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HardyKoala · 20/04/2025 12:11

Following the Supreme Court ruling. I’m flummoxed by the amount of women I considered intelligent friends, posting rubbish about how women are actually no safer and this ruling is just anti-trans. I just don’t understand how intelligent women are coming to this conclusion.

The main argument seems to be that men will be men and will still rape and assault.

Of course they will.

But now, they can no longer just assert ‘I am a woman’ and automatically be able to enter women’s spaces unchallenged to do this. And this did happen, a few examples below.

They will no longer be able to enter women’s changing rooms and film teenage girls naked. They will no longer be able to enter the women’s toilets in Morrisons unchallenged and sexually assault a 10yr old girl. They will no longer be able to be housed in women’s prisons raping vulnerable women in the shower. This will all stop.

Yes, I do understand the negative impact on a few trans women and I feel for them, but why should ALL women put themselves and their daughters at risk for this tiny minority? I just don’t get it. If you’re campaigning for anything, campaign for 3rd spaces surely? But don’t campaign to allow any man the right to enter women’s spaces.

I have no issue with trans people in any way (I know a few) but I just can’t understand this argument that all women should be more at risk. Of course most trans women aren’t a threat. But men pretending to be women for access to women ARE a threat. And this ruling makes it harder for them to rape and assault us.

The amount of friends I’m seeing posting this rubbish has thrown me. I feel like I’m in an a weird alternate reality.

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JandamiHash · 21/04/2025 14:26

Stompythedinosaur · 21/04/2025 11:10

You cannot tell who's a man and who's a woman from looking. So this ruling changes nothing. Rapists and abusers will continue to break the rules and go where they like.

In fact, if we become accustomed to seeing trans-men in female spaces, that makes it really easy for male-presenting people to go unquestioned.

If a week ago we assumed a rapist was willing to claim to be a trans-woman, why on earth would they not now claim to be a trans-man?

Of course you can tell. And it changes everything - we are protected by law if we want a man kicked out the changing rooms. Before the ruling, businesses would side with the men based on their “feelings” and complainants would be ostracised for being transphobic.

I really don’t understand what people don’t get about this?

Also do you think schools and nurseries shouldn’t bother with all the protections they can because pedophiles will find a way anyway?

In fact, if we become accustomed to seeing trans-men in female spaces, that makes it really easy for male-presenting people to go unquestioned.

Again this isn’t a few problem. We’ve become accustomed to seeing men in women’s spaces without knowing their intention - they’ve been presenting as women. Except now the law is on our side to protect women, not men. It wasn’t before.

JandamiHash · 21/04/2025 14:22

batsandeggs · 21/04/2025 10:38

I’m asking for the evidence which shows I will now be safer following the Supreme Court’s judgement. Where is the evidence that I was unsafe prior to the ruling? As per OP’s observations.

What evidence do you expect exactly? Is the stories about the rates of TW raping women in female facilities not enough for you?

Also: common sense.

SternJoyousBee · 21/04/2025 12:47

But that is not what the OP said.

“The main argument seems to be that men will be men and will still rape and assault.
Of course they will.
But now, they can no longer just assert ‘I am a woman’ and automatically be able to enter women’s spaces unchallenged to do this.”

this would cover all men irrespective of whether they genuinely believe that they are women or not

“Yes, I do understand the negative impact on a few trans women and I feel for them, but why should ALL women put themselves and their daughters at risk for this tiny minority? I just don’t get it. If you’re campaigning for anything, campaign for 3rd spaces surely? But don’t campaign to allow any man the right to enter women’s spaces.
I have no issue with trans people in any way (I know a few) but I just can’t understand this argument that all women should be more at risk. Of course most trans women aren’t a threat. But men pretending to be women for access to women ARE a threat. And this ruling makes it harder for them to rape and assault us.”

she is talking about ALL men and not singling out transwomen who are of course in reality, and confirmed in law in respect to single sex spaces, men.

DarkForces · 21/04/2025 12:32

I mean trans women have literally taken to the streets holding signs about their desire to murder women and defaced statues of feminist icons. Can't imagine why I'd prefer not to share a loo, changing room or prison cell with them.

letsallchant · 21/04/2025 12:23

batsandeggs · 21/04/2025 12:11

Sorry, your response is nonsensical and bizarre. I am making zero claim that trans women should be treated differently. The OP has said ‘of course women are safer’ - I’m asking for evidence to prove that to me. If you want people onside (assuming I am not) surely you’d provide that? Why on earth wouldn’t you?

