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MummaCub · 20/04/2025 11:48

fWe're at my in-laws for the Easter weekend, my husband decided to nip out to the pub last night to say a quick hello to old friends from the village, I stayed at his parents and put our 6 month old dc to bed.

He gets in a 3:30 drunk and wakes us all up, I spend the next hour trying to get baby back to sleep.

He's supposed to be cooking us all an Easter meal but he's currently laying on the garden lawn with a bucket next to him.

His mum is bringing him tea and toast, but I have no sympathy.

He thinks I'm overreacting and that's it's funny and i should 'chill out man' ... his parents have bought all the food for him to make the meal, and made a big effort to make everyone Easter bags, and it's our sons first Easter, I know he won't remember but I still wanted it to be special.

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Dearg · 20/04/2025 20:11

Well I would be so pissed off if DH left me with the in-laws that nothing else would matter. But that’s me. And them.

To be honest, hot headed as I am, i would leave him to stew. Are you practising Christians in that Easter is the most important season for you? If not then baby’s first Easter would not be the big deal.

I would probably help MIL or FIL to cook, then eat, then leave. If he was still on the lawn with a bucket - bonus.

pistachio83 · 20/04/2025 20:01

I want to know if the lunch got cooked !

NoBiscuitsLeftInMyTin · 20/04/2025 19:53

Ihopeyouhavent · 20/04/2025 19:18

Fuck me, he's home with his family. Had a rare boozy night out on a BH weekend. probs wasnt planned, but i bet he had fun!!!

Yeh its annoying and im sure the OP is jealous that she cant get pissed etc, but she can have her night.

Its really not worth the drama.

Exactly this - and this nonsense about the childs special first Easter - especially when they can't even be 1yo.

Ihopeyouhavent · 20/04/2025 19:18

Fuck me, he's home with his family. Had a rare boozy night out on a BH weekend. probs wasnt planned, but i bet he had fun!!!

Yeh its annoying and im sure the OP is jealous that she cant get pissed etc, but she can have her night.

Its really not worth the drama.

Somanylemons · 20/04/2025 19:14

How has he been the past 6 months ? Helpful, diligent, new dad ? Or is this a regular occurrence.

If the first one - I’d probably accept that he needed to blow off steam, be supportive and tomorrow gently remind him that mums need time off too.

If the second I’d be annoyed.

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 20/04/2025 19:01

@MummaCub more to the point, did he sober up enough to cook the meal for you all????

nessiesnotreal · 20/04/2025 16:05

If it wasn't something that happened often I wouldn't be bothered and would just be glad he had a good time with old friends. We are all entitled to wind down and go off the rails occasionally, whether we have kids or not. We are only human after all. There were a good few times when our DC's were small that either my DH and I left the other one 'holding the baby' while we went out and had a few too many. But we were always respectful to make sure we both got chance to go out with friends and have a good time. Neither of us took the piss.

The lunch thing wouldn't bother me too much either. I would just scale back the plans and still enjoy the day.

Icanttakethisanymore · 20/04/2025 15:49

Pretty embarrassing for a grown man. I think if it was a very rare occurrence I’d not make a big deal
out of it but I can understand you’d be a bit miffed.

YABU for wanting your babies first Easter to be special though.

ButterCrackers · 20/04/2025 15:31

Just get on with it. You can make yourself toast for dinner. Your baby must have its meals organised so that’s fine. Let his parents deal with him. Is the place nice? I’d say to go out for a walk and some fresh air.

ginasevern · 20/04/2025 15:18

So, who's cooking lunch?

AquaPeer · 20/04/2025 14:44

nopineapplepizza · 20/04/2025 14:40

Why don’t you take the baby and go home?

Leave his mummy to look after him like the baby he is.

He can make his own way home when he’s straightened himself up.

Realistically, how would this work? You’re highly likely to end up in a Conflict with his parents, and it’s not their fault either.

sometimes you just have to suck things up, you can’t go around stropping and tantruming. Believe me, I’ve been there 😂

Crunchymum · 20/04/2025 14:43

Why is he laying on the garden lawn? @MummaCub

nopineapplepizza · 20/04/2025 14:40

Why don’t you take the baby and go home?

Leave his mummy to look after him like the baby he is.

He can make his own way home when he’s straightened himself up.

socks1107 · 20/04/2025 14:40

Yes it’s ridiculous. A few drinks fine, hungover and lying on the grass waiting to be sick not fine.

Ihopeyouhavent · 20/04/2025 14:39

Order a takeway and move on, really not a big deal.

Freshflower · 20/04/2025 14:34

Personally I wouldn't be bothered if it was a one off and probably find it funny , but can see your point it's,supposed to be your dc first Easter , I'm sure a nice meal can still be had and fun and laughter too

rwalker · 20/04/2025 14:08

I’d be pissed off at being woken up but as for the rest let them all crack on wouldn’t bother me
leave baby with in laws him to cook and go for a walk

as for the special Easter we’re all different but I couldn’t buy into that the baby won’t even know it’s Easter perhaps in a few years with an Easter egg hunt but your wasting your time this year

Cctviswatchingme001 · 20/04/2025 14:01

Let his mother look after him. Definitely don't cook. Have a drink yourself if you feel like it. Don't let him ruin your day.

AquaPeer · 20/04/2025 13:55

Honestly? Not great but I don’t think it’s a big deal in the big scheme of things. He had a nice time with old friends.

I’d be fed up to be the one looking after the baby for 2 days but really, what are you going to do? Feel angry, have a go at him, get him or his mum to sort out an alternative dinner but it’ll be forgotten about soon enough

BarneyRonson · 20/04/2025 13:53

I guess he is very young and hasn’t actually internalised that he has a partner and a child. Somebody better tell him.

soupsong · 20/04/2025 13:51

It’s so depressing the 100s of threads along the same theme…

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 20/04/2025 13:20

Getting arseholed, fine.
Waking you and baby, not fine. Prick.
He now needs to fucking grow up, get over himself and cook. I bet his Mum does it though...

Allinadayswork80 · 20/04/2025 13:16

Unacceptable, I would be furious. Inconsiderate childish behaviour when you’re at his parents with a baby.

surreygirlzz · 20/04/2025 13:06

If is a a rare event I would not be bothered

Cucy · 20/04/2025 13:03

He’s acting like that because he’s being enabled.

It’s one thing to go out and get pissed but it doesn’t mean he doesn’t get to suck it up and get on with things the next day.

He can have some tea and toast and a shower and then get on with cooking the meal as planned.

I would be raging that he woke the baby but I’d be more annoyed that he’s acting like a baby and being taken care of by his mummy instead of just getting on with it.