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Yo be annoyed husband is hungover

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MummaCub · 20/04/2025 11:48

fWe're at my in-laws for the Easter weekend, my husband decided to nip out to the pub last night to say a quick hello to old friends from the village, I stayed at his parents and put our 6 month old dc to bed.

He gets in a 3:30 drunk and wakes us all up, I spend the next hour trying to get baby back to sleep.

He's supposed to be cooking us all an Easter meal but he's currently laying on the garden lawn with a bucket next to him.

His mum is bringing him tea and toast, but I have no sympathy.

He thinks I'm overreacting and that's it's funny and i should 'chill out man' ... his parents have bought all the food for him to make the meal, and made a big effort to make everyone Easter bags, and it's our sons first Easter, I know he won't remember but I still wanted it to be special.

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MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 20/04/2025 12:47

I would be furious!

Going out for a few beers to catch up with old friends, absolutely fine. Getting so sloshed that he can't function the next day, unacceptable.

S0j0urn4r · 20/04/2025 12:44

CookingFatCat · 20/04/2025 12:29

Has he apologised to anybody at all?

@S0j0urn4r agree with what you say !
And tell him to power through his hangover and make lunch while you are gone.

@CookingFatCat him cooking was a given 😂

TheAmusedQuail · 20/04/2025 12:38

Whatever else happens, absolutely do not give in and cook that lunch.

If his mother chooses to, it's on her, but if you do it, you're setting a precedent that you'll take on his responsibilities.

CookingFatCat · 20/04/2025 12:29

Has he apologised to anybody at all?

@S0j0urn4r agree with what you say !
And tell him to power through his hangover and make lunch while you are gone.

S0j0urn4r · 20/04/2025 12:16

Maybe you and baby (and in-laws if they want) should go out for a few hours - a nice walk, the park, feed the ducks, whatever. Tell him you'll be back for lunch.
He has a self - inflicted hangover. He's not dying. You can still enjoy your day even if he feels unable to participate.

aylis · 20/04/2025 12:14

If he's lying about with a hangover then he's also just expecting you to pick up the childcare with no discussion. I despise that in men.

pikkumyy77 · 20/04/2025 12:13

What are you going to do about it?

user2848502016 · 20/04/2025 12:12

That’s ridiculous, meeting up with old friends at the pub and having a few drinks ,perfectly fine. Being so hungover that he can’t now cook as promised, unacceptable.

Seagreensmokeyblue · 20/04/2025 11:54

It sounds like staying with his parents, with his mum to pander to him and indulge him, he has reverted to immaturity and boyhood.

He has forgotten he is now an adult with a wife and young child.

It's one thing for him to meet up with his pals for a couple of drinks but what on earth was he doing up until 3.30 in the morning? Was he out clubbing with them?

I think you are right to feel upset and let down OP. And you need to have a serious conversation with him.

mindutopia · 20/04/2025 11:54

Yes, it’s absolutely ridiculous. One thing when you are 20 and home from uni. Very different when you are an actual adult with a baby. What if you had done the same? People would not be so forgiving of you ditching your baby to go to the pub and being unable to cook Easter lunch for family.

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