It’s not up to me to provide any evidence whatsoever. I’m not here making any claims. I’m asking you all to help me understand your viewpoint. So far no one is. You’ve done a fair job insulting and dismissing my own lived experience though!

OK I'll bite. What about

https://committees.parliament.uk/writtenevidence/18973/pdf/

batsandeggs · 21/04/2025 12:19

TheKeatingFive · 21/04/2025 12:13

Question for you, which I keep asking and you keep not answering ...

What is the justification for exempting one group of men from the rules we've established for all men? Why do that in the first place?

If you gave me any of the stats I asked for maybe I’d answer your question? I’m under no obligation to answer your question as I’ve made no statements of my own. This absolutely fruitless.

TheKeatingFive · 21/04/2025 12:13

batsandeggs · 21/04/2025 12:11

Sorry, your response is nonsensical and bizarre. I am making zero claim that trans women should be treated differently. The OP has said ‘of course women are safer’ - I’m asking for evidence to prove that to me. If you want people onside (assuming I am not) surely you’d provide that? Why on earth wouldn’t you?

It’s not up to me to provide any evidence whatsoever. I’m not here making any claims. I’m asking you all to help me understand your viewpoint. So far no one is. You’ve done a fair job insulting and dismissing my own lived experience though!

Question for you, which I keep asking and you keep not answering ...

What is the justification for exempting one group of men from the rules we've established for all men? Why do that in the first place?

batsandeggs · 21/04/2025 12:11

TheKeatingFive · 21/04/2025 12:06

There is evidence of course, but you miss the point entirely.

In order to make a case for this group of men to be treated differently to other men, it would be incumbent upon you to find the evidence that they offend at similar rates to women.

So where is that evidence? (I'll help you out here, you won't find it, though you're welcome to try).

If you can't see the issues arising for these vulnerable women in having men access their spaces then you clearly are privileged in many ways.

I understand that a woman who has never contemplated that they might go to prison, might not give much thought to the women who do end up here. But these women exist and habe very little voice in society.

Sorry, your response is nonsensical and bizarre. I am making zero claim that trans women should be treated differently. The OP has said ‘of course women are safer’ - I’m asking for evidence to prove that to me. If you want people onside (assuming I am not) surely you’d provide that? Why on earth wouldn’t you?

It’s not up to me to provide any evidence whatsoever. I’m not here making any claims. I’m asking you all to help me understand your viewpoint. So far no one is. You’ve done a fair job insulting and dismissing my own lived experience though!

TheKeatingFive · 21/04/2025 12:06

batsandeggs · 21/04/2025 12:00

“They offend at least the same rates as other men…”

Evidence please.

Also, again, like everyone else in this thread, you are using emotive language and misjudging me as privileged (and so dismissing my actual and plentiful negative experiences with men). I am simply just asking for evidence to support your claims about trans women. How many of the 99% of male offenders identify as trans women?

There is evidence of course, but you miss the point entirely.

In order to make a case for this group of men to be treated differently to other men, it would be incumbent upon you to find the evidence that they offend at similar rates to women.

So where is that evidence? (I'll help you out here, you won't find it, though you're welcome to try).

If you can't see the issues arising for these vulnerable women in having men access their spaces then you clearly are privileged in many ways.

I understand that a woman who has never contemplated that they might go to prison, might not give much thought to the women who do end up here. But these women exist and habe very little voice in society.

batsandeggs · 21/04/2025 12:00

TheKeatingFive · 21/04/2025 11:56

Yes transwomen are men. They offend at least the same rates as other men, so why would they be given special treatment in this regard?

As for your safety, I agree there are plenty of privileged women who are unlikely to see much difference.

The people who will see themselves better protected here are female prisoners, women in domestic abuse shelters, women in hospital wards, women needing rape counselling services, sick/disabled women needing intimate care. Also, for slightly different reasons, women playing contact sports.

“They offend at least the same rates as other men…”

Evidence please.

Also, again, like everyone else in this thread, you are using emotive language and misjudging me as privileged (and so dismissing my actual and plentiful negative experiences with men). I am simply just asking for evidence to support your claims about trans women. How many of the 99% of male offenders identify as trans women?

