Aibu about these photos?

Is she having a clear out? My ex parents in law did exactly this, "gave back" ex's "stuff" he just stored it all in the garage. It's probably still there.

Do you have a downstairs loo or a spare room? Have a photo wall - arrange them all in one big group along with other family photos and it’ll be an interesting feature but you wont have to look at it very often.

Oh I loved it when Mil gave me loads of DH. He looked the spit of 2 our kids.

A selection/collage of old family photos is great. Just framed ones of DH as a baby would look a little odd to me.

YANBU, OP. Wouldn't DH's mates take the piss out of him? Is he narcissistic?

The blanket is vile. But I love having old photos up all round the house. We have loads of DH and me, my parents, my in laws and out grandparents and great grandparents from various ages of childhood onwards.

I would try to find locations for the photos which didn't offend me too much. Maybe suggest a photo wall in the hall or something and blend DH's pics in with the rest of the family.

And I'd explain that the blanket is a massive turn off. ("I'm a grown woman. I will not have sex under Thomas the Tank Engine.") And pointing out how weird it all is.

I'm all for "Let people enjoy things" but you need to be able to enjoy them too.

How old is your MIL, OP?

Perhaps she is consciously, or unconsciously, increasingly aware of her own mortality. This is her not wanting her memories to disappear and to live on when she is gone, hence she is giving them to you both for gentle safe-keeping. I hope that makes some sense.

It is a bit weird- especially the blanket!!!

But we do have some childhood photos around- I’ve got adult kids and younger ones too, so have one of those multi frame things and that has a baby photo of each kid plus one of DH and one of me. But in general, no I don’t think childhood photos tend to be a thing unless with a relative who sadly died etc and then that would be the only photo of someone with you that you’d have?

take note ladies! All these photos you take of your children are meaningless and some day a wife won’t even want to see them around her house 😂

I guess I’m a weird one, yup I have my and dh’s baby photos framed and on the wall of our bedroom. Black and white professional photos. So that my kids could see what we looked like. I have a collage of black and white historic family photos of our parents, grandparents and great grandparents again so the kids learn their family history.
Shortly after each dear child reached a sensible age I bundled and gave them back childhood mementos to sort as they so pleased (every report card, birth certificates and immunization records etc.) I’ve NOT doled out their blankets yet…

Fil managed to hand over a full photo album at our wedding during the speaches it was completely cringe worthy. I don't even know where that album is, OMG he went on forever.

My own Dads speach was less than a minute!

I’d get massive ick if my husband suggested putting his 35yr+ baby blanket on our bed, that would be a massive own goal for him.

The baby photos I’d be less bothered about although I’d probs give the frames back and put them in something matching my others.

On my wedding day, my MIL gave me a ton of DH photos, of her pregnant, of him as a baby, of him as a child, "giving these to you as they should be yours now" - I thought it was pretty weird, His life as a child are their memories, not mine.

They are still in the envelope with the wedding cards.

No, it isn't usual OP. I don't think I've ever met anyone (man or woman) with framed photos of themselves as babies/children around the house. It's usually their parents (notably their mums) who do that in their own house. I mean, maybe one photo of a particularly momentus occasion perhaps but other than that it would be considered a bit weird.

Sounds like she's decluttering, will say you doing it eventually. Sad but true.
I'd put the photo in an album they are nice to have for your Kids and DGC.

The throw. Recycle bin ? 😬
Sod putting that in my house for my kids to declutter when I pop it.

If you want more lighthearted, further to my earlier reply about letting DH have some agency in the home, I’ve remembered that my SIL sent a ‘memory’ photo to the group chat today, the whole family smiling 13 years ago. Her, her kids, MIL, DH….. and his Ex. Erm, cheers SIL. What a lovely family reminder for everyone. I’ll come back and let you know if we get the framed version for Christmas 🙄

Before I packed everything as I am moving I had a photo of me in the hall when I was around two. The reason being I have less than a dozen photos of me as a child, nothing else such as a blanket etc, felt unseen and unheard by my now ex h, barely even part of the family and I don't have any family. It felt nice to have me there to see how cute I used to be.

I have DH's various graduation photos up, some are 20 years old. Mine are up too! We also have pics of our siblings. Baby photos I'd put in an album and give the blanket to your kids.

So you get to decide what goes on the walls but your DH can't? Why does he not get an equal say? Where is the compromise?

Sums it up perfectly!

My MIL is similar (not as bad really) and my husband is very good at saying ‘No thanks!’ to his mum 😅

Does anyone on here actually have baby photos of themselves in display?

Yes, we have a 3 photo frame, with a picture of me, DH and DS in each one, all of us around 9 months old. It's uncanny how much DS looks like both of us, top half of his face is me, bottom half is DH.

But yeah, just that one set of photos.

DH's nan keeps sending photos over of him when he was a child, we've put them all in a box intending to put them in an album at some point.