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At what age did your baby/ child regularly sleep through the night?

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Dellspoem · 18/04/2025 18:47

I have a 33 month old and an 8 month old. I’m after a cross section of answers as I’m going crazy with exhaustion!!

DD is almost 3 and has never slept through regularly. We have had a handful of nights where she’s slept 12am-5am.

Is this normal or am I being unreasonable to expect her to sleep through the night?

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Allthegoodusernamesareused · 18/04/2025 20:15

DD1 - 6 months.
DD2 - 5 years.

I can count on one hand the number of times DD1 had me up in the night. DD2 would have been an only child if she had been my first, I've never known exhaustion like it. It does pass though, she's 14 now and I have the opposite problem!

steppemum · 18/04/2025 20:13

3 DC - all fully breastfed until 1 year. Slept in basket by my bed until 6-7 months, then went into own room.

DC 1 did 10pm - 6am from 6 weeks. He had the occasional night wake up, but he just gradually extended that night time. No training/CC etc. He fed a LOT during the day, was a big baby and pretty much only ever woke for food so once he dropped a feed he slept. He also dropped day time naps early.

DC2 woke up at 1 am 2 am 4 am 5 am 7 am every single bloody night until she was 7 months. Wanted to feed, but only had a couple of slurps and then slept again. Once I started her on solids and she was eating well, I started to offer her water instead of milk at 2 am 3 am 5 am etc. Within 3 nights she stopped waking unless she was hungry and so slept 10 pm - 7 am by about 8-9 months.

DC 3 - again only woke for milk, so woke to feed a couple of times a night for a long time. Then dropped the night feeds. So at about 7-8 months she was pretty much doing 10pm - 6 am.
But she would also sometimes just wake up and need resettling, and she did that a couple of times a week until she was 6 or 7 years old.

Mushroo · 18/04/2025 20:13

This thread is slightly terrifying as I’m about to ttc my second and genuinely didn’t realise it could Be so bad.

For my first from about 13 months (with just one wake up from about 7 months).

We did sleep training and I have zero regrets. I cannot function with no sleep

Marmiteontoastgirlie · 18/04/2025 20:13

Starlight40 · 18/04/2025 19:42

1st child 11 weeks, 2nd child 7 years old and 3rd child 8 weeks.x

Wow did you do anything differently for #2?

Historyofwolves · 18/04/2025 20:09

Mulledjuice · 18/04/2025 19:39

Honestly I think people who say they followed the GF (or whatever) "routine"and that resulted in their baby sleeping through the night before, say, 18 months (at least) are either omitting to say they also did controlled crying/ some form of sleep training, or massively overestimating how much "routine" can do by itself.

You can be incredibly consistent in schedule and still have a baby that doesn't "sleep through" more than the medical definition of 5 hours/night

Nope. In my sample of 2, they did what the book said they would do when I implemented the recommendations. I was very strict on wake windows etc which was hard on me and left me with little flexibility but the pay off was worth it. Very few people would think controlled crying was acceptable under 6 months, if at all, so I think you're wrong there.

I'm pretty firmly of the belief that you can't be all 'go with the flow' and expect decent night time sleep.

moose17 · 18/04/2025 20:09

Around 9 months

Parker231 · 18/04/2025 20:07

Mulledjuice · 18/04/2025 19:39

Honestly I think people who say they followed the GF (or whatever) "routine"and that resulted in their baby sleeping through the night before, say, 18 months (at least) are either omitting to say they also did controlled crying/ some form of sleep training, or massively overestimating how much "routine" can do by itself.

You can be incredibly consistent in schedule and still have a baby that doesn't "sleep through" more than the medical definition of 5 hours/night

Sleep training doesn’t have to involve letting them cry. One of the reasons we used a sleep consultant was that we wanted a good sleep routine for DT’s but we didn’t want to leave them crying.
The biggest thing which helped us was moving DT’s into their own bedrooms as we were all disturbing each other.

Dontknowwhattodowithmyselfnow · 18/04/2025 20:05

6, 3.5 and currently 2.5 and never!

Oldmothershrubboard · 18/04/2025 20:03

4 years but both since diagnosed with ADHD and this was one thing they said was a good indicator. I should have known!

Historyofwolves · 18/04/2025 20:02

Both 10 weeks, with a dream feed around 11pm.

Routine in place from 6 weeks, no crying and not GF, just balancing feeds and naps. I am aghast at some of the replies on this thread! I thought by 1 most would do a full night!

Sorrysunflower · 18/04/2025 20:00

When they started school.

SouthLondonMum22 · 18/04/2025 19:58

Just because it doesn't work well for some babies? I feel it's just like most things when it comes to babies/toddlers etc they are different and will respond to things differently.

I don't think mine would've slept through as early as they did without following GF/Baby Whisperer.