TheKeatingFive · 21/04/2025 11:56

batsandeggs · 21/04/2025 11:49

You’re presupposing my views. The OP has stated that as a female I’ve woken up safer because trans women now can’t enter single sex spaces. I’m asking for evidence relating to trans women specifically to demonstrate that I was ever unsafe. Is it because ‘trans women are men’ ? Is that it?

Yes transwomen are men. They offend at least the same rates as other men, so why would they be given special treatment in this regard?

As for your safety, I agree there are plenty of privileged women who are unlikely to see much difference.

The people who will see themselves better protected here are female prisoners, women in domestic abuse shelters, women in hospital wards, women needing rape counselling services, sick/disabled women needing intimate care. Also, for slightly different reasons, women playing contact sports.

BundleBoogie · 21/04/2025 11:54

Stompythedinosaur · 21/04/2025 11:10

You cannot tell who's a man and who's a woman from looking. So this ruling changes nothing. Rapists and abusers will continue to break the rules and go where they like.

In fact, if we become accustomed to seeing trans-men in female spaces, that makes it really easy for male-presenting people to go unquestioned.

If a week ago we assumed a rapist was willing to claim to be a trans-woman, why on earth would they not now claim to be a trans-man?

Even dogs and horses can tell the sex of a person - even if they have tried to
disguise it.

Seriously, your claim is outlandish and ridiculous.

BundleBoogie · 21/04/2025 11:52

TheKeatingFive · 21/04/2025 11:13

You absolutely can detect sex by looking with a very high degree of accuracy. Don't be silly.

And now that the law has been clarified, any man who tries to infiltrate women's spaces, knows that this is wrong and they are breaking the law. Those men need to act with decency and stay out.

It’s this weird new affliction some have developed that I’m calling sex blindness (or trans activism for short).

It’s never been an issue before but now people are really struggling to discern people’s sex - so they claim.

batsandeggs · 21/04/2025 11:49

TheKeatingFive · 21/04/2025 11:45

Back to first principles.

If we agree that it's best to keep men out of women's spaces, then why would we make an exception for one group of men without exceptionally good reasons?

Why single out trans identifying men for access to our spaces but not disabled men, gay men, old men, etc, etc?

The question for you is, what's the justification in the first place for giving this one group an exemption from the rules put in place for all men?

You’re presupposing my views. The OP has stated that as a female I’ve woken up safer because trans women now can’t enter single sex spaces. I’m asking for evidence relating to trans women specifically to demonstrate that I was ever unsafe. Is it because ‘trans women are men’ ? Is that it?

batsandeggs · 21/04/2025 11:47

Alright, if you want to say that trans women are men - of the 0.5% of trans people in the UK, how many of the 99% of male offenders (previously quoted by someone else) identify as trans women?

TheKeatingFive · 21/04/2025 11:45

batsandeggs · 21/04/2025 11:39

I haven’t made any claims in this thread? The OP says that women are safer. I’m asking for the evidence to prove that statement.

Back to first principles.

If we agree that it's best to keep men out of women's spaces, then why would we make an exception for one group of men without exceptionally good reasons?

Why single out trans identifying men for access to our spaces but not disabled men, gay men, old men, etc, etc?

The question for you is, what's the justification in the first place for giving this one group an exemption from the rules put in place for all men?

batsandeggs · 21/04/2025 11:40

Also, very amusing that an article to ‘prove’ the claims was provided but the data used in that article is inaccessible because it’s behind a paywall. Would suggest to me that people are reading blindly without interrogating the data… fascinating.

batsandeggs · 21/04/2025 11:39

SternJoyousBee · 21/04/2025 11:35

Where is your evidence that they pose less of a risk than any other men?

I haven’t made any claims in this thread? The OP says that women are safer. I’m asking for the evidence to prove that statement.

SternJoyousBee · 21/04/2025 11:37

batsandeggs · 21/04/2025 11:28

The Times article referenced in the link you sent is the source of the data and that article is behind a paywall. It’s not my job to go searching for the evidence, I’m asking the people making the claims (that I’m safer because trans women can’t access single sex spaces) to supply the evidence. Also, for information, that times article is the only one that’s whipped out when making claims like this. Anything more recent? Anything other than just one single source?

Remember that I’m asking for evidence regarding trans women. Not men. Trans women. You may not agree that trans women are not women, but they are not men. They are trans women. I’m asking for evidence regarding trans women specifically. How many of the 99% of male offenders are trans women? I’ll engage when someone can provide reliable evidence.

