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That saying "Happy Easter" is out of place?

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Ethicaldebacle · 21/04/2025 09:47

We're a Jewish family, and only celebrate Xmas in a secular / Santa way. We celebrate all other main Jewish holidays at home and our friends know this, yet they sent a message of happy Easter. Isn't this out of place? (They even knew we just had a Passover Seder!)

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Hwi · 21/04/2025 12:38

Zebedee999 · 21/04/2025 12:27

You're being massively over sensitive, you live in a Christian country so expect such things and take the in the spirit they are intended instead of getting all offended. What next? Must we ban such things and label then as far right such as has happened with the English national flag?

I am hoping your message won't get removed - I just 'liked' another equally reasonable message and it got removed.

Hairyesterdaygonetoday · 21/04/2025 12:36

When someone wishes me happy anything, I say thank you. Look how easy it is.

VisitationRights · 21/04/2025 12:34

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 12:29

Not true
X also symbolises the Cross

I thought it was representative of the Greek letter chi (X), the first letter of Christ in Greek.

ThinWomansBrain · 21/04/2025 12:33

HelenWheels · 21/04/2025 11:05

in our coop yesterday there was a tannoy announcement saying happy easter to all our customers that celebrate

but buy chocolate eggs and hot cross buns anyway😂

ButThisIsMyHappyFace · 21/04/2025 12:33

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 11:56

Why thank you! Weaponised fear is a big problem nowadays.

Is there a script you guys all read? We’ve had the “you lot want to have our days off and your own as well” and now “you cry antisemitism to beat people”. Honestly, it’s so predictable it’s funny. For a full house, why not go “shut up about your persecution, what about XYZ”? Then you’ll really be winning.

MargaretThursday · 21/04/2025 12:32

JasmineAllen · 21/04/2025 12:08

Are you saying OP finds the idea of being wished happy Easter bad because of something that happened in 1290? Surely no one is that odd?

No. It's much more than that.

I am a Christian, and I would feel wishing someone who is a practicing Jew "Happy Easter" was at best tactless.

The Jews have been persecuted throughout history by many different groups. But one thing that has been used as an excuse against them is "you killed Jesus".
Which clearly is a bit of stupid one because Jesus was Jewish and he was clear he didn't just die just for the Jewish people, but for everyone, so if you believe in him, he died just as much because of what you have done as the people at the time.

But because of that aspect, Easter is more emotive than other religious festivals and I can understand that someone who is Jewish would feel that they didn't want to be wished "Happy Easter".

Happy Passover, OP.

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 12:31

ThinWomansBrain · 21/04/2025 12:29

I might say "have a lovely Easter" as meaning "enjoy the long weekend/spicy buns/chocolate" - but deliberately sending a "Happy Easter" message when they are aware it's not your religion is odd/thoughtless.

I'm not religious, but "happy easter" generally sounds odd as Easter is marking a death.

Resurrection
Love

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 12:31

vickylou78 · 21/04/2025 12:15

You realise Easter was originally a pagan celebration? It's a celebration of spring etc. plenty of non Christians celebrating Easter in a secular way (eggs, bunnies, chicks etc.)

Theologically no, pagan celebrations would belong to the world after the Fall, whereas in the beginning was the Word

ThinWomansBrain · 21/04/2025 12:29

I might say "have a lovely Easter" as meaning "enjoy the long weekend/spicy buns/chocolate" - but deliberately sending a "Happy Easter" message when they are aware it's not your religion is odd/thoughtless.

I'm not religious, but "happy easter" generally sounds odd as Easter is marking a death.

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 12:29

Calliopespa · 21/04/2025 12:24

Most Christians tend not to shorten it.

Not true
X also symbolises the Cross

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 12:28

JasmineAllen · 21/04/2025 12:08

Are you saying OP finds the idea of being wished happy Easter bad because of something that happened in 1290? Surely no one is that odd?

Oh that's a bad faith answer, sorry to see it, bye

Zebedee999 · 21/04/2025 12:27

Ethicaldebacle · 21/04/2025 09:47

We're a Jewish family, and only celebrate Xmas in a secular / Santa way. We celebrate all other main Jewish holidays at home and our friends know this, yet they sent a message of happy Easter. Isn't this out of place? (They even knew we just had a Passover Seder!)

