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Skanky behaviour.

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whatisforteamum · 18/04/2025 22:05

I could overhear comments about my tea drinking.
I will drink cold herbal tea rather than throw it away.
Apparently it's skanky.Got me thinking what's low standards.?
For me it is
Wearing dirty clothes or shoes.
Poor hygiene especially dirty hands nails or teeth.
What are yours that give you the ick.

OP posts:
Cherrysoup · 19/04/2025 17:49

faerietales · 19/04/2025 17:31

A lot of it is a result of poor mental health or addiction issues, sadly.

I assume so, yes, although I’ve known people who appear (but who am I to know/judge?!) perfectly fine mentally and not addicted to get really obvious and/or obscene tattoos. I know a colleague of my DH had a hard time getting a certain job because of his bulldog tattoo, yet now it’s apparently acceptable to have full sleeves. I’ve seen some really well done ones, but it’s somewhat drastic to get both arms totally covered.

CheltenhamLady · 19/04/2025 17:44

Cold sores? Really? I am willing to bet that you haven't ever suffered from them.

faerietales · 19/04/2025 17:31

Cherrysoup · 19/04/2025 17:30

There was a reel I watched, a young woman had been tattooed all over her face. I can’t remember if it was a drug dealer who held her in some kind of thrall/she was high etc. A very well off guy heard her story and decided to help her. I doubt she will ever be totally free of the ink, but after a few sessions, she looked like she could probably disguise it with makeup. I can’t understand the mentality behind deciding to get your face permanently marked. Maybe you’re right, people do it so they’re unemployable. Pretty extreme, if so!

A lot of it is a result of poor mental health or addiction issues, sadly.

Cherrysoup · 19/04/2025 17:30

Charlize43 · 19/04/2025 17:14

I overheard a woman on a South London bus state loudly, 'Who's gonna employ me looking like this?' She had big blue roses tattooed on the sides of her face from her cheeks to her forehead. She said it defiantly.

I did wonder if face tats were all about making yourself intentionally unemployable.

There was a reel I watched, a young woman had been tattooed all over her face. I can’t remember if it was a drug dealer who held her in some kind of thrall/she was high etc. A very well off guy heard her story and decided to help her. I doubt she will ever be totally free of the ink, but after a few sessions, she looked like she could probably disguise it with makeup. I can’t understand the mentality behind deciding to get your face permanently marked. Maybe you’re right, people do it so they’re unemployable. Pretty extreme, if so!

Charlize43 · 19/04/2025 17:14

Cherrysoup · 19/04/2025 17:03

Face tats, usually men just to say it’s not always women on women. I don’t understand why you would get a tattoo on your face unless it’s cultural. I saw a photo in a group today of somebody (male) with the word cunt tattooed on his arm. I have no idea why anyone would get a very obvious tattoo-on his forearm-of that word. What job does he do that it doesn’t matter?

I overheard a woman on a South London bus state loudly, 'Who's gonna employ me looking like this?' She had big blue roses tattooed on the sides of her face from her cheeks to her forehead. She said it defiantly.

I did wonder if face tats were all about making yourself intentionally unemployable.

Newmeagain · 19/04/2025 17:10

Napface · 19/04/2025 13:03

I have farrow and ball paint but ikea furniture 🤔I'm not sure where that puts me, skank with aspirations maybe?

Wayne and Waynetta are the king and queen of skank

Me too! I love a bit of posh paint, but I also love ikea. Not everything from ikea, but have bought a few things over the years that I have not been able to find elsewhere.

BCBird · 19/04/2025 17:08

I only drink peppermint tea but will often drink it cold. Nothing wrong with that. Spitting is gross as is poor personal hygiene

AdoraBell · 19/04/2025 17:05

Speaking with a mouthful of food 🤢

Cerulean67 · 19/04/2025 17:03

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 19/04/2025 08:26

Do you never make value judgements about anyone or anything? If you don't you are either Mother Theresa or a bot.
Human nature is what it is. No-one is perfect. Very few have poor personal hygiene, or need to pierce a child's ears for poor MH reasons.

You're actually dead wrong about the personal hygiene/poor MH bit.

Cherrysoup · 19/04/2025 17:03

Face tats, usually men just to say it’s not always women on women. I don’t understand why you would get a tattoo on your face unless it’s cultural. I saw a photo in a group today of somebody (male) with the word cunt tattooed on his arm. I have no idea why anyone would get a very obvious tattoo-on his forearm-of that word. What job does he do that it doesn’t matter?

Cherrysoup · 19/04/2025 16:59

Spitting. I hear there’s going to be a stricter rule (law?) about this due to the staining being left by people chewing betel nut (?) and spitting out the remnants/juice produced. Euw.

Leaving a mess in the loo and not bothering to clean up despite a brush being available or loo roll if you’ve left pee on the seat/surrounds.

Dropping litter, just why? In the woods this morning, I saw 2 disposable coffee cups and the plastic lids just dumped. Is it so hard to take them to a bin in the carpark 200 yards away or just keep hold until you find a bin? There’s been a huge increase in dumped full poo bags in the last few days-Easter holidays? Why bag it if you’re then dumping the bag?

Redpeach · 19/04/2025 16:46

Anotherparkingthread · 19/04/2025 15:11

Oh please, chav and chavvy is not a slur. You can be working class and not a chav. You can live in some diabolical shit hole flat block and not be a chav. It isn't a protected characteristic it isn't like being gay or black because you can wake up and decide not to be a chav. 🙄

I grew up in one of the roughest areas you can imagine. And let me tell you, what is offensive, is the holier than thou, patronising, and completely un-self aware post you have created. Where you cast poor working class folks as victims, who lack any ability to self identify, and have no sense of humour.

