To be fed up with people assuming you can afford everything

I have to agree with this. People just reply with what has worked for them personally, be it expensive or cheap. It's not sneering or spiteful to suggest a supplement that has worked for their animal or a nice pair of shoes they like when they have absolutely no idea of your budget. Maybe be upfront before asking -you don't need to announce your salary, but just say I'm on a limited budget or I only want to spend a certain amount.

This!!

people aren't clairvoyant, they will tell you what has worked for them or think will work for you.

When your budget is restricted, then you need to say so. Why would people suggest something that subpar or hasn't worked for them just in case you have a lower budget than they do?

This is a YOU problem, not a THEM problem

@Coronationchicken34 I find it’s always best to be upfront what your budget is - particularly pertinent on big ticket items too- many posters often say things like looking to move to xxx area , 4 bed, garage and then reveal there budget will buy them no such thing, unless looking at wreck -same goes for ‘looking for a nice dress in such and such style to wear to a wedding- lots of £180 suggestions when their budget is £60-which to be honest is a bit of a waste of everyone posting unsuitable suggestions. Don’t be embarrased either, you looking for something that might work but under £12 may just be the thing plenty of others are looking for too .

People who know you in RL should be more understanding and aware but you can't blame people on and Internet forum for giving advice based on their own circumstances unless you specifically put a budget in your post imo.

Absolutely. Me and my partner both work full time and have 2 kids and a cat lol Our mortgage is low but we have been paying it off now for 20 years and it needed gutting out from top to bottom which we did. However, some areas of the house are looking tired again, so need updating. It's never ending 🤦‍♀️ I like bargains. Even if I had all the money in the world, I would still want a bargain lol. We live in the North East so wages are pretty rubbish to be fair.
We do get to do nice things, but have to save up for ages for it. Whereas I have friends who go on breaks away and holidays like 4 -6 times a year ( I honestly couldn't be bothered that many times in a year - but each to their own). The same friends are out every weekend in the pub as well. I can't afford that. I'd rather curl up on my sofa, with a bag of Crisps and a movie 😆

3 x jobs sounds hard.

29k isn't much more than minimum wage, so I understand why you are struggling, but unless people know what you earn how would they know you can't afford £30 a month? £7.50 a week, for some if it's something that's a priority they'd find it in their budget and drop something else. You don't have that flexibility, but you can't expect people to know that

Most people on here don't have £££ or €€€ to spend. When posters complain about being stuck on holiday with CF piss-taking bastards, the advice is always 'Change your flight!'. Like they always have a spare £500 in the bank to book an emergency flight back home.

Sorry OP but I agree with this. I’m sorry you’re struggling financially but people aren’t mind readers 🤷🏼‍♀️

Agree. If you’re asking for advice, people will give advice based on their own experiences. If you’re only looking for low budget advice it’s probably best to state that up front so you’re not wasting everyone’s time.

Three jobs sounds like hell. Do you live in an expensive area?

If you're asking for advice but struggling financially, it probably makes sense to say so up front, so nobody wastes their time giving advice you can't follow.

If you're asking for advice/solutions, then people will reply with what has worked for them. How are they supposed to know you can't afford it? Maybe clarify your budget next time.

Not sure how you’d expect people to help and advise on skin issues if you don’t have a bit of ££ to spend on it - why bother posting?

YANBU generally but that one seems silly.

Yes I hear you op. We are considered the poor relation in both our families so conversations can be difficult with "oh just do this xyz it's very affordable" for them not for us. It can get very tiring explaining or nodding along so we just keep our distance. What's difficult is they view us as making life harder for ourselves on purpose. When they just cannot fathom not having the money they do. Or they view it as they have worked harder than us 🙄

One relative actually thought we didn't enjoy holidays and that's why we didn't go regularly.

Yes, I'm a single parent on disability benefits so money is tight, but we manage. I dont moan about it, i don't discuss it, after 10 years I'm used to it and dont really think much about my professional salary l had.
Met friend for coffee. She told me about her 5 holidays she'd booked for this year and then said 'you should book a cruise they're very disabled friendly'. I said it was a bit out of my price range. Then it was 'can't imagine my life without this car now, you should get a car again' (it's a brand new big car). I've told her 1. I can't afford it, 2. I'm no longer able to drive for medical reasons. Every meet up is the same. I don't think she understands they are a two income high earning family and that's very different to one low income.
To make it worse she's a senior social worker so you'd think she'd be more understanding (just hope she doesn't talk to her clients like that). I try to keep my distance as much as possible nowadays from people like that.
You do see it all the time on here. Go private, buy a second, book a holiday you'll feel better, buy a bigger house.