Edit: Sorry, that's for @Mulledjuice

Happyhappyday · 18/04/2025 19:57

AprilBunny · 18/04/2025 19:12

I have 3 DC, they slept a shortish night at 8 weeks eg. 10-5 ish. This gradually got longer and they slept 12 hours at 12 weeks and woke up about once or twice a year if they were ill or teething etc.
I was really lucky sleep wise.

This is pretty much what my DC did. 8 hours by 8 weeks pretty consistently 12 hours by 12 weeks. And it was a proper 12 hours - no feeding/crying etc.
At 33 months, just bloody sleep train! I wonder if thinking of them in months rather than as an almost 3yo makes you feel like they are still a baby?

Mulledjuice · 18/04/2025 19:52

SouthLondonMum22 · 18/04/2025 19:49

No controlled crying here. GF/Baby Whisperer combo just worked incredibly well every time for us.

Doesn't mean it will work well for every baby though, of course it won't.

That's what I'm saying. The routine can't do it all by itself.

SouthLondonMum22 · 18/04/2025 19:49

Mulledjuice · 18/04/2025 19:39

Honestly I think people who say they followed the GF (or whatever) "routine"and that resulted in their baby sleeping through the night before, say, 18 months (at least) are either omitting to say they also did controlled crying/ some form of sleep training, or massively overestimating how much "routine" can do by itself.

You can be incredibly consistent in schedule and still have a baby that doesn't "sleep through" more than the medical definition of 5 hours/night

No controlled crying here. GF/Baby Whisperer combo just worked incredibly well every time for us.

Doesn't mean it will work well for every baby though, of course it won't.

Peony1897 · 18/04/2025 19:49

Both my kids slept through (7 to 7, give or take an hour) by 12 months.

FedupofArsenalgame · 18/04/2025 19:48

Dellspoem · 18/04/2025 18:47

I have a 33 month old and an 8 month old. I’m after a cross section of answers as I’m going crazy with exhaustion!!

DD is almost 3 and has never slept through regularly. We have had a handful of nights where she’s slept 12am-5am.

Is this normal or am I being unreasonable to expect her to sleep through the night?

3.5 years , 8 weeks and 4 months.The 2 that slept earlier were both breasfed

neverbeenskiing · 18/04/2025 19:47

DD about a year old
DS was was over 4 years old

OopsyDaisie · 18/04/2025 19:46

JackJarvisEsq · 18/04/2025 19:34

6 weeks. We thought it was a fluke due to being on holiday but it happened every night since

she'd happily still snooze for 12 hours if we let her

edit to add she was a terrible napper

Edited

Strange! My first one who slept full nights was also a terrible napper! Second was a great napper but horrible night sleeper (and I realised how good I had it with the terrible naps!!!!)

Starlight40 · 18/04/2025 19:42

1st child 11 weeks, 2nd child 7 years old and 3rd child 8 weeks.x

OopsyDaisie · 18/04/2025 19:41

Evey child is different. My first at 6 weeks slept from 7pm to 5am with only a feed at 12am. I thought "how easy is this!"
My second though..... totally different story! From 3 months he started waking quite a few times, by the time he was 6 months or so he was waking every 1:30 to 2hours! It was hell on Earth (I was back to work at that point, although WFH as it was Covid time, but I was definitely a Mumbie).
Hang in there!
ETA: When he was 9 months I couldn't take it anymore and did controlled crying (which i thought I would NEVER do). It worked and he was only waking up once for milk, then bt 1yo he was not waking up even once!

Mulledjuice · 18/04/2025 19:39

Honestly I think people who say they followed the GF (or whatever) "routine"and that resulted in their baby sleeping through the night before, say, 18 months (at least) are either omitting to say they also did controlled crying/ some form of sleep training, or massively overestimating how much "routine" can do by itself.

You can be incredibly consistent in schedule and still have a baby that doesn't "sleep through" more than the medical definition of 5 hours/night

123456abcdef · 18/04/2025 19:38

Dc1 6.5 YEARS!
dc2 around 4 months but dc1 was only 2.5 so I was still up anyway.

NominatedNameOfTheDay · 18/04/2025 19:38

6 months after sleep training. I know it’s controversial but I would do it again.

He’s 17 months now and having a bit of a regression (takes longer to coax to sleep, cries if he thinks you’re leaving) but still generally sleeps through once he’s nodded off.

Ladamesansmerci · 18/04/2025 19:37

Dellspoem · 18/04/2025 18:47

I have a 33 month old and an 8 month old. I’m after a cross section of answers as I’m going crazy with exhaustion!!

DD is almost 3 and has never slept through regularly. We have had a handful of nights where she’s slept 12am-5am.

Is this normal or am I being unreasonable to expect her to sleep through the night?

Mine slept through from 10 weeks until she was about 6 months. Then sleep went to shit for maybe 2 months, and she was awake every 90 mins and it was like having a newborn again. Then she dropped to once a night, then the last couple of weeks she's slept through, but now she has a cold so is waking all the time 🫠 So at 10mo my answer is maybe it will happen soon, maybe it won't, and who knows whether it will last anyway!