To think that the best opportunities I’ve had in life happened because of the way I look?

I was with you till your last comment...bitchy.

'Maybe ask yourself why' ha, nice little put down there. I'm good thanks.

I quite enjoy it. I can literally see them suddenly realise I’m a lot more interesting than I look.

I read somewhere once that the vast majority of male works leaders were tall. Physical traits do impact our journey through life. It kinda reminds me of the game - would you rather.....

There are lots of factors that influence our progress. I am a very good story teller and it is a skill that gets me through interviews with ease. I just have that knack as did my father. I also think I am a very good joke teller but my kids disagree - what do they know.

Being physically attractive will probably help you navigate life a little easier but it's not the only thing.

And no before you say it, I'm not overweight, bitter, jealous or anything. Just sick of these stupid baseless posts for posters to go on about how 'gorgeous' they must be. Stfu.

Erm, ok? Would you like a medal or something? Very odd post, just a way to try and say 'I'm soo attractive everyone!"

Btw, it is entirely subjective. You won't be attractive to everybody, trust me.

I had a very attractive friend group when I was younger in my 20s. We would go out and end up getting invited to members clubs, get free drinks all night, get invited into the VIP areas, out in yachts for the day. Always got the jobs we went for. I must say now in our middle age that these things don't happen for us anymore. I actually wish I had taken more advantage and gone for full golddigger while i could.... as that ship has now sailed 😂

I hope she has her wits about her, sometimes young women have to learn very early on that some men are only interested in them because they look good....a bit of arm candy.

No woman wants to be sought after merely because she looks good, I imagine it's the same as a wealthy man who is in demand because of his money.

Agree with PPs that being charming / endearing / an attractive human is a HUGE bonus - being physically attractive is only one part of that.

I’ve never been hugely pretty - but I have good teeth, a cohesive sense of personal style and I’m a good conversationalist. I’m sure those things have opened far more doors than my degree ever did. Those things are a consequence of a privileged education / upbringing which prioritised the ‘whole package’ over just grades - it’s so hard to imagine how to make sure everyone gets access to learning those skills.

My dd is very attractive-far more than I was. She says it’s a double edged sword-in a male dominated industry, she gets lots of attention and a foot in the door but in some ways, her looks count against her as people assume she gets on because of her looks. Or they see her as an airhead so not taken seriously.

I think that the fact that you think it’s because of your looks rather than your abilities or skills is quite sad. It sounds like a lack of belief in yourself

Don't you find that irritating, though?
Everyone likes a nice compliment and to be appreciated, but when people (I have to say women are as bad as men for this) show surprise because you actually have a brain...I think it's really insulting.
I am oldernow, so it doesn't happen, but being thought of as a pretty little airhead, even as a child, used to totally piss me off.

It’s definitely a thing, I’ve been hired for every job I’ve went for and it’s been male managers that have hired me and also promoted me. (I’ve never done anything untoward!) but I’m blonde, I’m smiley and I wouldn’t say I’m ugly. I by no means think I’m beautiful but I know it’s helped me. I do however have a brain in my head and learn quickly and can pick up new skills easily, I think that’s being a millennial and growing up when things were changing every week! I know life would definitely have been harder on me if I wasn’t in the position I am in. I’d be the first to tell you I’m no oil painting but I’ll talk to anyone and have time for everyone so I think that helps too.

I’d say the opposite actually. I’ve been in many situations where people seem to think I’m just nice to look at and then are quite surprised when I show that I’m intelligent and witty too. It’s like a double take.

That’s got me through the door much more than my looks.

YANBU but it’s always been a thing unfortunately. Classic stereotype of this is the glamorous but air headed secretary I guess. Referred to as ‘pretty privilege’ more commonly nowadays it will always always be a thing and those who heavily benefited from it will likely suffer the most from it when the next pretty young thing ousts them. So swings and roundabouts lol

Assuming two people have similar skills, are capable of doing the job, the better looking person has less experience, pretty privilege usually lands the job.

Good looks will always help on first impressions but I guarantee however beautiful stunning a person is, if they are arrogant then they stand no chance. Nobody likes arrogance

I doubt you are ugly....everyone is beautiful to someone.

I think pretty young people often turn into beautiful older people...and the average lookers when young, stay average....so age isn't really a great leveller.

Looks count, not only in the workplace, but when it comes to dating and picking a partner.
Hopefully it's not the only thing that matters, who wants to be so shallow? but rightly or wrongly, looks will always open doors.

Well, it is pretty shit going through life as 'the ugly one'.

Yes - but it can close doors too if you aren’t willing to do what’s required .

If you’ve benefited from pretty privilege it’s a good idea to have a backup plan in the form of education and a curious mind.