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‘D’ H really upset me regarding wedding pics and not looking the like the same person anymore

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oilump · 18/04/2025 18:26

I’m not sure if I’m being sensitive here but just visiting my parents with my H and kids and my H picked up our wedding album.

I did immediately think, ah why look at it now.

he said to my DD, come and look at when mummy ‘ was ‘ a princess. He then looked up and said ‘ emphasis on ‘ was ‘’.. and did a nasty little laugh. I let it go.

then he was looking at the pics and my dad came by and he said ‘ who is this woman in these pics, I don’t recognise her ? ‘ and laughed. He said it a few times.

I lost him and told him to F off and took the book out of his hands.

he knows how much I struggle with how my body has changed after two kids. He knows how much I’m fighting to look like myself again. He knows how much it hurts every single day and how much I hate myself.

is this really something to laugh about in front of my family ?

I just feel like it’s a massive betrayal.

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arcticpandas · 18/04/2025 18:35

He's being really vile. It has happened that my DH has said that I was a real beauty in my twenties (now 45). I don't really care (he's not trying to be hurtful or anything, just clueless) it doesn't get to me but for good manners I tell him that I remember when he had more hair and a flat belly.

OVienna · 18/04/2025 18:34

What an absolute twat.

Merryoldgoat · 18/04/2025 18:33

JackieDaytonaLuckyBrews · 18/04/2025 18:31

The more threads I read on MN, the more I'm convinced that men actually just hate women.
He's a spiteful cunt OP. I'm sure there are numerous ways he had changed since his wedding day (including becoming a nasty twat obviously) and you haven't sat and pointed them out. Maybe you should.

It’s very upsetting isn’t it?

My DH would never say anything like that to me. It’s really cruel.

oilump · 18/04/2025 18:32

I’m so surprised. He never ever says stuff like this, he also never comments negatively on how I look. He knows how unhappy I am and how much I try to do about it.

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ginasevern · 18/04/2025 18:32

I'd have said at least I haven't turned into a sarcastic cunt.

JackieDaytonaLuckyBrews · 18/04/2025 18:31

The more threads I read on MN, the more I'm convinced that men actually just hate women.
He's a spiteful cunt OP. I'm sure there are numerous ways he had changed since his wedding day (including becoming a nasty twat obviously) and you haven't sat and pointed them out. Maybe you should.

TheseCalmSeas · 18/04/2025 18:31

7 years is a perfect time to divorce

romany4 · 18/04/2025 18:30

That's really nasty. I'm not surprised you told him to fuck off.

Is he always so horrible?

IceColdChardonayPls · 18/04/2025 18:29

That’s really shitty.

My husband probably thinks it, which upsets me enough, but he would never say it.

Mulledjuice · 18/04/2025 18:29

Yeah that's nasty of him. Does he look the same?

Mrsbloggz · 18/04/2025 18:28

I would be pointing out all the ways in which he has changed for the worse over those 7 years.
Or was he always this unpleasant?

W0tnow · 18/04/2025 18:28

Yeah, that’s mean.

ICantBeDoingWithThat · 18/04/2025 18:28

I'd have walloped him round the head with the album for that. What an arsehole.

oilump · 18/04/2025 18:27

FYI we got married 7 years ago, so it’s not like a life time or anything.

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