Awkward shopping trip with MIL

I'm afraid my late MiL did try to support his sex life. Without going into the lurid details, she used to tell DH that he should always wear a 'sheath' for those important 'marital relations'. She was a bit old fashioned, and when he told her that he was getting ED, she told me I should buy myself some sexy lingerie.

I jest not.

More red flags than a Communist Party conference.

Please get your father to take him shopping for a wetlook male romper with a zip down the middle

Is this a cultural thing? It's very common in many European / Middle Eastern / Asian cultures for mothers to have this type of conversation during the confinement period. She might have thought she was doing you both a kindness.

AND depending on how much they pull their weight!! Nothing lowers libido quicker than being run ragged doing all the grunt work!

Wow!

What is wrong with your dh

I hope you gave your MIL what for too.
Pointing out outfits to cover your stomach so he could get off on that. She disgusts me!

Christ, I’m pretty sure my Mum would have told me exactly where I should stick my opinion if I’d moaned to her about a lack of sex with my (now ex) wife. Particularly after such a short space of time post-partum.

I’m 99.9% sure she would have taken her for coffee and cake, or a spa day, rather than drag her into Ann Summers.

What is your MIL thinking?! What is your husband thinking, that he’s even brought it up to her? (…I suppose that second question’s rhetorical)

I'm alway amazed when men bang on about being frustrated about not having sex. There really needs to be more education made available to them. The NCT etc doesn't do anyone any favours by saying '6 weeks might be reasonable post birth' when we all know it's more likely to be 6 months plus.

Totally inappropriate of her to get involved, more so your husband moaning about how hard he's 'working'. Men really need to grow up. Have a wank for goodness sake

I do wish men would research the effect births have on women’s bodies, rather than just expecting sex on tap no matter what. It’s almost like they expect women to be anything other than human beings with body parts that are strained and break and experience trauma

How the fuck would MIL know when OP last had sex WITH HER SON?
Whatever anyone "meant" its just grim

So you haven't had sex for 7 months. You hate your stomach. OK it was a bit clumsy but I think she's just concerned about your relationship. It's a difficult time for marriages for the first say 3 years post having a baby.

Your DH wants to be intimate with you and probably isn't too bothered about your mum tum. Sex is important so instead of being so upset, ask MIL to babysit and have a few hours alone with DH. I honestly think they meant well.

You were worried enough about this to post here. Find your anger and to talk to him about how grossly inappropriate and objectifying that was. As others said, you are not a broken down appliance and he cannot be tolerated to treat you like one.

I would be fuming! He has no right to tell his mother your intimate details! Also, your body has been through so much. Its up to you when you get intimate again.

Who are these weirdos who talk about sex with their parents?!

Oh OP I had a traumatic birth with DC1, it REALLY takes its toll on your confidence and nobody ever wants to speak about it. My DD is nearly 12 and it still gives me nightmares. Are you getting support for your trauma?

OMG I think o was just a bit sick in my mouth reading that. Why the actual fuck are they discussing your sex life?!

That is absolutely mortifying and so disrespectful that he’s even had that conversation with her. Yuck. Just yuck.

That is absolutely foul and I would not be impressed with my MIL having any kind of input into my sex life.

I would be telling DH that he has won himself a sec strike for that stunt.

Omg. Your husband's a dick

Ew. That's all.

One of the most disgusting things I've ever read on here. So what did you do OP? Say trips over and go back to the car, or just smile weakly and carry on to M&S? Have you done something to tackle this shit? And I don't mean give your "D"H a hand job; how are you going to address the spectacular level of seedy contempt that your H and his mother have for you?

Plus, it's a bit from the 1950's...you owe him sex because he works hard...🤑

Same. This is truly disgusting. Both from a calculated, selfish way, and an unbelievably intrusive and creepy way.

Tell him that you and his Mum got matching outfits and you think his Mum looks great in it. Then say you treated her to a sexy bunny outfit too. Here DH, take a look! And show him a photoshopped image of her in one!

OMG! I think I'd actually be sick at the MIL doing this. She actually needs her son to be gentle, kind and loving towards you. To give you back runs and massages without the expectations of anything else.

For the Mum, I'd moke up a porn dvd with the title being something like "Mum likes men young enough to be her (adult) son!"

I'd want to give them both the ick that they gave me!!!

wrt massive cringe about sex talk with the inlaws - recently i was chatting with MIL about kids (i've got 4) and ideal gaps between them ect ect.

Now DH's sister and brother (in their 40s) are 9 months apart in age. We all know what that means. But MIL suddenly deciding to point it out along with a fake coy eye roll giggle was revolting. It just was.

Nothing would make my fanny shut up shop faster than DH getting his mother involved! Ewwww.