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Is problem drinking in a parent always a sign of unhappiness? AIBU to assume it is?

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Decanteref · 21/04/2025 05:16

When my mum was the age I am now she was a problem drinker often getting aggressive after alcohol. She also couldn’t care less whose feelings she hurt in the process -I was a primary school child at the time.

Luckily I haven’t followed suit.I don’t suffer from problematic drinking.

AIBU to think that my mum’s drinking pattern was a sign of unhappiness? She drank lots of strong gin - not much T

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verycloakanddaggers · 21/04/2025 06:53

Only an individual can say why they drink. Some people have underlying emotional causes and some people become dependent on alcohol which creates the problems.

It's really tough having an alcohol-dependent parent. Sorry you had to go through this Flowers

Mikart · 21/04/2025 06:48

Your dm sounds like mine. She was in a difficult marriage with an emotionless man...they married during the war. She drank a lot of gin . Dead at 62.