You're being massively over sensitive, you live in a Christian country so expect such things and take the in the spirit they are intended instead of getting all offended. What next? Must we ban such things and label then as far right such as has happened with the English national flag?

toffeeappleturnip · 21/04/2025 12:26

'Mummy, Daddy, when is the seasonal spring bunny coming?'

😆

Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 12:25

VickyEadieofThigh · 21/04/2025 11:59

Examples?

People telling Jews who are unhappy about anything to go live in Israel? Who else in history wanted all Jews sent far away I wonder?

Calliopespa · 21/04/2025 12:24

JasmineAllen · 21/04/2025 12:21

X is short for Christ which is why you get Xmas.

Most Christians tend not to shorten it.

vickylou78 · 21/04/2025 12:24

Here's a bit of the pagan background. The Anglo-Saxon goddess Eostre was associated with spring, fertility, and new beginnings. The word "Easter" is believed to be derived from her name. Fertility Symbols:
Eggs and rabbits are symbols of fertility and rebirth, and were associated with the goddess Eostre.
So I don't think you need to be Christian to wish someone happy Easter or be happy if someone wishes you a happy Easter.

ButThisIsMyHappyFace · 21/04/2025 12:22

PurpleChrayn · 21/04/2025 11:52

This made me laugh out loud!

Thanks, I guess 😆

I love your username. I was in a kosher deli the other day and heard someone trying to pronounce “chrayonnaise”. The person they were with said “idk what that is, that’s some Ashkenazi thing”. 😂

myplace · 21/04/2025 12:22

Why is this ok for you, but Happy Easter isn’t? I am Christian and celebrate enthusiastically and would be totally untroubled by being wished Happy Hanukkah/Passover equivalent.

I have celebrated Passover as part of my Easter celebrations, following Passover traditions as part of Maundy Thursday- obviously I realise I won’t have celebrated as someone Jewish would have, but it’s shared history. Is that why, I wonder?

JasmineAllen · 21/04/2025 12:21

PiggyPigalle · 21/04/2025 12:18

Perhaps have some respect for other religions too. It's Christmas not Xmas. I've worked with many Jewish people over the years and they always referred to it as Christmas. We wouldn't wish you a Happy Xover.

X is short for Christ which is why you get Xmas.

Berlinlover · 21/04/2025 12:21

I’m atheist, I still wish people Happy Easter. For me it’s an excuse to eat Easter eggs and enjoy lamb for dinner. You’re being over sensitive.

PiggyPigalle · 21/04/2025 12:18

Perhaps have some respect for other religions too. It's Christmas not Xmas. I've worked with many Jewish people over the years and they always referred to it as Christmas. We wouldn't wish you a Happy Xover.

GreenCandleWax · 21/04/2025 12:17

Ethicaldebacle · 21/04/2025 09:58

It kind of does. I've never thought of Easter as being secular (unlike Xmas). I send a photo of our dog saying likewise.

Christmas is not secular, it is a religious festival.

ButThisIsMyHappyFace · 21/04/2025 12:16

Jewishcraic · 21/04/2025 11:29

its a shame we don't live in France where the same word, Paque, is used for Easter and Passover.

I would think someone is very thoughtless if they wished me Happy Easter. We are a very religious Jewish family, we don't eat Easter eggs or celebrate it in any way. And since Easter often coincides with Passover, it would be far more appropriate to wish me Happy Passover (as many have done).

I wouldn't be upset, but it would be weird.

Happy chametz eating day for my Jewish friends.

I’ve had sooo much toast this morning!!!!

vickylou78 · 21/04/2025 12:15

Ethicaldebacle · 21/04/2025 09:58

It kind of does. I've never thought of Easter as being secular (unlike Xmas). I send a photo of our dog saying likewise.

You realise Easter was originally a pagan celebration? It's a celebration of spring etc. plenty of non Christians celebrating Easter in a secular way (eggs, bunnies, chicks etc.)

Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 12:15

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 11:56

Why thank you! Weaponised fear is a big problem nowadays.

Yes, and the best way to deal with it is to minimise people's feelings!