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Is leaving baby acceptable

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Itsoneofthose · 20/04/2025 23:11

Seeking general opinion here- is it deemed ‘acceptable’ or even perfectly fine to leave your baby with their father or grandmother from a young age such as six weeks old? Say an hour here or there to go to the shops for example? A night to see friends ie 4-5 hours approx once a fortnight ? Or is it privately a bit frowned upon? It’s 2025, and I know what I imagine the general consensus ought to be, but what REALLY is expected? I can’t gauge it.
YABU- leaving baby for any length of time is it on, and really Mother’s should be there permanently.
YANBU- leaving occasionally is fine and healthy.

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MumChp · 20/04/2025 23:18

Of course it is.

Screamingabdabz · 20/04/2025 23:18

Yes, my DH would take over for me to have a nap or an hour to myself. It’s important that baby bonds with their father and grandparents.

Hoardasurass · 20/04/2025 23:18

If your comfortable being away from your baby then ofcourse it's OK and can be extremely beneficial to your mh.
Some mums won't want to leave their baby at a younger age which is OK aswell.
Basically it all depends on how you feel, but whatever you do or don't do some arsehole will judge you for it and tell you that you're wrong

TwelveBlueSocks · 20/04/2025 23:17

You can judge best. You know the baby and the person you are leaving it with.

Kinneddar · 20/04/2025 23:17

Why on earth would you question leaving the baby with their Dad. He's a patent too ofcourse he can look after his child

Hankunamatata · 20/04/2025 23:16

Whatever the mum is happy with.

Stuff anyone else's opinion

Ilovelurchers · 20/04/2025 23:15

Absolutely fine of course.

HereintheloveofChristIstand · 20/04/2025 23:15

It is a shame you are even asking this question. Few fathers would

Strokethefurrywall · 20/04/2025 23:15

It’s 100% fine as long as you’re comfortable with it.
I left my babies from a very young age (DS1 at 3 weeks for a hair appointment, DS2 5 weeks for a photo shoot, was nursing both).

there is no “you are/are not being unreasonable” - it’s nobody else’s business and the only thing that matters is how comfortable you are leaving them.

skippy67 · 20/04/2025 23:15

I left mine with my mum for a few hours when he was 6 weeks old. Me and DH, went out for dinner for my 30th.

NuffSaidSam · 20/04/2025 23:14

It's completely fine. Enjoy yourself.

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