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AIBU to ask you all to help me get over someone who has today posted a photo with their new GF by reading the list of icks

43 replies

Havingasmashingtime · 20/04/2025 17:31

I was seeing someone for two years and it ended about 6 months ago.
although I knew it was over between us and I’ve been fine, I have today seen a photo of him with his new girlfriend and for some reasons it’s cut me a little bit (WHY!!!)

so a bit light hearted I promise- if I list the ‘icks’ (sorry I know some hate that phrase) will you help me pick myself up by choosing one to agree with and make me feel better?

1- his finger nails were so badly chewed they looked really tiny and quite sore. Eew.

2- he didn’t give any foreplay but always expected it back.

3- despite having great teeth he brushed them with a badly overused brush and for about 15 seconds.

4- he wore the same 4 T-shirts on rotation for the 2 years I knew him. Same tshirt for any occasion be it Xmas day, hiking a fell, holiday abroad or mowing the lawn.

5- he bragged about being ‘rich’ saying he had a trust fund, loads of savings account, owning silver? He did have a well paid job HOWEVER we paid everything 50/50 and he would gasp at the prices of everything like cocktails, food- money isn’t important to me and I’m happy to pay but I thought it was funny how he bragged but there was never any kindness or treats but I would for him.

6- on holiday he would barely shower- even though we would be hot and sweaty from extreme heat I had to tell him he should have a shower.

7- he always wore a cap, usually the same white cap that sometimes was covered in yellow marks (sweat) yet he barely washed it.

8- I got an ick from his work ethic. Despite a good job he would call in sick a lot even though he wasn’t or he’d tell them his kids were sick to get a day off.

Argh- why has it hurt me to see he has moved on!

OP posts:
LividRah · 20/04/2025 17:56

OMG how did you have sex with him more than the once?

clarabenton · 20/04/2025 17:55

Oh he sounds grim. The toothbrush 😩I bet he had skid-marked underwear too.

NeilDiamondsBlowDry · 20/04/2025 17:54

And a liar

BangersAndGnash · 20/04/2025 17:54

TWO YEARS and the lack of foreplay continued?

Bloody hell, if he wasn’t prepared to be re-trained by the second time we slept together I would have blocked him.

Nails like that? Ugh ugh ugh.

Bullet dodged.

Unfriend and stop looking at his SM.

NeilDiamondsBlowDry · 20/04/2025 17:53

I guarantee that soiled cap stunk as well

commiserations to the new GF

CalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 20/04/2025 17:52

He spent longer brushing his teeth - 15 seconds - than he did on foreplay. Probably rubbed his silverware with Brasso for longer too. In the bin he goes, along with his sweaty cap and stinky summer body.

WobblyBoots · 20/04/2025 17:50

I was agreeing with several points early on the list but I think point 7 is enough on its own. Bullet dodged my love.

Daleksatemyshed · 20/04/2025 17:50

Bless you Op, just writing that list should have made you feel better 😂

Montea · 20/04/2025 17:49

Oh my god I think you’ve described my ex

Yellowsunbeams · 20/04/2025 17:48

So he was grubby, tight with money and bad at sex. What first attracted you to him? Was it the gnawed fingernails or the sweaty cap? I bet he left pillows a tasteful musty yellow too. Did he shave over the bathroom basin leaving little bits of shaved hair sticking to the basin?

ForOliveMember · 20/04/2025 17:43

He was tight with money and bad in bed and you are jealous of his new gf?!

Planetmonster · 20/04/2025 17:40

Jeeez!!! Lucky escape. Tight men are The Worst.

plus the forePlay thing.

next !

comment on his photo ‘awwww so sweet, glad you are having a great time.’

he will stew

Jeschara · 20/04/2025 17:39

Yuk, you are better of without him, did he have any good points? Think of those think of what you listed and turn your hurt into a great day,he is a bragger and a dirty one at that.

Lascivious · 20/04/2025 17:38

The nail-biting as an adult would be enough to repulse me.

Hamabeed · 20/04/2025 17:36

ewwwww I had the massive ick by number 2, don’t know why I read the whole list. Those icks are all dumping offences on their own. BIN

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 20/04/2025 17:34

I'd be glad he's someone else's problem after reading that list!

rubyslippers · 20/04/2025 17:32

Block him on socials and remember he’s an ex for lots of very good reasons

DisplayPurposesOnly · 20/04/2025 17:32

God, he's revolting 😂