Why do some women not like their husbands?

I think it changes over time. I've never had a 'best' friend, more a group.

Dh was my best friend in my 20s. In hindsight, this was because the friends I'd had since school were all starting to go in different directions and I didn't see them that much. Having said that, dh was a lot of fun and we had so much in common: music, films, art etc and did all sorts of things together.

Then I had dc and the women I met through them became important to me.

There have been many times over 20+ years where dh has driven me mad. But then, I'm no longer the 25 year old he married either.

We've always been a good team, but now the kids are older, we're rediscovering our friendship too. I go out and go on holiday with my friends, but also with dh. It feels like the balance is right.

Maybe they too love spending time with their DH but he works so, rather than sitting around being miserable, they make the best of the situation and attend events together.

But OP do you really not know all this? Did you believe that women regularly marry men they dislike spending time with? It is hard not to conclude that you are simply boasting about your own marriage to a bunch of strangers on the internet! If you are so happy just enjoy it -you’re fortunate.

I agree.

Because my husband winds me the fuck up!

Don't assume what works for you works for other people. I love being with my dh and it’s important to me. But lots of other people don’t want or need that close attachment. The marriage might mean different things to different people. What I simply cannot understand though are those women-and men-who complain about their spouses, sarcastic, cynical and mean about them. I kind of think, just get out if you dislike your spouse. But simpering on about your husband being your best friend and all that and faux misunderstanding is a bit irritating to others OP.

Rampant rabbit 😆

I don’t think there’s any 1 answer to this.
Alot of women have settled.
Alot of men change after marriage.
Alot of people don’t place importance on Easter Sunday.
Why are you bothered though? My partner is also my best friend, absolute favourite person in the world but there may be 1 holiday in the future I’d rather spend with my friends? I don’t think it’s as deep as you think it is.

What does it matter to you what other people are doing? Maybe your friends husbands were working, relaxing after a long week at work, or ill, maybe that was the only day each friend was free to meet. Doesn’t mean they don’t like their husbands!
If you’re happy in your life, spending time with your husband then why do you need to judge what other people are doing?

I would also add friendships are very important. I lost my df some years ago when he was relatively young. He and my dm were joined at the hip and had no friends, just happy to be with each other. It’s been a huge struggle with my dm since his death, as she only has me and my siblings, which has been very full on at times. Would have been so much better for her if she had had solid friendships where she could have created a life for herself after he died.

It all depends on the man as well. If a partner is rolling her eyes towards him, then that's the beginning of the end. Most men stay in relationships because of financial reasons once is goes pear shaped. They don't have a lot of demands.
If you're strong willed as a man then you notice very quickly and put an end to it and move on. Most women tend to think they can do better.

Is that you, Victoria Beckham?

Welll one of us is usually working! Some jobs do include weekends and bank hols you know. The work juggle is a real struggle for some families with no family or outside help - time off together is an absolute luxury.

Plus with neurodivergent kids, sometimes we just need a break and the only way to get that is when the other parent has them. You are very naive (& lucky), you should just enjoy your privileged set up and stop judging others.

The Easter hols span over four days. I spent Good Friday shopping with DH. I spent Saturday with him having a meal and going on a local long dog walk. I spent yesterday with a friend having a coffee and a catch up. I think, no matter how much you enjoy your DHs company, it’s healthy to have communication with others too. But of course everyone’s different. You’re just wrong in your assumption that just because someone might meet a friend instead of spending that time with your dh, that this must mean they don’t like him.

This. It's unhealthy and unsustainable to put all of your relational needs on one person.

Why are you blaming the female for this? Maybe it's the man that wants to do his own thing and doesn't want to spend time with his family and the rest of the family have no choice but to go with it so they make the most of it and have a lovely time with the kids and/or friends?

You can like your husband and still like separate time.
i love my husband, he’s my favourite person in the whole world but we aren’t attached at the hip, I'm not going to turn down a fun event with friends to sit at home doing nothing just because my husband is there.
have a balance

Again, it depends on the family. Wealth has nothing to do with it in regard to weekends, weather you allow your dc playdates or go to birthday parties. I feel sorry for children that parents do this. Children should be able to spend time with friends on the weekend once in a while or do things outside of the family. I know a couple families that tend to enforce the family only weekend rule (no parties, sports, playdates etc) and they are not wealthy (just appear normal finances).

The holiday thing, of course, if you cannot afford to go as an entire family, then you can't do it. But sometimes there are reasons for people not wanting to go on every holiday together. Different schedules for school holidays, other engagements etc.

It isn't always about always wanting to be with them.

What I choose what I'd like to do on a free day depending on how I feel. I absolutely love a day to myself with my husband at work and son at nursery. I love to spend a whole day drinking cocktails with friends or going to a gig. And then on other days of course I like to be with my husband and son.

I love my husband and family, but I don't want to spend every second with them. I don't always want to be with them. I absolutely need time away, a balanced life and time with others to ensure I am the best person for them. Doesn't mean I don't love them the most or wouldn't prioritise them.

I can't fathom people who marry people they don't want to always be with.

I love a bit of alone time, I like time with my friends. I like time with my family.

If you asked me my preference for a "free" day, I'd choose spending it with my husband and daughter. Wouldn't you? Why?

Ah yes, you have it better. Well done you.

That seems like a hugely unhealthy dynamic.

Misery loves company.

Don't worry about it OP. Honestly, the amount of normal, rational posts I've seen on here be pulled apart like a carcass by a vulture has surprised me through the years. People either willingly or unwillingly, don't get the point. Don't take it personally OP!

Of course women never do.

I can't fathom married people who always have to spend time together and have no other life or decent friendships, it sounds very boring. My husband says I'm his best friend, but he doesn't have many friends 🤭 Obviously a couple spends time together, lots of it if they live together and have done for many years 🤷🏻‍♀️