Why do some women not like their husbands?

You can never win on mumsnet.
I just leave a comment and i move on.

And some of what I read on MN they hate their husbands cos their husbands are shite.

Not everyone has a great husband, but those of us that do spend time with them. Which also seems to be seen as sad.

Basically, you can't win.

Some of what i read on MN some women need to lower their expectations.
Some want a human atm some cant get enough money their husbands can never do right and will find wrong in everything.

Shh OP, you’re making it worse for yourself

@UmidontknowThat sounds a perfect setup and not too dissimilar to ours

Omg this ( second paragraph), speaking as a parent of now adult ND kids. My OH and I made a great tag team so the other could have a break

A couple don't have to live in one another's pocket to prove they 'like' each other.

I love my husband and would choose spending time with him over my friends but fuck me he dosent half get on my last bastard nerve.

50% of my time is spent loving him
50% of my other time is debating which pillow to use to smother him

I love my partner with all my heart but we are very different with different interests. We are both fairly independent and happily go off for days out with out each other. He took our daughter to London last weekend and I took her to lambing day this weekend. We don't call each other through the day unless it's important (that would drive me insane) and spending too much time together would be too much - thats how we work best. But we do all sit down at the end off the day for dinner and talk about each others day. You do not have to be joined at the hip to love each other.

From someone that was with her husband for 25yrs, had children together, were best friends…to a widow suddenly and unexpectedly. My advice to anyone that wants to hear it is…if you love them, cherish them, tell them how much they mean to you, make the memories and take the photos even when you think you look a mess….because one day, the memories and the photos will be all you have left of them. Regret is a bitch to live with and none of us are guaranteed tomorrow. I always thought I’d spend the rest of my life with him, turns out he spent the rest of his life with me 😔

I'm very lucky he's incredibly handy. He leaves the gas alone, because he's not registered, but everything else he can do to a pretty good standard.

Flat pack furniture though, I have to leave because that does induce the swearing 🤬

Oh how I wish he’d put his energy into doing something useful! Although when he does do diy I generally have to leave the house to escape the swearing- it does not come naturally to him! 😂

OP is goady but honestly she has a point because on MN specifically this weird "everyone hates their husband" vibe is normalised to the point that it's one of the number one things non-MNers know about the site (number one being the transphobia, number two the class paranoia, number three "everyone hates their husband there").

It lowers the bar for young women - as if hating your life partner is inevitable after a few years so why bother looking for someone you actually like. Or all men are twats so you may as well settle for the first one who'll give you babies. No, young women should be learning never to settle for anyone they're not compatible with, and that being single is preferable to the alternative.

My husband is really bad at "relaxing". He's currently teaching DD how to paint walls. I've done a bit of housework but am mostly chilling.

It's an excellent dynamic, especially because he does actually like DIY so he feels like he's busy AND doing something he likes 😂

Because although I love my husband more than anything we have lives! We spend plenty of time together but we will also have times when he has things planned and so I’ll go out with my friends and (when they were younger) our kids.
Also he thrives on doing things and being busy. I get drained after a few busy days. This week for example we had time away to stay with friends on Wed - Thur, got back early hours of Friday morning. We also had a family day out yesterday. For Friday, Saturday and today, I want nothing more than to chill at home reading, doing some chores and watching TV. He would be bored in 10 minutes and looking for something to do so he may go and meet some friends. It doesn’t mean we have an unhappy marriage or I hate my husband! We’ve also been together since we were 18 and are now 50&51.

Cycling widows?

And you couldn’t come up with any of those insights for yourself, OP?

Because like all adults we grow and develop as married couples as well as individuals. We don't stay the same as the first day we met. And one day you can realise that your growth doesn't match your other half's growth so while you still love them and care about them, you realise you need more than just your family unit so you have friends to fulfill those needs not met at home. Both you and your husband will maybe realise one day that you grew into different people with different interests and needs, likes and dislikes. He may discover he enjoys trekking with a group of friends while you don't like trekking. Or you may discover you love travelling while he's would find he had enough of that and would prefer to stay at home. He may discovered he enjoys gardening while you prefer to do something different with your time. So while he spends his time pottering around the garden you may like to go out with your friends.
Your kids will not stay small forever and will become more independent and with their own wants and needs while we grow as adults as well.
Let me know how things go in another 10-15 years :). If you're still happy to do everything together, fantastic, if you're not then maybe you'll remember this post :).

This. ^ What a daft thing to say. That women who hate their husbands are the most fun to be around. 🙄 @mumofoneAlonebutokay and anyone who thinks like this, clearly hates their husband, and that's why they get on with women who also do. (Or if they're single they hate men!)

At lot of people have their hobbies on a Sunday and to many Easter Sunday is just another Sunday.

Oh look, a. Bridget Jones smug married!

I adored my husband. He was my best friend, we did a lot together. I didn't want to go off and do stuff with my friends, I loved spending time with him, just hanging out or going to places. It was my favourite thing to do.

So, when he decided he was going to leave me to go off and chase a woman he'd met doing a professional course that he was failing badly at, I was devastated. I will never make that mistake again.

Yes because hate is a wonderful emotion to be around.

I spend plenty of time by myself or with friends. But DH is still my best friend and my favourite person to do things with. That's why he's the person I chose to spend my life with.

People who say someone else is their best friend also don't spend every waking moment with that friend either.

I just feel sad for women who hate the person they chose to live with. Because that's what they're living with day in day out.

This is so true!

So do I. DH and I do our own thing plenty, but also really love spending time together.