Is it just me or is there too much dad bashing on MN?

I’m sick of seeing posts about useless fuckwit men and the handmaidens who hold them to a much lower standard

Yeah it’s you.

Good grief! I've never bothered a man in my life 😳. How unappealing.

WTF are you on about?

Though I have seen replies expressing sympathy for a poster's husband, when the poster really is being ridiculous. "My husband won't join in my Insta post" being the latest example.

Now that's a post policing what other women say!

Ok, then to answer your query no, there isn’t too much dad bashing, just rubbish men being called out. Sometimes it might be unfair but I don’t care.

I agree OP. Women have utter contempt for men on MN. But then I guess it’s confirmation bias, it’s a predominantly female contributing forum that is used to rant.

Most OP’s are chomping at the bit to have their views and reactions endorsed by the sisterhood, like ‘it’s ok babes, your female comrades have got your back from those nasty horrid menny wenny’. I often read posts of women berating their husbands for this, that and the other and think to myself ‘your poor bloody husband’. I sometimes wish that we could hear the other side of the story because there is no doubt that when someone posts moaning about their male partner, how unsupportive he is, how awful is he, how thoughtless he is, they litter it with detail that serves to set the narrative they are wanting, and thus they are met with a barrage of …

Leave him.
Dont put his name on the birth certificate.
You've got DH problem
God, what a cunt, I wouldn’t put up with that.

However, I’ve seen quite a few threads recently of people being more sympathetic to the male recipients of an OP’s wrath.

As someone above says, it’s MN not DN. I call bullshit on loads of what I read on here. But it would be the same over on DN.

The OP was still 'just wondering' being and being ' fed up' isn't an order to stop.
On a wider note I take issue with your cheap insult. If you disagree with mean, fine - say so. I'm curious as to why you felt the need to insult me. I feel that says something about the type of person you are. You couldn't just disagree , you had to get a personal dig in.

You don’t have to read posts you’re not interested in, but you can’t dictate what anyone else writes about.

If you don’t want to see a post ‘bashing’ your behaviour, behave properly!

I am a man and I can say I think 99% of the anti dad posts on here are correct. look
The men who think they are babysitting when they are looking after their own kids
The ones who never get up in the night
the ones who fuck off all weekend at football, golf, cycling
the ones who never think that their partners may need help with the housework/child care/buying gifts for his family/managing the day to day/taking the kids to things

These men deserve all the shit that comes their way on m n (and personally I don't understand why women put up with it).
Those times where the partner is being hard on the dad often result in her being told that.

so mn isn't anti dad...It's anti arseholes

Possibly because it's MUMSNET and not Dadsnet.

Try looking on Dadsnet for the opposite point of view.

Meh. If I'd done the same amount of 'parenting', emotionally, physically and financially as my ex did my DC would have been in care and I'd probably have been in court on neglect charges. So I'll continue to tell people how shit he turned out to be.

All kinds of bashing goes on here

This is a forum, primarily for women involved in parenting. It is to ask for advice, to have a bit of a rant, share thoughts, to let off steam.

So it is completely understandable that one of the key areas of posts will be their husbands/partners contribution to parenting,

Why should that be seen as 'too much dad-bashing'? If someone needs to get something off their chest and Mumsnet provides a safe space to do that, then great. That's the ideal outcome.

My dad was a thoroughly unpleasant person. My ex is the least involved parent imaginable. When it became clear ex had no intention of being a decent parent, I left. But why should I have to hide any of that if I feel the urge to discuss it, OP? (I seldom do) And who are you to police my conversation? If you don't want to see it, read the threads on gardening.

1). People only tend to post when they have something to complain about. So you have confirmation bias that all men are terrible dads. Same as every MIL is terrible and everyone works at a toxic workplace.

2). The bar men is on the floor of hell, so actually no, I don’t think there is too much dad bashing. Where a woman is being unreasonable such as the one blaming her husband for accidentally letting their kid see an Easter egg or the one that was upset because her husband wouldn’t do joint socials about Easter, MN is keen to tell her. But the poster who was told that she had to figure out childcare when she back to work from maternity leave because he earns more than her, I wouldn’t call that a bashing.

If you could share some examples of where you think men have taken a bashing that would be helpful.

Don't be daft. People post threads about the dads who deserve 'bashing'. The ones who don't deserve bashing do not get threads posted about them. That's why it appears skewed towards dad-bashing. Same applies to bad parkers, evil mothers-in-law, bridezillas and umpteen other problems commonly posted about on MN.

the 'just wondering' isn't the problem. It's the following comment the the OP is 'fed-up of seeing' which is the problem. Anyone with a reasonable level of intelligence and reading comprehension could see that.

@Rastyopolis Just you.

Rob
Tim
Rob
Graham
Andy
Grant
David

Do men who have a kid get 'bashed' when they are fully functional, equal household members who perform all drudgery without needing asked, who educate themselves on parenting and child development and really knows their kid, who are intelligent, feminist, do everything the woman does for the kid- if not more?

I noticed the males getting mildly 'bashed' on this one website tend to be scum/deadbeats. Happy to be shown examples where genuinely brilliant men get slagged off.

Many are responsible for their actions.
Women are responsible for their actions. In some cases that action is to have children with an obviously useless man.

I've seen many posts on here where women complain that a man doesn't to his share with the 3 children. Why have a 2nd and 3rd with him then!!!

How is 'Just wonderering' poilcing what women say? Surely that's a willful misinterpretation of the OP?