Maintain friendship with friend sending nudes to a married man?

There may be a reason why she doesn’t have any other friends but you.

I was the sole friend to this particular woman I’d know since my early 20s who burnt all her other friendships and I eventually seen her for what she is.

She too had no qualms getting with non-single men or just stirring up drama generally between “friends”.

I cut her loose about 5 years ago and haven’t looked back.

I wouldn't end a friendship over it because I think it's her own business with what she does in her personal life. However, I would make it clear that I didn't want her to share all the gory details with me.

I wouldn’t want to see those pictures even if the man wasn’t married and would be taking a step back.

That said, I have lost count of the number of women I know who have been cheated on who then themselves go on to become OW. No idea why but it’s not uncommon.

Who has time for this drama? Block her and move on.

I stopped being friends with someone who kept chasing after or getting involved with married men . I just lost all respect for her.

As a minimum, make it clear you don't condone her behaviour.

Why has she suddenly started doing this? Are these men putting pressure on her when she maybe at a low ebb? If this is out of character for her & she's going through some sort of crisis I don't think I could walk away complety in case she needs a shoulder to cry on or some support.

My best friend embarked on a relationship with a man that was practically married. He and his partner had been together 27 years, kids, joint house etc.

All I can think is that she was so damaged from her previous relationship the fact this man seemed to want her more than his partner gave her a huge ego boost.

Fortunately she finally saw sense and has moved on. The 'wife' found out although I suspect she doesn't know the whole truth but her and partner are very much happy families which suggests he's done it many times before.

Good point. All kinds of wrong.

I would be judgemental too.

I wouldn't want to see photos any friend of mine masturbating and the fact she thinks it's normal behaviour to show herself doing this would frankly repulse me.

I'd be having nothing more to do with her.

I would distance myself from this. I have done in the past when I had a friend who was sleeping around when she had a young child.

What I found was that I wasn't the only friend responding - some of her friends spoke to her directly about some of the risks she was taking. I personally knew it wouldn't really get through from me as she is very head strong, so I just distanced myself. I think the combination of all our reactions meant she realised she was ostracised herself from friends and she got a grip. I do think it's a wierd addictive swipe swipe world and she has a predisposition to do risky things. I was concerned for her child and worried for her safety. It wasn't married men but tbh some probably were, how would she know and she admitted that. Personal integrity is important IMHO.

Does the man know she’s sharing these pictures and showing them to others? That for me would be the dealbreaker.

Sharing nude photos is bloody stupid, but sharing photos of someone else is appalling behaviour. If the genders were reversed people would be outraged.

I'm not one to sit in moral judgement on things which don't concern me.

I would be taking some very big steps backwards from this friendship for a while just to get my head round it and reassess.

From what you say, it's out of character so I would be wondering if there was something else going on in her life that had prompted this.

So I might not cut the friendship, but I wouldn't instigate any meet ups, and I might have other plans if she suggested anything. I might just stick to catching up via messages for a while and see what occurs.

It could be argued that she hasn't actually done anything illegal or even anything "real", but it's not great what she is doing, and the general lack of concern about the wife, isn't appealing in a friend. I would be wondering if that level of disregard might creep into her real life - i.e. with me!

I would definitely distance myself, aside from the whole lack of morals involved with engaging with a Married man she shouldn’t be showing you unwanted images like that. Why would she think you would want to see that?

Also she’s being very unwise, who knows where those pictures could end up! I’ve always said no one will get those kind of pictures of me even if I’m married, because you never know what could happen in the future and where the photos could end up.

Revenge porn is a thing and even if no-one means to expose you, these things have a way of getting out - phones can be lost/hacked etc. And sharing these kind of photos with multiple men willy nilly is surely increasing the risk of something like that happening.

She definitely doesn’t and she can’t justify it in light of her behaviour. I’d be turning off the oxygen tap on this friendship.

Presumably the bloke involved did not consent to her showing intimate pictures of him to anyone else. She’s also totally out of order for that (and may have committed a crime?)

That's not just a line crossed
She's stomped all over it.
Why in fuck would she think you'd want to see those pics!
I'd be telling her straight then block.

I think my friends would be really startled if I did that!

A friend getting involved with a married man, I could continue the friendship. A friend sending me pornographic pictures of themselves, I couldn't deal with 🤮

This - she is getting a kick out of cheating/not cheating.

Its an emotional affair if not physical, they are both titillaying each other in inappropriate ways. Would she do this with an available man? Nope, because available people live in the real world, not fake pics world.

She sounds mentally unwell. You don't need to fix her.