Why do some women not like their husbands?

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Nobody goes into marriage thinking they are going to get divorced. We all start out happy...
Life can throw a lot at you as the years pass.

Leaving aside the obvious scenarios you have chosen to pretend to ignore where two people don't get on or don't have anything in common (which have already been detailed but are multiple)... I can think of a million "positive" reasons why this might be the case.

Married couples don't have to be joined at the hip and wanting to spend time with a friend is in no way indicative that you don't love your spouse/significant other. In fact I distrust anyone who believes this to be the case.

Healthy individuals recognise that limiting their social circle to "my little family" is both dangerous and highly socially limiting. Dangerous because becoming emotionally reliant on one other person means you are vulnerable if for any reason that relationship breaks down. Limiting because you need a range of different viewpoints, perspectives, voices in your life. And dull because however wonderful someone is, there is going to be a limit to what you can do with them. Your spouse is never going to share all your hobbies, views, interests and thoughts.

And just because good friends are a massive source of positive energy for anyone and massively life enriching.

A marriage or partnership is only enriched by outside friendships and reference points. A marriage which can't accommodate this is weak and vulnerable. And anyone who believes friends are a threat or in any way diminish the marriage is a short-sighted fool.

I have no interest in.........

Safari's in Kenya
Handbags, shoes etc

My wife has never/no interest in

Modern Monetary Theory
Been on the engine controls of a turbine steamer
Model Railways
Economics
Mamod

etc etc

So a bit of time apart works for both of us

Give it time.

Just because you feel that way now doesn't mean you always will. People can change even after many years together. Men can become abusive at any point.

28-32 isn’t “growing up with somebody. At that age you are a fully fledged adult

Unexpectedly, my DH changed his personality for the worse when DC was born. A much-planned for baby too by both of us. I can’t to this day, properly express the stress I was through. We had been married for years at this point. We are ‘back on track’ but I can’t forget the hard times. Naturally, I want to retreat and do my own thing sometimes, while I lick my wounds in private before joining the ‘joined at the hip’ brigade again.

He is better now. But when things change sometimes it can’t be what it once was.

OP, there may be an event at some stage in your or your DH’s life that changes things forever too. Good times on hold or gone. I hope not, despite the wide eyed innocence of the post, I think you are genuinely confused. Hopefully some posts on here have explained why it’s not all roses for some.

I love my husband, I enjoy spending time with him and we value family time together; but I also love my friends and enjoy my hobbies. Personally I don't equate the amount of time spent together as the only indicator of how much you love someone or enjoy being with them. I am fortunate though to have a lot of people who enrich my life and although we do have joint interests, we also have seperate ones we enjoy supporting eachother with.

Generally if people dislike their partners there are complex reasons why they stay.

Maybe it's not that they don't like their husbands but they already spend plenty of time with them and want to see other people as well

My DH doesn’t do family, Mine or his. His choice.

I don’t want DS to miss out on family occasions.

Hahaha 🤣 not read the full thread but fuck off OP like you’re that green

I love being with DH and family but also love my friends and socialising with other families we’re close to. But I do find it weird some families can never go on holiday without other people or do any activity on their own. We’ve got friends who always do things en masse and go on holiday on huge groups. Personally it makes me suspect something is up in their marriages if they’re never content to spend time together just as a family. When we do get together with them, it’s always the wives down one end, men down the other. They’re very trad wife types and it seems the norm for the other half’s fo leave the childcare to the wives and go off playing golf most weekends so maybe it’s not a surprise the wives are always moaning about them when you think about it!

Peaks and troughs. We have years when we adore each other and years when sometimes we actively dislike each other. We’ve been together and married a lot longer than you.

I like spending time with my husband but sometimes I like to do other things with friends. I would get very bored spending every spare moment with just one person even my husband so yes YABU. Married 42 years but not joined at the hip.

Like my wife............

This speaks to the failures of the English education system in the 21st century. There are so many 19th century novels that one or more of us of a certain age had to read as set texts in school or university that would make the question null and void. OP, meet Gilbert Osmond, Henleigh Grandcourt, Mr. Casaubon, Sir Percival Glyde, Edward Murdstone and even Heathcliff.

People that grow together or grow apart in my experience of seeing couples over the last 30 years
One of our friends has just split up with her husband. He’s been abusive from day one she never said a word. Nobody would’ve known from the outside.

25 years down the drain

I don't think spending time with friends means people don't like their husbands. It often means that they like a varied social life and know that it's not always in your best interests to make one person your only person. I take it your friends have done something other than this to make you think they don't like their husbands?

I love my husband to bits 17 yrs married 20 together, but due to my husband's shift pattern and mine we can't always do stuff together but we do when we can. so its me and my pal end up going out with my child otherwise I would never get out with adult company. As does my friend.

I have just spent the week on holiday as a family and it's been great.

I think it's nice to have time apart doesn't mean o love him less than the perfect couple.

I would say in a lot of cases men become a big disappointment compared to their early potential (not saying women don’t either but this thread is about men). At first my ex would go to the ends of the earth for me without me ever even asking him to, roll on a few years and he was a belligerent, moody bastard too fond of the booze. The change in attitude when I hadn’t actually done anything wrong was quite traumatising. He’s the biggest regret of my life but our kids are the best. I wish I had chosen more wisely.

I wonder every day on here why women have such contempt for their husbands. Even when the OP on any given thread pleads their case, I am still left wondering half the time what it is the husband has done wrong,

Women are far more supportive and fun to be around generally tbf. Men become grumpy boring twats as they age 🤣 it’s good to have a balance of people in your life. My mum in her 70’s has only just discovered genuine female friendships and I feel sad for her that it took that long!

But are you sure it's not the husbands are off training for an ultramarathon/playing golf/visiting inlaws the wives aren't too keen on/attending a church the wives don't go to/working? I mean there are lots of reasons. It's just a day to most people unless they're observant Christians.

The wives may be just making the best of it?

@whatsausername please make sure you have a best friend that isn't your husband. Husbands shouldn't be your best friend.

My DH is the love of my life, I would die for him but he isn't my best friend and nor should he be. Best friends shouldn't be the person you share your bed with, they're the person who is most important in your life with zero strings attached.

The person who chose to be in your life, and stayed for all the chaos that life can bring but never stepped over that boundary into life partner.

If your DH is your best friend, your life is too small.