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At what age did your baby/ child regularly sleep through the night?

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Dellspoem · 18/04/2025 18:47

I have a 33 month old and an 8 month old. I’m after a cross section of answers as I’m going crazy with exhaustion!!

DD is almost 3 and has never slept through regularly. We have had a handful of nights where she’s slept 12am-5am.

Is this normal or am I being unreasonable to expect her to sleep through the night?

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Tbrh · 18/04/2025 22:54

9 months for 12 hours, then stopped at 2.5! 🤨

Bogfrog · 18/04/2025 22:47

8 weeks 10pm - morning, then 12 hours straight from 16 weeks. Gina Ford worked a treat.

TwoBlueFish · 18/04/2025 22:46

DS1 about 8 weeks, DS2 about 2 years to consistently sleep through.

TiredEyesToday · 18/04/2025 22:45

have an 8 year old who still won’t reliably sleep through the night…. This thread makes me want to weep…

angelcake20 · 18/04/2025 22:43

DS 6 weeks, DD 9 months.

Londonrach1 · 18/04/2025 20:51

3-4 months... although dh and I had the whole thing sorted to work to us by 2 weeks we thought.....I went to bed 7.30..he fed, changed her and brought her up at 10.30 then slept in spare bedroom...I didn't wake more than an eye at 10.30...i did the 1am and 4am feed and nappy change in 15 mins with pre prep machine. Dh slept 10.30-7. I slept 7.30-1 then woke 1 for 15 mins then 4 for 15 mins but this was only until 3-4 months. We felt we mastered it...then dd hit 8 months and woke every hour for a month to chat....she slept from 9 months until 8 years so far .. My poor dsis didn't get her second to sleep through until 11 years... Nothing you do makes a difference.. it's just luck.

YourNewScroller · 18/04/2025 20:44

5 and a half year old sleeps with me and wakes regularly. 3 year old has slept well since 11 months. For those who started sleeping through 5 years plus, what changed / worked? I hoped school would be the game changer but no luck!

SP2024 · 18/04/2025 20:39

Neither of mine slept through the night til well over a year. Reliably…I’d say my now 3 year old probably wakes less times per week than he doesn’t. And when he wakes it’s generally a quick cuddle and tuck in rather than hours of shushing and patting! My 18 month old is slightly better than my eldest was at this age. Probably wakes more times than he doesn’t but sometimes self settles back to sleep before I can go in.

Lovelynames123 · 18/04/2025 20:39

Both of mine slept from 11pm-5/6am consistently from around 3 months, some slight regressions over time but only lasting weeks iirc. Dd2 was also an excellent napper, if she was tired she slept...more annoying has been in recent years, now 11, where she's come into my bed in the night, although that finally seems to have stopped!

Genevieva · 18/04/2025 20:35

Best sleeper: 8 months
Worst sleeper: 51 months.

Petrie999 · 18/04/2025 20:34

Mulledjuice · 18/04/2025 19:39

Honestly I think people who say they followed the GF (or whatever) "routine"and that resulted in their baby sleeping through the night before, say, 18 months (at least) are either omitting to say they also did controlled crying/ some form of sleep training, or massively overestimating how much "routine" can do by itself.

You can be incredibly consistent in schedule and still have a baby that doesn't "sleep through" more than the medical definition of 5 hours/night

Completely agree with this. Babies have wildly different sleep needs especially as they get older and so a routine does not address the problems that occur when too much sleep is being aimed for with a child who needs less. Plus does not account for temperament. We had a solid routine with mine from very early, it didn't help him to sleep through. What worked for us was maximizing sleep pressure and stopping breastfeeding overnight. Sleeps through 80% of time and has done so since around 14m, with periods of wakefulness usually as he has needed to drop day sleep or has been teething. I will never know if sleep training would have made things easier, but many I know who ST have had to redo it many times and were unsure how to adapt when their fantastic sleeper started fighting sleep in toddlerhood.

Ahwig · 18/04/2025 20:34

Mine was 3 years old and it seemed he needed to be mentally tired as it was the week he started at nursery. Physically he was super active and walked at 9 months but no apparently he needed the brain to be exhausted.

nopenotplaying · 18/04/2025 20:34

33 months, I just had to work that out.

In answer to your question my twin 2 is nearly 66 months and I’m still waiting 😂

IButtleSir · 18/04/2025 20:33

Mine started doing it semi-regularly at about 22 months. She's now 28 months and will sleep through most nights unless she's ill.

Swiftie1878 · 18/04/2025 20:30

8 months.

Ponderingwindow · 18/04/2025 20:29

Around 7 years old she learned to consistently put herself back to sleep. I know she still woke up in the night. She still does.

she has ASD. The sleep deprivation was rough on DH and myself. It was especially rough on me because I also have ASD and struggle to fall asleep once woken.

Scaredworriedandalone · 18/04/2025 20:27

DS is 5 and wakes up every single night still. After taking a solid 2 hours to put to sleep in the first place.

And DD (9) will on average get in my bed once a week in the middle of the night.

So in my experience not for a long ass time..

Octavia64 · 18/04/2025 20:27

I defined through the night as at least six hours with no wake ups.

about 8 months but with periods of not doing so again while teething, nightmares, etc.

Notaboutthebass · 18/04/2025 20:24

Both mine were 8 weeks old.

BitterTits · 18/04/2025 20:24

Both 5, at around the time they started real learning at school.

LunchtimeNaps · 18/04/2025 20:23

Both mine started at 8 weeks. Formula fed.

Retrogamer · 18/04/2025 20:20

I think my first slept through with a dry nappy and no night feeds from 8months.

My 1 year old is yet to sleep more than 3 hours at a time. Recently he's inconsolable around the 4am mark. I'm struggling tbh and i don't know what to do other than wait until the night he does sleep through.

AliBaliBee1234 · 18/04/2025 20:19

10 weeks 🫣 sorry

Ellepff · 18/04/2025 20:19

DS 1 started to sleep at least 7h from age 4and a half. Still have some rough nights (5 and a half) but nowhere near as many. DS2 did the same around 13months or so and vast majority of the time (almost 3 now) sleeps to about 5am and crawls in with us, sometimes wakes for a drink of water around 11pm too.

Growth spurts or being ill they both will need a parent all night. It is what it is. Seeing how well the younger slept made me realize it’s just how we’re born.

troppibambini6 · 18/04/2025 20:16

Dc1 10 weeks
dc2 6 months
dc3 6 weeks
dc4 4 years