Parents come to stay, but then bugger off out

I'd appreciate guests going out for a couple of hours a day if they were staying over for 2 weeks. I wouldn't want to spend 2 weeks solid with anyone.
I would also go out for walks myself if I was staying at the home of someone who wanted to stay in. I can't manage a full day indoors, I get really restless.

Ahhh, yes the lack of good coffee would indeed finish me off

@Ayeayeaye25ahhhh! My inlaws at least have a coffee machine, all is forgiven 😂

I am like this we all need our space. MIL used to want us all sitting around the house in front of the TV that FIL was watching loudly all day. You could barely hold or hear a conversation, we were all cramped up on top of each other, the telly was blaring and the coffee wasn’t to my taste (mellow birds or coffee and chicory). I craved fresh air, space, exercise and a decent cup of coffee and chit chat with DP without having to repeat everything three times and explain everything. The kids would be bouncing off the walls if I didn’t get them out for a couple of hours a day but MIL wanted us all in the house for every minute of the weekend.

I wonder if you're like me and my inlaws but in reverse? I go a bit mad and fidgety sitting around all day with no exercise. I do sometimes have to take myself off for a brisk walk when it becomes clear there are no plans to go anywhere. They are in their 80s though!

Like I said, I couldn’t give a shit if people wear PJ’s all day for the rest of the year. So what are YOU on about. OP’s question was about her parents. So that is what we’re replying to.

Did you ask your parents if they wanted to watch the TV program? If not then you are a poor host and I’m glad that they felt able to go out and do something enjoyable.

Of course, if I feel relaxed around them and same vice versa.. it shows a relaxed and close relationship.

I know but you wouldn't do it while you had visitors staying would you?

What are you on about?
I’m on about OP and people in general being allowed to slob around in pjs. The poster I was replying to was being snobby about it. I’m not on about the parents at all.

It's not her parents day off though is it? They are presumably retired and so can have as many slobby PJ days as they like!

Careful what you wish for there here for 2 weeks
id discuss plans with them in the morning think you’ve just presumed they wouldn’t go out and want to be with u 24/7

They’re there for two weeks, you’ve done loads with them already, their granddaughter is out and you’re sobbing around watching TV - I suspect they’re there to spend time with their grandchild, not diss about with you watching TV during the daytime. They have their own life and their own routines and preferences where they live, they’re staying in someone else’s home for two whole weeks with their routines out the window. I’d be delighted if they took whatever breaks they needed. Going out for a walk is much more of a break than sitting around watching TV during the day.

It might be, yeah. Who cares what people do in their own home. By themselves. OP had her parents staying, and is confused why they didn’t ask her to go for a walk or even why they went for a walk. Why ask someone who is in their PJ’s watching TV in the afternoon. Most people would assume OP was doing what she wanted to do, and not getting dressed to go outside.

I’m not on about the walk, that’s totally normal to need breaks on such a long visit.
It was the slobbing in pjs watching daytime tv comment, when that’s such a normal thing to do for most people on days off.

Two weeks is a long time for a visit.
If you've already done lots of stuff together maybe they just thought they'd give you a break?

You need to communicate.
If they’re with you for two weeks, I can imagine them having a convo before arrival saying to each other ‘we mustn’t get in their hair, make sure they feel like they still have their own space etc’. Two weeks is a long time to stay at someone’s home.
If you want more time with them, you should just say so!

OP was so confused why her parents left to go out that she started a thread about it. When most of us can see the obvious reason.

I couldn’t give a shit if OP or anyone else wears PJ’s all day. Or watches TV. But I do understand why her parents went for a 2 hr walk.

What happens when you go visit them? Do they entertain you, or do you go off and do things?

I really hate it when I visit people and they put the tv on. I find it really rude and if local to me I would go home. I’m a busy person (as are most people) and I do not want to spend my time watching tv.
Your parents may be different and love Tv and you did say your mum was watching it with you but just giving you a different perspective. Could they have gone out as they can’t stand the tv?

God there’s some stuck-up Hyacinth Buckets on this thread.. 😂

The issue of ADLs (getting dressed) and routine is very important but for those that do not have jobs/roles that create a routine and structure for them. Common examples are retirees who no longer have the routine of work, commuting, family responsibilities. No reason to actually shower, dress etc so can quickly slip into decline.

OP who has a family will very much a have a routine - whether it be the school run, work, household tasks etc. An occasional day or weekend to lounge in pyjamas will not spell disaster for her.

Bit of a weird thread - total non issues.

There is nothing wrong with having a chill out day in your pjs when your parents are around esp if staying for a fortnight and you have been out loads.
There is nothing wrong with parents going for a walk esp if staying for a fortnight and you have done loads together.

For a couple that must be now used to just living as a couple, spending time with a family may feel loud and claustrophobic. Going for a daily walk may also be part of their routine.

Let them go for their walk, you potter and chill at home and perhaps suggest you all catch go with the series in the afternoon together.

To me, that sounds like you wanted to be left alone to watch your programme - so maybe your parents felt a bit awkward sitting there while you were occupied.

I know when I stay at my parents and their watching their “shows” it does feel a bit odd just sitting there so I tend to go off and do something else.

Jeans are comfies 😁