Awkward shopping trip with MIL

You're trying to goad @Harriett9 . Stop it.

I think it is wonderful that your MiL is so close to you that you go shopping together and she could try and help you get married life back to where it was before your baby
Your husband has shown that by wanting to be intimate with you, he does not care about your body shape, you are still the woman he loves and wants to make love with,
The problem is with you. Your find your body no longer attractive and so you are pushing him away. Perhaps your have PPD and need to speak to your GP about getting some medical help.
If you keep pushing your man away, you may find that one day, he stays away. And then you will not have to worry about the stomach, as he will be sharing someone else's bed, and then no one will see it.
Your MiL was acting out of concern for you both.

I am so sorry OP that you had to deal with that.
Your 'D'H felt it was okay to share your private thoughts on your body, how you are psychologically dealing with a difficult birth, and did it all behind your back. I would be raging.
I think you need to sit him down and explain that sharing your private information is never going to be acceptable. That you being physically and mentally ready to have any type of serial encounter is the most important thing, as it takes two consenting adults. And that this stunt of his where he actively broke your trust by telling two other people has but your recovery back further than every before. Because before you trusted your husband, now you don't.
I can't believe how selfish he has been.

YAAAAAAAAWWWWWWWWWNNNNNNN 🥱

We're talking about sexual coercion on this thread, that should have been obvious.

I wasn’t talking about begging/nagging someone to have sex with you

Ok Lastword Lisa, yadda yadda yadda, bla bla bla, whatever 🥱

I can assure you I have never and would never beg or nag someone into having sex with me. The thought of someone having sex with me when they don't want to disgusts me.

Getting his Mum to take you lingerie shopping is the most unsexy thing I've ever heard 😂🤦‍♀️. I'd have been so embarrassed. Tell him if he ever wants to be intimate with you again he definitely needs to keep his Mum out of it!

Because there's literally no reason at all to assume that they haven't spoken about it, when pretty much everyone who is ever in similar situations on here will describe that they have in fact discussed it. I've never ever heard a story from anyone in this situation, male or female, where the situation hasn't been discussed.

If I spoke to my mother and friends about something so personal about my OH and he then went on a forum to discuss it then no I wouldn't be upset, and I would have no right to be. It would be fairly self absorbed to be upset about that when I had spoken about his personal issues to family and friends who actually knew him.

If he has a problem with her discussing it online maybe he should think it's better she did that rather than going and telling all her friends how he roped his mother into trying to get the OP to have sex with him
😂

Sure, sure, sure 🙄

🤣🤣🤣 ok Pope Pious IV, whatever

Speak for yourself. And you might want to have a bit of a think about that if you are.

What makes you think they have? The dynamic is different, yes - he doesn’t have to face MN users, but how would you feel if your OH did something similar on a public forum? You might be upset in a different way, but still upset?
my point is, they have both communicated with others, which is natural, and it will be upsetting to both of them, which is also natural, but they should now be discussing it openly & honestly with each other

It could be worse ;
The mother-in-law of my terminally ill friend asked her if she was still having sex & then said " poor (son's name) "

Some people have no common sense.

We're definitely not.

That's completely different than going to his mother, sister and friends, who know the OP. Why even compare the 2?

Again what makes you think they haven't discussed this already?

OP you said you had a traumatic birth, so I wonder if you have asked for or been offered any counselling?

Giving birth can be both wonderful but also one of the most terrifying experiences you can have!

My first daughters birth was absolutely horrific, and after being overdue I had an extremely long labour (unproductive) which resulted in an emergency c- section because both my daughter and I went into shock!

Luckily 48 hours after my waters broke I was exhausted and requested an epidural which meant I was topped up and awake for the c-section and my husband was able to be there for the birth. He asked the surgeon if my shaking was normal, and he said that under the circumstances I was doing well as it was an emergency situation and that our daughter needed to be born as soon as possible! At that point he looked really scared as he realised how serious it was!

After the c section I had an infection in my scar, and 10 days later haemorrhaging caused by an infection in my womb!

I was left with a post c-section pouch that has never gone away!

Luckily I had some telephone counselling via my employer (occupational health service) which was incredibly helpful while on Maternity leave. It helped me process the trauma I had experienced and feel less scared of physical contact with my husband.

Its helpful to talk about the experience you had and counselling is important if you had a difficult birth, as if you are not in bc a good place mentally after birth, no amount of underwear will make you feel sexy!

If it was my son I would tell him to be a bit more patient and to back off until you are ready.

Really? Then we’re all guilty of that 🙄

How does he feel, knowing she’s discussed it on MN with a bunch of strangers? I don’t think there’s anything wrong with her or him discussing it - it’s natural
He should educate himself? How better to do that than her discussing her specific needs with him and vice versa?

He talks about his sex life with his mum and then make you go shopping with her??????

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So, she needs to have a conversation with him to communicate that? Even better, they talk to each other and try to find a solution that works for both?

Shop would be shut indefinitely

Would you be seriously concerned if he had given birth to your baby 7 months ago and you knew that men going off sex for some time after giving birth to babies was normal and common?

Because that's very different to a husband just going off sex for 7 months for no good reason.