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To not let 10yo wear football kit to pub lunch?

115 replies

Haveyouanyjam · 19/04/2025 10:12

Not super fancy but nice pub for lunch with family, AIBU to tell him to take his football kit off and put something a bit smarter on?

Or is that just snobbery?

It’s an all black smart ish kit if that makes any difference…

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Parker231 · 19/04/2025 10:24

Bubblesgun · 19/04/2025 10:18

Not snobbery no. I do excatly the same. I often say to my girls no leggings/tracksuits/hoodies. It s perfevtly reasonable they need to learn how to dress appropriately for an event/venue/ etc

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It’s a pub lunch not a smart restaurant. What would you wear? I’d be in either jeans and a T-shirt or leggings and an oversized hoodie, dependent on the weather.

BuzzYourGirlfriendWoof · 19/04/2025 10:23

Pre-children I would have said, yes, absolutely make them change, but my 9 year old is autistic, and I personally don’t think it’s worth the subsequent meltdown that it would induce in him. If your child is more amenable, then I’d suggest it certainly.

LadyNairne · 19/04/2025 10:23

Sportswear is for sport

YANBU

Indianajet · 19/04/2025 10:23

Clean? No problem.

TwentyTwentyFive · 19/04/2025 10:21

It's a pub lunch and I'm presuming the kit is clean so this just feels like you're causing an argument for arguments sake. It's just clothing at the end of the day.

olympicsrock · 19/04/2025 10:21

Happy child in clean clothes - that would make a better family lunch than a miserable child forced to wear clothes that he doesn’t want to.

Bigearringsbigsmile · 19/04/2025 10:21

Yanbu
Clean jeans and t shirt? Fine
Nice polo shirt? Fine

Football kit- no

Pippa12 · 19/04/2025 10:19

A nice, well fitted matching football kit with clean trainers can look smart. A ill fitting, dirty, over washed non matching kit with scruffy trainers looks the pits.

If it’s just a nice pub lunch and it’s smart I’d pick your battles personally.

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 19/04/2025 10:19

Depends what the general dress code is - t shirts and jeans - then I can’t see what’s wrong with it, but if it’s smarter then no.

(I’m assuming it’s clean and he hasn’t just been playing in it, if he has then no either way)

Bubblesgun · 19/04/2025 10:18

Haveyouanyjam · 19/04/2025 10:12

Not super fancy but nice pub for lunch with family, AIBU to tell him to take his football kit off and put something a bit smarter on?

Or is that just snobbery?

It’s an all black smart ish kit if that makes any difference…

Not snobbery no. I do excatly the same. I often say to my girls no leggings/tracksuits/hoodies. It s perfevtly reasonable they need to learn how to dress appropriately for an event/venue/ etc

Blankscreen · 19/04/2025 10:18

I agree with you.

To my kind it just looks chavvy wearing a football kit out and about.

Parker231 · 19/04/2025 10:16

Is it clean? If yes of course he can wear it to a casual lunch. No different from eating at lunch or with friends.

Lascivious · 19/04/2025 10:15

I’m with you. I never allowed mine to wear football shirts out. Ghastly!

ToKittyornottoKitty · 19/04/2025 10:15

Just follow your usual parenting style, would you normally allow casual dress at a lunch out? It’s just a basic parenting choice.

PinataHeeHaw · 19/04/2025 10:13

YANBU. Will it be dirty from playing football?