Chav is a pejorative term

Redpeach · 19/04/2025 16:43

Gall10 · 19/04/2025 12:42

couples asking for money as a wedding present….if you can’t afford a wedding without asking guests to pay for it then I ain’t coming….or maybe I’ll just ignore the request (heaven forbid it’s written as a poem) and buy them a toaster (Asda own make obvs!).

And just keep adding to landfill?

Elsvieta · 19/04/2025 16:39

Smoking. Vaping. Drinking on the street or in the morning. Using bad language loudly in public, especially round children. Tattoos on necks and hands. Nightwear and curlers in public. Littering. Public discussion of your sex life. Inability to go out and have a drink or two without becoming legless and aggressive / embarrassing. Having a rapid succession of boyfriends in and out the house when you have children at home. Putting men before the kids. Living in squalor. Not cold tea.

faerietales · 19/04/2025 15:21

Coming on the internet to sneer at other people's choices when they absolutely nothing to do with you.

Using the word "skanky" to belittle other women. Because it's always women.

Anotherparkingthread · 19/04/2025 15:11

Ilovelurchers · 19/04/2025 14:55

This has become a bit of a horrible thread, hasn't it?

I'm not sure OP intended that - I am sure we can all agree that never washing one's body etc isn't great (unless somebody is suffering mental health issues that make self-care difficult, or living in extreme poverty where they don't have access to washing facilities.)

But a lot of these posts just seem to be an excuse to mock behaviours, brands etc people associate with the working classes. And that's not very nice.

Does anybody genuinely care what brand of clothing or paint other people use, or what type of soft drinks they drink, etc? Bizarre thing to have opinions about.....

And the word "chavvy" is really offensive - I have reported it. Quite surprised anybody still thinks it's OK to use this slur.

Oh please, chav and chavvy is not a slur. You can be working class and not a chav. You can live in some diabolical shit hole flat block and not be a chav. It isn't a protected characteristic it isn't like being gay or black because you can wake up and decide not to be a chav. 🙄

I grew up in one of the roughest areas you can imagine. And let me tell you, what is offensive, is the holier than thou, patronising, and completely un-self aware post you have created. Where you cast poor working class folks as victims, who lack any ability to self identify, and have no sense of humour.

thebear1 · 19/04/2025 15:01

Littering, fly tipping and not picking up after a pet is skanky. Poor hygiene due to laziness rather than disability or lack of access to hygiene products is also unpleasant.

Ilovelurchers · 19/04/2025 14:55

This has become a bit of a horrible thread, hasn't it?

I'm not sure OP intended that - I am sure we can all agree that never washing one's body etc isn't great (unless somebody is suffering mental health issues that make self-care difficult, or living in extreme poverty where they don't have access to washing facilities.)

But a lot of these posts just seem to be an excuse to mock behaviours, brands etc people associate with the working classes. And that's not very nice.

Does anybody genuinely care what brand of clothing or paint other people use, or what type of soft drinks they drink, etc? Bizarre thing to have opinions about.....

And the word "chavvy" is really offensive - I have reported it. Quite surprised anybody still thinks it's OK to use this slur.

Anotherparkingthread · 19/04/2025 14:34

Cold sores. Shouting in the street. Grotty kids. Leggings that are almost transparent. Eating MacDonalds/kebaba/other garbage regularly. Teenage pregnancy. Being ridiculously noisy for no reason in pubs - think men who shout "wayyyyyy" every two minutes. Lovebites.

Any item of clothing with the word juicy written in it. Football shirts. Dogs with rugby ball shaped heads. Flip flops -extra points for slightly platform foamy sole, also crocs. Pandora bracelets. Putting heinz ketchup on everything. Wearing pajamas in the supermarket. Kids scooters rotting in the yard. Gel nails done by somebody up the street. Knock off Louis Vuitton.

That's basically a found poem I've written. I grew up in a shit hole council estate so this reminds me of being a kid.

lactofree · 19/04/2025 14:01

People who put unwanted white goods outside the front of the house until the end of time.

Nousernamesleftatall · 19/04/2025 13:58

BallerinaRadio · 19/04/2025 08:17

People that start threads with the sole intention of just belittling and knocking other people and being unnecessarily unkind 🙄

This.

Catsandcannedbeans · 19/04/2025 13:57

Spitting on the floor, my dad does it and I literally wince every time he does it. To give him credit he tries to not do it around me.

When people pick or rub their eyes in public. This is a personal one but it makes me gag. DP used to do it but I beat that one out of him within a few dates.

PowderMonkeys · 19/04/2025 13:37

Charlize43 · 19/04/2025 13:34

Didn't a recent study conclude that buying IKEA furniture was linked to Satanism and kids growing up around IKEA furniture had a greater chance of becoming a Serial Killer?.. no, of course, it didn't.

Farrow & Ball, lol. The guy at the B&Q Valspar paint mixing station told me he spends all day making up colours from the Farrow & Ball paint swatch... Is he King of the Skanks?

Maybe he’s Satan? Satin Gloss Satan?

Charlize43 · 19/04/2025 13:34

Didn't a recent study conclude that buying IKEA furniture was linked to Satanism and kids growing up around IKEA furniture had a greater chance of becoming a Serial Killer?.. no, of course, it didn't.

Farrow & Ball, lol. The guy at the B&Q Valspar paint mixing station told me he spends all day making up colours from the Farrow & Ball paint swatch... Is he King of the Skanks?

lottiegarbanzo · 19/04/2025 13:31

Skanky Is a useful word. It’s quite a strong accusation - a 90s version of sluttish, slovenly.

Drinking your own cold tea is perhaps eccentric, frugal or just practical. There’s nothing nasty or dirty about it.

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