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Child maintenance

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Teantoast1 · 21/04/2025 07:50

Me and my ex have been broken up for 3 years now, he does pay a private agreed amount every month for child maintenance, however he is due to have another baby in 6 weeks and the closer the time is approaching I’m worried my child will be left out financially,would it be wise to involve csa?

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Wolfpa · 21/04/2025 08:19

If I were in the position that I told someone that maintenance would stay the same and they then went and started a claim it would damage the relationship.

when his new child comes the CSA calculation is going to drop have you ran the figures?

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Teantoast1 · 21/04/2025 08:11

Wolfpa · 21/04/2025 07:56

Are you able to talk to him about it?

if you can’t ask him upfront I would be tempted to leave it and see what happens. If you start a CSA claim preemptively it could be seen as you firing shots and then damage your relationship.

He had reassured me that he won’t miss out but I can’t trust him

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Teantoast1 · 21/04/2025 08:10

I think it is less but if I need extra for uniforms / dinners / clubs he does. I’m worried this will stop

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Wolfpa · 21/04/2025 07:56

Are you able to talk to him about it?

if you can’t ask him upfront I would be tempted to leave it and see what happens. If you start a CSA claim preemptively it could be seen as you firing shots and then damage your relationship.

Bodonka · 21/04/2025 07:55

Is the private amount more than the calculator would suggest? If so, I’d avoid going to CSA as you’ll just end up with less money.

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