Transwomen are men. It’s is quite literally the only criteria required.

Nameychangington · 21/04/2025 11:35

batsandeggs · 21/04/2025 11:28

The Times article referenced in the link you sent is the source of the data and that article is behind a paywall. It’s not my job to go searching for the evidence, I’m asking the people making the claims (that I’m safer because trans women can’t access single sex spaces) to supply the evidence. Also, for information, that times article is the only one that’s whipped out when making claims like this. Anything more recent? Anything other than just one single source?

Remember that I’m asking for evidence regarding trans women. Not men. Trans women. You may not agree that trans women are not women, but they are not men. They are trans women. I’m asking for evidence regarding trans women specifically. How many of the 99% of male offenders are trans women? I’ll engage when someone can provide reliable evidence.

You may not agree that trans women are not women, but they are not men.

What's the difference between a transwoman and a man?

SternJoyousBee · 21/04/2025 11:35

batsandeggs · 21/04/2025 11:16

Any evidence that isn’t behind a paywall? Please bear in mind that I’m asking for evidence that trans women pose an increased risk.

Where is your evidence that they pose less of a risk than any other men?

SternJoyousBee · 21/04/2025 11:33

Stompythedinosaur · 21/04/2025 11:10

You cannot tell who's a man and who's a woman from looking. So this ruling changes nothing. Rapists and abusers will continue to break the rules and go where they like.

In fact, if we become accustomed to seeing trans-men in female spaces, that makes it really easy for male-presenting people to go unquestioned.

If a week ago we assumed a rapist was willing to claim to be a trans-woman, why on earth would they not now claim to be a trans-man?

It’s not that some rapists are claiming to be transwomen but that some transwomen are rapists and sexual predators. But even if there were not a % of trans identifying men who are sexual predators or who have violent tendencies, 100% of them are men and women have rights in law that allow us to have single sex spaces.

batsandeggs · 21/04/2025 11:28

BunfightBetty · 21/04/2025 11:19

It isn’t behind a paywall, I’ve just double checked.

For future reference, you can type a URL into archive.ph to get around paywalls.

You’ll have to look at the stats on trans prisoners. They are out there, but I don’t have them to hand at the moment and am about to go out for the day (though someone else may oblige you).

Remember, trans women are men, not women. You’ve had evidence that males do 99% of sex offending. What extra offending will satisfy you? 99% is extremely high!!

The Times article referenced in the link you sent is the source of the data and that article is behind a paywall. It’s not my job to go searching for the evidence, I’m asking the people making the claims (that I’m safer because trans women can’t access single sex spaces) to supply the evidence. Also, for information, that times article is the only one that’s whipped out when making claims like this. Anything more recent? Anything other than just one single source?

Remember that I’m asking for evidence regarding trans women. Not men. Trans women. You may not agree that trans women are not women, but they are not men. They are trans women. I’m asking for evidence regarding trans women specifically. How many of the 99% of male offenders are trans women? I’ll engage when someone can provide reliable evidence.

SternJoyousBee · 21/04/2025 11:27

BundleBoogie · 21/04/2025 11:03

If you can’t imagine how that having clarity in the legal backing to demand policies that exclude men who identify as women is going to make women safer than it’s going to be hard to help you.

Try reading up on events of the last few years and find out? There is a long list of women and girls that specifically would not have been raped or sexually assaulted, had the authorities followed the actual law including Dolotowski’s young victims, the women raped in a female hospital ward by a trans identifying male (at least two off the top of my head) and the women in prison punished for complaining about being sexually assaulted. All if those utterly preventable.

How many raped and sexually assaulted women would be enough for you to agree there been an issue that we at least now have the tools to fix?

And the right to association without the presence of males? Any idea of the number of groups that have been utterly ruined by men forcing their way in? Or women having venue bookings cancelled because they want to gather somewhere without men?

SternJoyousBee · 21/04/2025 11:24

batsandeggs · 21/04/2025 10:38

I’m asking for the evidence which shows I will now be safer following the Supreme Court’s judgement. Where is the evidence that I was unsafe prior to the ruling? As per OP’s observations.

If you felt safe before the ruling clarified existing law why would you need to feel unsafe now? Unless you are worried about the angry TRAs doing something that would put you in danger?

additionally m, our single sex spaces are not just about safety but also privacy and dignity.

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