Would you pay back £11?

If you paid for the drinks and the parking, and she paid for the fuel, she still owes you for the ticket IMO.

Similar financial situation to yourself. I wouldn't have followed up on it before I read the drip feed, after the drip feed absolutely do not ask her for it. My rule of thumb is if I can't afford to go, I say no. So in this case you really couldn't afford to go and were relying on a lot of things to make it affordable for you.

Such a fuss about nothing.

Tbh I probs wouldn’t chase it, if it was more defo, but it grinds my gears that you have to chase people that owe you money. They should have the courtesy to pay you back. You literally did them a favour, so having to chase someone for money is a bit CF imo. Whenever someone picks something up or books something I literally pay straight away.

How much was the working and drinks?

Yes, if she drove them you should have paid for the tockets, you are the CF here

I would chase it as you have mentioned you paid for parking and drinks for you both. If she and you agreed she would pay for the tickets then she should do that. I would send her a reminder.

Maybe, if she hadn't asked for your bank details, which to me indicates she was planning to pay... Would the journey have used £22 of petrol? (cost of both tickets)?
Also, if she feels that way, why hasn't she said as much? ' sorry I was going to pay but then realised sharing the cost of the fuel covered the cost of the ticket so we are even'?

Yes. ...always pay your debts it's so rude!
Say hey did you get the right account number as it's not showing in my bank yet? Just checking..

@StolenChanel your friend knows the drink and parking were to cover her giving you a lift.
So yes she owes you £11.
I think she's cheeky, she got a free evening out.
Yes she drove but would have done anyway if on her own.

So she drove but you paid for the drinks and parking, which seems like it should have covered at least your share there, so she can't fairly count that. She agreed to pay for her ticket and she hasn't in spite of already being reminded once.

I think I'd drop it but I'd also drop her. It's just got a ring of petty nastiness to it that would put me off to considering her for a closer friendship. Maybe it's money well spent, to see how annoying she is before you got more tangled up with her.

That completely changes things, 2 hours total driving definitely cancels out the £11, she probably thinks you're being cheeky given the fuel costs you saved and is deliberately ignoring it.

I think it would be a bit cheeky to ask for the £11 now after she has driven you there - sorry!

I would pay it back, because I can't bear to be indebted to others, and I worry that they might need that money for something (even if it's just a small amount).

Going purely on your OP, I was going to say that, IF you were petty chasing 'only £11', then she was just as petty by avoiding paying it.

However, with your drip-feed, I think she might be being kind to you and not outright telling you that you're a CF, and she's just waiting for the penny to drop for you.

I still don't know why she wouldn't just laugh and say "Well considering I paid for the fuel and drove for the whole round-trip, I think we're more than quits, aren't we?!"

So you paid 11 for her ticket
You probably owe her about the same for driving
You paid for drinks
You paid for parking

She owes you for the ticket then, I think. But I probably would let it drop and not do anything with her again.

Yeah. I thought at the begging you were for sure in the rignt

but the fact she drove you an hour….yeah. I’d forget it then.

Damn it- missed the 2 hour drive update. If you would have got public transport otherwise, you’ve come out on top and should leave it. Although probably should have established that you buy the tickets and she’ll drive would be the deal before you went.

Right! Please stop drip-feeding!

If you paid for parking and drinks for her, that covers your share of the fuel costs so she does owe you the £11.

Or is there something else she paid for? The hotel costs?

Tricky if you think she's ignoring your message. But maybe it's just slipped her mind? I thought a friend had forgotten she owed me money a while back (less than £11, I think) but she suddenly remembered anyway and apologised. To be honest, she always wants us to balance costs but I'm not that bothered. When we meet up, we take turns to pay for things, I don't care about counting every penny. But I'd be offended if she didn't pay having said she would. I wouldn't tell her though, unless it was a large amount because I know she wouldn't be doing it on purpose. With other friends we either just take turns and don't count costs or pay for what we each owe at the time. My friend is well off but maybe a bit too literal.

In your case, with someone you are not close to, I might send one more reminder but otherwise let it go. Or you could say, hey let's not bother as you paid for the fuel. Then if you go out together again, decide in advance what you will do re costs.

Ah. I was about to say yes, she should definitely pay you back, but the driving does muddy the water. Guessing it would have cost you the £11 to get there by train or whatever. That said, if your car had been fine and you'd driven, would you have just sucked up the cost of fuel yourself? That's arguably not fair either.

I do think though that not answering your messages about this, but answering others, is not a good sign. Usually means someone is hoping you'll give up asking and they can keep their cash. If you go that route, don't arrange any more events with her, or certainly not without getting payment up front.

I'm changing my vote after this dripfeed. You're both YABU and a bit of a CF.

I wouldn’t chase unless I had the debt collectors banging down my door!
And as she drove and saved you an hours worth of your own petrol you’ve got even less of a reason to remind her, you’re even.