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Why do some women not like their husbands?

416 replies

whatsausername · 20/04/2025 18:51

I mean this thread with all genuine sincerity, because my husband is the love of my life and also my best friend (married 5 years, together 10)

I absolutely love spending time with my husband, and family in general, and choose this above all else.

yet I have friends who would absolutely choose their friends to spend time with over their husband and I just don’t get it?

today is Easter Sunday and I couldn’t fathom not being with my husband and children

yet I have 2 very close friends who are spending today together, with their kids, but not their husbands. And this is the case for almost all things, all the time?

AIBU to think why are women marrying men they just don’t want to spend time with???

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ChristmaslightsuptilJanuary · 20/04/2025 19:04

AhBiscuits · 20/04/2025 19:03

I love my husband the requisite amount, but also love my hobbies and friends. What I don't understand is the people who seem to be surgically attached to their husband and completely lose their identity.

This.

AhBiscuits · 20/04/2025 19:03

I love my husband the requisite amount, but also love my hobbies and friends. What I don't understand is the people who seem to be surgically attached to their husband and completely lose their identity.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 20/04/2025 19:02

Aside from the ones who marry men who turn out to be arseholes, I think there are quite a lot of women who marry men they find attractive and enjoy dating, but with whom they don't realise they don't have many things in common which will last into married life. This is an over-simplification of course, but the stereotypical 'He likes football and going to the pub with his mates, she likes shopping and going out with the girls' relationship just sounds awful to me. Of course you're not going to spend much time together if you don't share any interests!

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 20/04/2025 19:02

Women who hate their husbands are my absolute fave genre of women 🙌

Generally likeable and fun to be around

faerietales · 20/04/2025 19:02

My husband is my best friend too, but we don't need to be glued at the hip.

mediummumma · 20/04/2025 19:01

Your genuine sincerity pales in comparison to your naivety. Surely you are experienced enough in life to know that not all marriages are happy unions? I struggle to believe your incredulity as you sound smug and disingenuous.

YABVU

Stillearninglife · 20/04/2025 19:01

Because after over 30 years he gets on my last bastard nerve.

Loads of reasons! Literally loads!

broccolienthusiast · 20/04/2025 19:00

Give it another 5 years 😎

MyIvyGrows · 20/04/2025 19:00

You do you, OP.

Abracadabra12345 · 20/04/2025 18:59

Abracadabra12345 · 20/04/2025 18:58

I know!!!!
” I’m married to this perfect man and we have a perfect marriage and look at those strange losers out there who love to spend time with their girlfriends and kids, and laugh and bond and have fun while husbands have me time..Because they ugly to be like meeee”

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That should be “ought” to be 😆

OopsyDaisie · 20/04/2025 18:59

Wait until you've been married 20 years with 2 kids, then come back to post!

Abracadabra12345 · 20/04/2025 18:58

PickledElectricity · 20/04/2025 18:53

YABVU, please stop the faux wide eye innocence.

I know!!!!
” I’m married to this perfect man and we have a perfect marriage and look at those strange losers out there who love to spend time with their girlfriends and kids, and laugh and bond and have fun while husbands have me time..Because they ugly to be like meeee”

givemychildabetterlife · 20/04/2025 18:55

popcorn

FamilyPhoto · 20/04/2025 18:54

Because some men change after marriage.

PickledElectricity · 20/04/2025 18:53

YABVU, please stop the faux wide eye innocence.

Maddy70 · 20/04/2025 18:53

Easter Sunday is a normal day in our home.