆

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 11:52

I would take it to mean that they are happy on and with their festival and they are extending happiness to you and would wish you blessed. I work part time overseas in a very mixed place and everyone wishes everyone happy everything. Please don't be so fearful about feeling erased or redefined. Wish them all your festivals back maybe?

Christian God probably likes dogs so the attempted insult misfired.

Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 11:52

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Lovely bit of antisemitism there - would you like to send all Jews to a place far away?

PurpleChrayn · 21/04/2025 11:51

I’m Jewish too, and accepted Easter Greetings in the spirit they were meant.

Why wouldn’t you?

Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 11:50

BlondiePortz · 21/04/2025 10:10

I presume you and your family willing work on the holidays days for normal pay?

Didn't take long for the antisemitism to surface 👀

Smallsalt · 21/04/2025 11:48

You don't do yourself any favors by bothering yourself and being offended by the cultural/religious events in your community.
Really, there is more in the world to to take the huff about

Psychologymam · 21/04/2025 11:48

I got some messages about Eid (I’m not Muslim which they know) from a few of my neighbours and they sent around food. I’ve sent them some Easter cake and good wishes. Neither of us are offended or upset. But maybe just send back a message saying mon Jewish holiday messages are distressing to you and I imagine they’ll never do it again?!

Littlemisscapable · 21/04/2025 11:47

namechangeGOT · 21/04/2025 11:37

Do you get worked up about absolutely everything? Someone has sent something to you in a joyous spirit and you whine about it. Get over yourself.

This I'm afraid they meant nothing by it just a nice message.

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Ethicaldebacle · 21/04/2025 11:45

PotolKimchi · 21/04/2025 11:42

As a brown person, I frequently get people saying Happy Eid to me (I'm not Muslim) and I always say happy eid/eid mubarak to you too back. And I got five Happy Easter text messages yesterday including from the class WhatsApp groups and I'm not Christian either. Seasonal spring eggs sounds absurd. Like a Christmas tree is not a green winter tree, it's just a Christmas tree or diyas for Diwali are just diyas, they are not 'earthern ware vessels for light'. My children are well aware we are not Christian, and I don't do the Easter bunny and are happy to scoff chocolate Easter eggs or ask for an 'advent calendar'.
In my head, the more the festivals, more feasting, the better! The world is miserable enough as it is...

We call the Christmas tree a Hanukkah bush. Although it's more like a lit up olive tree with white and blue decorations.

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PotolKimchi · 21/04/2025 11:42

As a brown person, I frequently get people saying Happy Eid to me (I'm not Muslim) and I always say happy eid/eid mubarak to you too back. And I got five Happy Easter text messages yesterday including from the class WhatsApp groups and I'm not Christian either. Seasonal spring eggs sounds absurd. Like a Christmas tree is not a green winter tree, it's just a Christmas tree or diyas for Diwali are just diyas, they are not 'earthern ware vessels for light'. My children are well aware we are not Christian, and I don't do the Easter bunny and are happy to scoff chocolate Easter eggs or ask for an 'advent calendar'.
In my head, the more the festivals, more feasting, the better! The world is miserable enough as it is...

Pollyanna87 · 21/04/2025 11:41

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Jewishcraic · 21/04/2025 11:38

Also, some Christians keep Passover. I met a Christian buying matza before Passover.