What is it about men bringing masculine provider energy (I.e more money to the table) that provides you with “stability, initiative and loyalty”?
My DH earnt more than me for a short while when we met (I was a teenager) and I now earn much more than him. Never have either of our salaries determined the values we have, the way we treat each other or fundamentally changed how we work as a team. In some of your responses you seem to suggest that it is team work that you are referring to but then again, reiterate that your strengths are in emotional areas so you expect any DP/DH to pick up in your weak area, finances?
I truly believe that in a relationship you have to lean into your strengths, understand your weaknesses and as a couple, work out how those look together but as a prerequisite to any relationship? No, that doesn’t sit well with me. We have one life to live, I’m not going to determine who I spend my life with by how much they can bring to the table financially.
Have boundaries and values you stick to by all means but placing any bets on a man coming in with his big man masculine energy and hoping he’ll remain “loyal” is just naive (at best).
Money does not equal loyalty! Read some of the threads on here and some of these men are the most disloyal of all, they seem to think they can buy women.